Layla Posted October 9, 2003 Share Posted October 9, 2003 Hi I have been with my boyfriend for 15 months now and everything seems really perfect. He tells me how much he loves me, I had to meet his family and dearest friends pretty much at the beginning. He asked me to move in with him after three months although he had never lived with a woman before and he says I am the best thing that ever happened to him. He really really makes me happy! Whenever I meet his oldest and dearest friends and he doesn't listen they say they have never seen him like this and that they are really happy for us. Also, I found a letter from a friend of his saying:" the money is on you to crumple next". So far, so good. Then again he has never brought up marriage or kids at all! I assumed it is because he has been very busy but also very successful in his job, is currently building a house and there is just generally happening a lot in his life. So I start wondering whether a successful person like him with lots of great friends, a great job, lots of sports activities can ever see the point in getting married. (Girls adore him, which sucks!) I mean yes, he may enjoy hanging out with me and I guess his love for me is real, but what would be the signs that he intends to one day ask me to marry him?? My opinion is that if he loved me as much as he and his friends say, shouldn't he know after 15 months that I am the woman of his life? Why has he never brought it up? Do I need to be patient? Of course I would never bring it up as I believe it's a job's guy. Or..... doesn't he propose because we are very different?? He comes from an EXTREMELY rich background and so do all his friends. They all went to the most expensive private schools and then to very good universities. So did I, but thanks to sitting tough exams and scholarships as I was always among the 5 top percent of the class. I have a good job now, which I love because it is very challenging (money is all right). But still, my parents are so lovely but simply have practically no money to spend on me. I have been to a few weddings of my boyfriend's friends and they were unbelievable. Do you guys believe that a girl's background (moneywise) matters? I mean, I am a hard worker and thanks to my excellent education will probably always do well. But there will never be any support from my home! What do you reckon guys? Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
VASH THE STAMPEDE Posted October 9, 2003 Share Posted October 9, 2003 Its not the money. Each individual has his own way of looking at things, popping the question would depend on him it could take years or might just happen tomorrow it all depends on how he perceives it, is he ready to settle down,or any thing . Link to post Share on other sites
LadyX Posted October 9, 2003 Share Posted October 9, 2003 15 months really isn't very long. Marriage is a huge step. Don't rush it, if he feels pressure from you, it may scare him away. Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted October 9, 2003 Share Posted October 9, 2003 He has no motivation to marry you if you are living together. You are "playing married" already. If this is driving you crazy, wait three months until you reach the 1 1/2 year point, then ask him what his intentions are. Whatever he says, just nod your head and smile. Do not turn it into a big talkity talk. At that point, if his intentions don't coincide with what you are looking for, you can make a decision on what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
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