The Bash Your Own Gender Thread

[serial muse]

Hm. Not a huge fan of gender-bashing, whether it's directed at men or women.

 

All I have to say is this:

 

I do dislike when some women say things like, "I have no women friends," either because they think women are all sneaky backstabbers or because they think women are all jealous of them.

 

To those women I say:

 

1.

2. Seriously, get over yourself.

3. All women aren't anything, just like all men aren't anything. You just have terrible taste in friends. Get to know better people and you might have better luck with the friendship thing.

[Trialbyfire]

Hm. Not a huge fan of gender-bashing, whether it's directed at men or women.

 

All I have to say is this:

 

I do dislike when some women say things like, "I have no women friends," either because they think women are all sneaky backstabbers or because they think women are all jealous of them.

 

To those women I say:

 

1.

2. Seriously, get over yourself.

3. All women aren't anything, just like all men aren't anything. You just have terrible taste in friends. Get to know better people and you might have better luck with the friendship thing.

I couldn't agree more!!

[MindoverMatter]

Women's high voices make me go graaaaawwwwww sometimes. When (young) women get together and squee about such dramatic things like shoes or boyfriends or a poodle. Graaaaaaaaaaaw.

 

Men just don't manage the high notes. Praise the lord.

[kizik]

I'll start by bashing my own gender and then I'll bash yours.

 

Guys who jump on the sports bandwagon b/c that's what they think they're supposed to do. I have no interest in sports and I don't care if anyone thinks that's "gay" or "lame."

 

Guys who verbally abuse their women and children.

 

Women who complain about being single. *shudder* That's a huge red flag. Are women capable of being content while single? Sure doesn't seem that way. Women who equate their self-worth and self-image based upon how many guys are into them.

[kashmir]

I hate guys who feel the need to constantly put other guys down in front of girls. The ones who feel the need to assert their masculinity every chance they get. The ones who eat a consistent diet of protein milk, wear shirts 2 sizes too small, and are constantly looking down at their pecs.

[Kamille]

I love random chit chat and I've noticed that the hardest group to approach are women in their 20s and 30s. They seem to be women who cannot smile - to anyone. One of them lives in my building: she's always dressed in high fashion and she always walks around like the world around her disgusts her. Once, while holding the door for her, I said hi (pretty standard practice in my building) but she completely snobbed me and just huffed by. No more opening the door for you missy.

 

I get not being able to be nice to everyone around you - but at least don't go out of your way to be bitchy.

[anne1707]

- pink tracksuit, pink t-shirt, pink hairband, pink towel, pink washbag, pink kit bag....

 

 

I should never have posted this . At the gym yesterday and there was one of those "pink ladies" -

 

What else can I say about my gender.... I hate it when a woman at work is on the phone to her friend for 20 plus minutes complaining about how busy she is.

[redfathom]

I'll start by bashing my own gender and then I'll bash yours.

 

Guys who jump on the sports bandwagon b/c that's what they think they're supposed to do. I have no interest in sports and I don't care if anyone thinks that's "gay" or "lame."

 

Guys who verbally abuse their women and children.

 

Women who complain about being single. *shudder* That's a huge red flag. Are women capable of being content while single? Sure doesn't seem that way. Women who equate their self-worth and self-image based upon how many guys are into them.

About the last paragraph, thank you! I don't understand woman who do this. My friend does and it drives me crazy...I keep telling her if it bothers her she should just go get a boyfriend, how hard can it be.

 

I had another friend that was like this anytime a reliationship wasn't going the way she wanted she would line up plan B then say, it's okay that guy A isn't calling because guy B really likes me. I kept telling her to just be single for a while and enjoy that, but she never could. Now we aren't friends because I couldn't handle her insecurities and the way she used men.

[Awakening]

Great thread

 

Man haters annoy me. Like it's every man in the world's fault that you had a bad relationship or two and are now a hateful, bitter beeaach.

 

Women who have to make it a point to let everyone know how very independent they are. It's really bad when women do this to snag a man so they can then become totally dependent on them.

 

One more - ladies this is a workplace not a freaking fashion show. It's not even an office, it's a lab. Lab coats are worn to protect you and I'm not going to change the safety rules so you can display your latest purchase to the one other person who gives a crap (sorry that one was totally personal. It just felt good to get it off my chest)

[39388]

I do not like it it when some men say they are the "better gender". Just look at some of threads on here for examples.

 

I hate it that so many men resort to violent behavior rather than talking problems out. I absolutely hate each and every man who uses violence agaisnt women.

[Isolde]

Women who withhold sex from their SO's as a bargaining chip. How can women cheapen such a wonderful thingas sex?

[JohnnyBlaze]

Women who are overly emotional!

Worse, yet; MEN who are overly emotional! I've seen guys get sniffly over the dumbest things ever. As my mother used to say back in my young'un days, "if you're going to cry, I'll give you something to cry about!"

 

Another thing among guys is the one-upsmanship. If something happened to me that's funny, scary, or for any other reason worth re-telling to other guys, there's always that one guy who has to cut you off in mid-story with a related story about something that happened to him that is so much funnier/scarrier/whatever-ier than what happened to you. If it wasn't important enough for you to tell 5 minutes ago when we were all quiet, it isn't important enough to interrupt me now.

 

And I'm dumbfounded at how wussy some guys are today. It's not just guys with girlfriends/wives any more; single guys are just as bad. I think every guy needs to get in a little trouble now and then just to remind himself that he can do something that someone doesn't like and the world won't end because of it.

[Trojan John]

I hate men who can't dress themselves, especially when out on a date. There is always some lovely woman who has taken the time to do her makeup and put on something elegant, while the chav she's with shows up in sneaks, jeans with a D&G belt (ugh), and an H&M tee. Oh, and he's wearing a purse bigger than hers.

 

Forgot: Usually found wearing a stupid hat with a fake Burberry pattern.

[axisdenied]

Hi. I really don't want to bash either gender but I'll mention something.

 

I worked two jobs with similar settings -same objective, same type of work -one with all men (except me) and another with all women. I had a difficult time working the female-dominated job due to passive aggression, gossiping, motive suspicion, etc. After my coworkers figured out my sexual orientation things got really uncomfortable for me and them, so I had to quit (I had no romantic interest in any of them but some of them thought I might). The male-dominated job was a much more chill environment.

[kizik]

And I'm dumbfounded at how wussy some guys are today. It's not just guys with girlfriends/wives any more; single guys are just as bad. I think every guy needs to get in a little trouble now and then just to remind himself that he can do something that someone doesn't like and the world won't end because of it.

 

I love this. Good call, JohnnyBlaze.

 

If you want to re-learn how to be a man, go watch I Love You, Man. Best film I've seen in months.

[loser101]

women who are boring, weak, dependent and mousey. who spend their lives waiting to meet the right man to settle down and have kids with and who have absolutely no other ambition whatsoever. I don't mean that they should be career-focused but they should have interests they actively pursue to make their lives rich and interesting.

 

often these women will complain that men treat them badly. yet they usually can't hold their own, they struggle to find anything common with the guy in terms of interest and make absolutely zero effort to fit in his lifestyle.

 

the question I want to ask them is: what is YOUR contribution love?

[Woggle]

Men who are having problems in their relationships and then take it out on everybody at work instead of standing up for themselves. If you are too much of a wimp to grow a backbone and say no to being walked all over don't make my workday miserable becuase of it.

 

Men who would rather sit in front of the tv all day and drink beer instead of actually going out and enjoying life. This is why I have few friends that I hang out with. On my days off I like to experience the world instead of watching it on tv.

[Taramere]

Hm. Not a huge fan of gender-bashing, whether it's directed at men or women.

 

All I have to say is this:

 

I do dislike when some women say things like, "I have no women friends," either because they think women are all sneaky backstabbers or because they think women are all jealous of them.

 

To those women I say:

 

1.

2. Seriously, get over yourself.

3. All women aren't anything, just like all men aren't anything. You just have terrible taste in friends. Get to know better people and you might have better luck with the friendship thing.

 

Exactly. I've a couple of female friends who have more male friends/acquaintances than female ones...but it's mainly because the hobbies they're into mean they come into more contact with men. For instance, one is heavily into martial arts and it forms a big part of her social life.

 

They both like girly stuff too, though - and they're always welcoming and friendly to any new women who join any group they're part of. Neither of them have that offputting cliquey and hostile "I'm one of the guys - other women are not welcome here" mentality.

 

I find people who are very reliant on a clique irritating generally, regardless of whether they're male or female. I try to allow for the likelihood that they're insecure about their own place in the group, and dealing with it by being hostile to outsiders....but it doesn't help me respect their ability to be independent.

[Ruby Slippers]

I hate the way a couple of my female friends compete over men -- who aren't even that much to scream about, anyway. Going out has to turn into this emotional dramafest because they are interested in the same guys. Seriously? I would never let some dumb guy at a bar come between me and my friends and our night of fun.

 

I hate that so many women work so hard to conform to what the mainstream dictates is hot at the time. You end up with dozens of women who look like clones, all wearing the same style of clothes, carrying the same dumb bags, with their hair bleached white and bodies radiated orange. How about you be proud of who you are and project a little individuality?

 

I am annoyed when women play dumb so men aren't threatened by their intelligence and success. I used to do this, too -- in HIGH SCHOOL. Then I realized how absurd it was.

[mental_traveller]

Men are overconfident in their own opinions and generally arrogant. They are too concerned with their own egos, and too confrontational in situations where cooperation works better. They are also much more prone to violence and messed-up psychopathic behaviour. We're too obsessed by sex and it causes problems and weakness IMO. Sometimes I wish I could put my sex drive on "mute" for a while.

[Ruby Slippers]

A friend invited me out last night, but I couldn't make it. She also invited another friend of mine, a friend I had recently introduced to friend #1 because I thought they had a lot in common and would get along well.

 

Today, friend #1 called to tell me how annoyed she was with friend #2 for taking too long socializing with men at the bar after the show last night, and said she left a message telling her she was ticked off. "Don't say anything to her, though." I said I wouldn't. I don't gossip about friends with other friends at all. Then friend #2 calls me tonight to tell me her side.

 

Ladies, if you can't enjoy each other's company without getting catty, don't hang out. Why must I be your go-between? The gossip. The drama! Does not compute.

[baker23]

I hate when some women who hold a higher authority position feel the need to be bitches and mistreat everyone around them.

 

I hate when some women feel so insecure that they can only be good friends with women whom they feel are either bigger or not as good looking as them.

 

I hate that when out shopping with other female friends, they are not honest about what looks good on you.

 

I hate how some women "friends" try to sabotage your eating and excersise efforts.

[wierdmunky]

I hate gossipers. Esp. at church! hello. But they're always nice to your face until you leave and then it's rip you apart time. FAKE. They don't even try to see the good in you, and just act like they want to be your friend to fuel their gossip conversations.

 

1. I hate girls who look self-entitled and unapproachable. Once I get to know some of them, I find that some of them are actually alright, but what is up with that barrier?

 

2. Loud obnoxious girls that like to walk right next to you.

3. Bitter old women.

4. Gold digger hotties.

[Nikki Sahagin]

I hate the type of woman that only focuses on her looks and not her brain, charisma, self-worth or any other aspect of her INNER self. A lot of women seem to get by just on their appearances but not bother learning anything, knowing anything - they just want to be known for being sexy and then wonder why they get used. Though I suppose its a good thing for me - means there is less competition!