completebozo Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 I've been with my wife for 7 years now, and I love her to pieces, there is only one thing about her i would change. Once she has started a talk/discussion/argument, she will never conceed a point, ever. It bothers me to no end. No matter what I do, regardless of the intention, end result, what have you, she percieves any explanation/response to what she says to be a personal slight. If we have an argument and she thinks I am wrong, not only will she resist any attempt at explanation/mitigating circumstances, she will also insist that what ever the issue is I did it only to cause her grief. I know that the stereotype is that the man is always wrong, but in the beginning of our marriage we would actually discuss what went wrong, why, and what we can do better. Now, it doesn't matter what goes wrong, if some thing is wrong, A: I did it, and B: I did it be cause I am "a lazy, self obsessed jerk who only takes joy in watching her suffer", and what I can do better consists of a several thing I can do to myself that I can't repete in polite society. And I've been sick lately, and nothing on earth, not even a doctor, can convince her that I'm not faking. I haven't kept anything but water and gatorade down in two day, and she insists that this is me trying to get attention. And the only thing she can keep saying is don't be sick at work, just stop pretending at work. I can't take it anymore. How do I get her off of the cross and back into talking to me. P.S. - I know that this writing paints an extremly poor representation of her, but, previous gripes aside, I cannot imagine what I did to deserve someone as wonderful as her. Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 You know, you might consider something I read recently. It was about dealing with teenage girls, but I liked the whole concept. LET her have the last word. It need not change your mind, or your views, anything at all. Give it up, stop the argument, conceed but change nothing. Often - all they really are fighting for is the last word. Take it. It means something to them, and not to you. Either that or you might consider having rules for discussions/argument/disputes. Ive learned a lot about that here. Rules can include no name calling or even TIME Limits. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts