barbiegirltc Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 My boyfriend and i have been together for more than year now. We have been in a LDR since january 2008 (last yr). He is away in med school on the Caribbean island. He comes back home every four months and this is the LAST semester till he comes back home foreverr =). Yesterday he had an major big exam that he was really stressed and worried about. I emailed him saturday night wishing him all the best for the exam. usually i don't get very cranky and moody but this time i was so scared for my chem exam. So i wrote an cranky email to my babyy. I wrote as a joke to him that he "better come back home in 40 days or else i am going to end up marrying *an indian actor* (which will never happen) lol u know i will wait for until the very end..unless u decide at the end that u like someone else..OUCH! if that happens let me know babyy lol..sorry for such a cranky email i am so stressed about my exam love" . I just wanted to brighten up his day if he was sad or something. Because usually when i say it in person he says "thank god im free now lol". We have a future, and we both decided that we will get married after i graduate from college. My parents are wanting me to get engaged to him soon to and he knows that. Once he is back in cali for his internship i will get engaged. My thing now is that i have been crying lately, and getting really worried about him. We haven't talked for 9 days and usually it goes for more than that. But i feel ehhh cuz i emailed him twice and was expecting him to call me after his exam. I do not know if i am overreacting and thinking that he took that joke seriously or he is jus plain tired and will call me whenever he gets a chance. ][ He does call me whenever he can, but whenever his exam dates are near we do not communicate for a week.][ i do not know how to make myself feel better, i keep thinking he won't call i do not know why. at the same time my heart keeps telling me how stressed he is to see his grades =/ any suggestions will help thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
Bearandsue Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 If Its usually that long between times you talk, there is nothing to worry about. If he is stressed just give him some space. He will call when he is ready. IMO Link to post Share on other sites
Nicodaemos Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 When you arent able to talk to him, and he does call, its great right? But after its even harder than it was before for a while, cause you are again reminded of how alone you feel without him there. Well, I imagine its the same way for him, and maybe he feels that while talking to you would be great, give him the strength he needs for the day, the next day it may be worse, because he would be missing you that much more. Yes, give him some time to clear things. Maybe his phone fell in the toilet or something. I even ran mine over with my own truck before. Yes, I know there is email, but again, that short time of feeling even worse may be too much, and he may see that. It may seem selfish of him, to some people, that he would only think of himself like that, but, if he didnt, and he was thinking of you, how would things end up if he booched his exams because of it? Or, if they are already done, he just doesnt want to add anymore stress to his life right now. Some may argue, that if he truly loved you, it wouldnt matter how bad things got for him, he would always make sure you are happy. Except, not everyone is strong enough to do that. Some fall easily, some are harder to push over than a mountain. So, calm down, your families sound like they approve of things, and if anything bad were to happen to him, you would have already found out. He is fine, just stressed, and needs to deal with it in his way. It is just so much harder because of the distance. Relax, things will get better. Life with another is many times harder than life alone, because if one has a problem, then both have a problem. But, the good times far outweigh the bad. Post here as much as you want and need, nobody is going to cry foul. We all understand how hard things get sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author barbiegirltc Posted March 13, 2009 Author Share Posted March 13, 2009 Thank you for your reply =) he did call me two days ago and everything was fine. he ended up sleeping at 7:30 cause he was so tired from studying the whole weekend. Once again thank you so much =) I am almost there...till he comes back home forever Link to post Share on other sites
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