Girl at work

[campbell17]

Hi all!! Just Looking for advice or some insight into this. A couple of months ago I met this girl at work she was very shy, very quiet. After awhile we

started talking and got along great, I was starting to like her, we would flirt a little, glance up at each other across the room, hang out a lot at work. She seemed to like me but I didn't have the courage to ask her out at the time, until everyone at work started complementing me and her thinking that we were already together or saying that we would be "cute" together. So one night we were working late everything was going fine. We weren't talking about dating or anything but I Just commented on how I was 3 years older than her, and she just came out and said that it was fine and that she had a friend who was dating a guy that was 4 years older than her, like I said before I really wasn't making a reference to us dating. So a little later when we got out of work I walked her to her car where we talked for a little bit then I asked her if should would like to go out with me sometime, she said yes she would like that a lot. After that we said goodbye and got into our cars and left. I have to say that I was pretty excited, well yesterday as I was leaving work she was getting ready to come into work so I stopped by to talk to her but she seemed to be kind of distant she really wouldn't say much so I asked her if she was okay she told me that she didn't feel good, so I hung around a little longer but she never really started talking that much so I just left. Well then today the same thing happened I was leaving she was coming in and she still wasn't saying much, I asked if she was okay she said that she was. I stood there for a minute without saying much myself, before deciding to leave I wrote my cell number on a piece of paper and gave it to her and told her to call me sometime or whatever she kind of gave me a look kind of a smile almost a smirk then I left. So I don't know if she really doesn't feel good or if she's just shy or what any help with this would be great!!! Thanks.

[WTRanger]

Have you asked her out yet, I mean on an actual date? How long of a time frame was it between when you asked her if you could take her out sometime to when you gave her your phone number? She said she'd love to go out with you sometime, so just ask her. Don't wait around, she might be getting frustrated in the fact that you've now established the fact you two would like to go out, but you haven't acted on it yet. This could be the weirdness you are seeing. Or she could be freaking out that a co-worker likes her. Some people are put off at workplace dating and it could be sinking in on her. Me, I'm indifferent. I say go for it as long as you keep it civil in the workplace.

 

Start small with the first date though, she might be really shy. Try something like maybe even lunch? Or just the two of you sitting at the same table in the lunch area at work?