How to start conversations at the gym with girls

[Brady_to_Moss]

How would you go about this. Everyone seems in their own zone and it would seem hard to approach someone but tonight me and this girl kept looking at each other. I just dont know what to say to her in the gym without lookin like a fool

[monkey5]

I hate to be so frank with you, but whether or not she was looking at you...the gym is a "no-no" zone for asking out women. Many people go to the gym to relax, not to watch people hit on each other, or feel like they need to be on the defense.

 

It's possible she was looking at you because you were looking at her. Women typically don't like guys leering at them while they're working out. My advice to you is, if you're going to try picking her up, do it outside of the gym- as in catch her on her way to the locker room and strike up a conversation. IMO, it's best NOT to date people from the gym, as if something doesn't go well, than your stress outlet becomes contaminated and one of you will have to switch gyms.

[Star Gazer]

I agree with Monkey.

 

However, if it's a college on-campus gym, it's a much more social environment.

 

So I'd suggest just making sure you don't approach her while she's actually working out. Catch her before or after her workout.

[Lonestar]

I hate to be so frank with you, but whether or not she was looking at you...the gym is a "no-no" zone for asking out women. Many people go to the gym to relax, not to watch people hit on each other, or feel like they need to be on the defense.

 

It's possible she was looking at you because you were looking at her. Women typically don't like guys leering at them while they're working out. My advice to you is, if you're going to try picking her up, do it outside of the gym- as in catch her on her way to the locker room and strike up a conversation. IMO, it's best NOT to date people from the gym, as if something doesn't go well, than your stress outlet becomes contaminated and one of you will have to switch gyms.

 

 

I don't agree. Plenty of people go to the gym hoping to meet someone. Yes, you are right that it sucks after if it doesn't work out, but most people only go to the gym for a short period of time and then stop. I don't see anything wrong with hitting on a woman at the gym, but do it in more of a friendly manner. Don't ask her out. Try to strike up a friendship instead, and you can start by smiling and saying hi when she walks by.

[tanbark813]

Wait until she's on a leg abductor machine (http://www.sportsinjuryclinic.net/gallery/jenny/m-abductor_machine.jpg) and just stare at her.

 

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[pinkmarble]

I think it was a good suggestion to try to catch her after her workout. It's really not good gym etiquette to approach people in the middle of a workout. I mean, if someone was jogging by you on the street, you probably wouldn't stop them to get their number...

[redfathom]

I know a lot of girls who try to avoid gyms where lots of guys go to avoid just this. If she was looking at you wait and see if she striks up a conversation and take it from there, but don't go hit on her. IMHO.

[Not the love ace]

Its not the worst thing like some people make it sound here. However I do agree to an extent that it is better to make a conversation after you noticed she has stopped working out or about to leave the gym.

 

Just take is easy and slow and just start off as a friend. Love can happen anywhere, and the gym is no exception. So go for it, but time it good.

[Lauriebell82]

I met my boyfriend at the gym. I didn't meet him when I was all sweaty and working out though, I met him as I was leaving the locker room. I don't see anything wrong with meeting someone at the gym, but I work out pretty hard and sweat like crazy so I don't think guys would think I was real attractive in that state. But if you are just going to work out or on your way out of the locker room or something than I think it's perfectly okay. Plus, then you have something in common, that you both love to work out.

[WorriedOne]

I guess I don't see how a gym is different from the supermarket. Apparently it's cool to hook up at the store but not at the gym. But the taboo still exists and many of my past girlfriends who worked out specifically wore hats low over their eyes to avoid eye contact with men there who were very aggressive at flirting at the gym.

 

I go to my gym 5 days a week, have done this for the last 2 years, and I have never seen a successful hookup there. If you are shot-down by this girl are you prepared to run into her frequently and be embarrassed?

[seibert253]

Best time to talk to chicks, or anyone, is before or after they work out.

[Lauriebell82]

I go to my gym 5 days a week, have done this for the last 2 years, and I have never seen a successful hookup there. If you are shot-down by this girl are you prepared to run into her frequently and be embarrassed?

 

Generally people go at around the same time, so you could always just go at a different time to avoid seeing them.

[Cal999]

All gyms have an area where you can get fruit-shakes and juices and bottled mineral water right, so you should have walked up to her (obviously wait for her session to end) and offer to buy her a shake or something.

 

And most people are sort of unapproachable in gyms I know, but if she was looking at you and didn't mind you looking at her and she didn't get up and run away from you then you blew an opportunity.

 

If she said no...then at least you had the co hones to try & not sit at home wondering 'what if'