My girl drinks a lot when she's out with her friends, But never with me..??

[Stardog Champion]

2 Small little things bugging me:

 

 

 

I have a great relationship with my live in girlfriend of 3 years. We're both 25. We've only had ONE break up where we broke up for 2 months to have some space, but she ended up coming back and there were never any other boys or girls involved. ANYWAY...

 

She recently went out of town with some friends for a mini-vacation and she mentioned she drank a lot. Since we've been together...I've noticed that she never really drinks much at home(occasional wine with dinner) or when were together but whenever she's out with her friends, which isn't a lot, but when she's out with them, she jumps at the chance to have an drink or several.

She's not much of a party girl, Doesn't seem like an alcoholic but it just seems like she likes to drink and get buzzed and get close to drunk, when she's out with her close friends, but never with me. I'm just wondering ...why?

 

I guess it bugs me because, she's mentioned in the past that when she was a teen(15,16,17) she'd always go to small house parties at her best friend's house on the weekends and drink a lot and would get drunk and that once she even woke up the next morning with her underwear on backwards. She claimed she'd black out a lot. She's not proud of it and was very reluctant to tell me about this once, but we were just sharing stuff one night.

 

SHould i be worried? i mean i get worried because when she does go out with her friends and some guys that are friends, I'm never invited. But in a way that's fine with me because, we should have our own space and go out with our friends, to keep our relationship healthy and not feel like were trapped. But I worry that if she drinks a lot, what if she blacks out and something happens? She gets really buzzed and sleepy very easily.

What should I do?

[Goatsbreath]

Well, It could be her friends. It sounds like thats her realationship with these friends- thats what they do- go get drunk. I dont think it's a problem seeing as how you said it don't happen very often. Ofcourse you could initiate a night of drinking if that would make you comfortable but most people dont just sit around the house getting wasted unless they are alcoholics. Its all about environment, atmosphere, and the ones you are sharing it with. I think my big thing would be why you are never invited. I mean she should at least give you the option so you feel welcome. My thoughts might be tainted on that subject matter though. My recent X used to do alot of thing and not invite me. Then I found out she didn't invite me because that was her time to go seek other options.