Benique Posted March 23, 2009 Share Posted March 23, 2009 Fairy,life is not about spiritual only. Life is about a real life,which you have with your family. You say your husband is a great guy,responsible and loyal. And the OM is engaged with his woman. He will marry her and make children. What for you need to break so many people`s lives ? Will it be spiritual then ? Try to find happiness in your life the ways you always found it . I agree with "Joyz" men are tricky,just like women,like children,like life itself . All may play a big trick on you . Just you will stay alone and single with a kid on your hands who needs his own father to feel fulfilled . How old is he ? So think more than seven times before making any life decisions . And ask your OM what he feels about this ? If you claim you are so much in tune with each other,it means he is spiritual like you,human as you are , so will he break his woman`s heart even if he does not feel same good way with her as with you ? Will he leave his previous life just to appear in new and unknown yet with you ? Will he do all this ? Maybe his woman is pregnant with their child ? (You say you do not see him,you do not meet him,perhaps you have just a virtual connection with him [?] I admit it is so ... on net ) . Think more than seven times . I agree with "Joyz" . Life is tricky . Men are tricky . Women are tricky . Be careful . Trust only after something had been done . Spiritual exists only in your soul. It has not to be as real as it seems to the spirit . Though it may be . My neighbour Suzie whose origin is Jewish was dreaming all her life to see Paris . She travelled everywhere , even to France,but somehow did not see Paris ever . When she at last made her dream true with her husband and appeared in Paris , she was 47 years old to that moment , she got very disappointed by this city . City made a trick on her . It was full of evil intentions as was filled up by antisemits .. She loves her memories of her devotion to Paris seeing a while to while all the pictures she had been collecting of Paris from 1910 year (even!) . But she teaches her children "to love in spirits,to love in soul,but not to fall over ever,as the landing may be too painful.." So take her advice you too,FairyTale73. First LAND. Then anything .. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted March 23, 2009 Share Posted March 23, 2009 This is a good point. Sometimes, the sense of "poignancy" and drama comes from the longing. The actual "having" might totally deflate the situation. I'm pretty sure the last sentence means that ultimately, one should keep one's feet on the ground. And I agree! Romantic or not, losing touch--and losing yourself--is not going to wind up being a good experience. Good post, Benique. My neighbour Suzie whose origin is Jewish was dreaming all her life to see Paris . She travelled everywhere , even to France,but somehow did not see Paris ever . When she at last made her dream true with her husband and appeared in Paris , she was 47 years old to that moment , she got very disappointed by this city . City made a trick on her . It was full of evil intentions as was filled up by antisemits .. She loves her memories of her devotion to Paris seeing a while to while all the pictures she had been collecting of Paris from 1910 year (even!) . But she teaches her children "to love in spirits,to love in soul,but not to fall over ever,as the landing may be too painful.." So take her advice you too,FairyTale73. First LAND. Then anything .. Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted March 23, 2009 Share Posted March 23, 2009 Fairytale, it appears that you have been marginalized here with taunts. Some people resort to cheap shots when they do not have anything more constructive to say or if they can't break you ,or do not like your writing style:rolleyes:. I do hope that in due time you will be able to reconcile your feelings for the OM and the reality of your situation ( and his!) and things will work out for the best for all concerned! The only one doing the taunting around here is the OP. From my perspective, all I can say is... If you stop feeding them...they go away. Link to post Share on other sites
Bluebird In My Heart Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 OMG...forgive me, but...this post was priceless. Kudos, well done. I mean...kudos to you*, well done. I like your* work! Thanks, you gorgeous wench you! * Oh goodie I finaly got my turn YIPPIE! im off to clean my toilet now hava nice one * Loved your post . Seems so erotic * ... uhh uhh .. just without any sense .. pity pity .. mmmmm ... I'm sorry it didn't make any sense. Glad you love it, though! Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 I wish he would find a perfect match for himself who would make him happy and smile. He is not a bad husband,he is responsible,he is stable,he is very loyal,he is providing family really well, and though we match on some level (else how would we get married?), we do not match on many levels including emotional . Its the hardest . Not to match emotionally . And I am aware that at last in spite of his love to me ,yes,he loves me , and this is the reason why I do not want him to know about my emotional affair as it may break him totally , he does not deserve it , so I am aware that he may find someone who would match him emotionally ,and I wish him this ,as in the long run he is a great guy, but I know what Happiness* is ,and I am not feeling It* with my husband . Communication with your husband is a must, so you do not give heed to your lust. By doing so, it will avert much peril of the heart. Go to counseling to discuss any lack or distrust on his part, as well on your part. Lady, go to counseling, seriously. Your marriage can be saved, but your husband doesn't realize what is currently transpiring. He can't read your mind, so he can't just know what you're going through, you're going to have to tell him everything if you want to save your marriage. With that, I can lend a hand, but you must follow through with said plan. Laterz. Vader out. Link to post Share on other sites
KismetGirl Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I edited out my post - just not worth it. Yeah I did the same thing. Reading the OP's posts was giving me a right massive headache. I want to say perhaps english was not her first language, but then her vocabulary is adequate, it's not she's on drugs and writing some odd prose-turned-philosophical babble at the same time. OP, you're getting normal advice. Instead of talking in circles (and sentences that nary a person on here can read without getting a migraine) take it into consideration. If you don't love your husband and don't want kids with him, then get a divorce. If the other guy wants you, then he can be with you, he isn't even married yet. Where on earth do you live? Link to post Share on other sites
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