hassan Posted May 3, 2000 Share Posted May 3, 2000 Hey i msged you guys before about my break up. But now she aint even my freind anymore. I thought that when me and my ex would break up that we still would be good freinds. It seems like yesterday we were so tight and now she dont even recognize me. I am still nuts bout her. people come up to me and tell me things bout what she has done with her new b/f. AND IT HURTS LIKE A BITCH my heart just gets torn apart and i haver no clue what to do . In sceince class she never talks to me and says i am doing my work but talks to other ppl. Why does this hurt and is there any solution besides being busy or chill with friends etc..... Link to post Share on other sites
Alex Posted May 3, 2000 Share Posted May 3, 2000 Dude, I am feeling the very same way. I know how badly it hurts, because I gave this girl everything, and then she took it and left. One week she was thanking me for being the "greatest best friend ever" because we were taking it easy and trying to just be friends for a while. Less than a week after that, she met someone else and is interested in at least pursuing it a little bit. AND, she can't be friends with me because it wasn't working. So while I don't see her with anyone on a constant basis, my imagination has been running wild. Does she really like him? Does she say/do the same things with him that she did with me? Will she wake up at some point when things don't work out, and come crawling back? You can't hold onto the hopes, because you'll never get over things that way, but everyone who knew us has told me that it won't be long before she comes crawling back. But if I live that way, I won't get over this pain anytime soon. You have to look out for yourself. You may not stop loving her soon, and that's OK, because there is nothing you can do to turn off those feelings. If things work out properly, you will still love her deep down and she will come back, and then you will be two more experienced people who CHOOSE to be together because they have seen life apart from one another. I haven't yet found anything that can completely take your mind off of her, or stop you from feeling crappy. I feel the same way. But you have to figure that she said some serious things at one point, and if that is what she meant in her heart, she may come back to that. If she didn't mean it, you don't want her back anyway. Do whatever feels right for you to get over the pain. If you need to meet someone else, do it. Look out for numero uno, because she is certainly looking out for her own interests. Life is funny, and things happen when you least expect them. And hang in there. OK? Alex Link to post Share on other sites
pat garret Posted May 3, 2000 Share Posted May 3, 2000 stay busy and chill with friends,and most of all leave her out of thought and all conversation..... Hey i msged you guys before about my break up. But now she aint even my freind anymore. I thought that when me and my ex would break up that we still would be good freinds. It seems like yesterday we were so tight and now she dont even recognize me. I am still nuts bout her. people come up to me and tell me things bout what she has done with her new b/f. AND IT HURTS LIKE A BITCH my heart just gets torn apart and i haver no clue what to do . In sceince class she never talks to me and says i am doing my work but talks to other ppl. Why does this hurt and is there any solution besides being busy or chill with friends etc..... Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted May 4, 2000 Share Posted May 4, 2000 The biggest puzzle I have tried to solve in life is why we mourn the loss of someone who obviously cares not a hair about us any longer. Perhaps they never did. The best answer I can share is that life is to be lived minute by minute, hour by hour, each day. When we are with someone we love, we enjoy those moments for those moments. No moment, no experience, no relationship lasts forever. If nothing else, death takes them away. When relationships end, celebrate those moments you enjoyed together and move on. Do you weap when you clean your plate of a delicious meal at a gourmet restaurant??? Every moment of life, no matter what the experience, is to be taken in and enjoyed for the time it is presented to us. Unfortunately, your lady seems to have been a bit insensitive. Perhaps she was very attached to you at one time, but the fact that she has a new boyfriend so soon tells me either that bond ended some time ago or she is extremely shallow. Nevertheless, you are now called to move on with your life. If you expect to get through love completely unscathed, you are simply not in the real world. You will survive. The human spirit is extremely resilient. As the good Wizard in the "Wizard of Ozz" told Dorothy, "Hearts will never be practical until they can be made unbreakable." Your heart will go on!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Dottie Posted May 4, 2000 Share Posted May 4, 2000 I must agree with Tony. This girl has obviously moved on and, as much as it hurts you at this time, you need to move on as well. In time, the hurt will be replaced with the joy of a new relationship. Remember: Whenever one door closes, another door opens to you. Don't spend too much time looking at and mourning for that "closed door". It is time consuming, painful and serves no purpose. Open yourself up to finding another relationship and take appropriate measures to do just that. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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