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[kornchick05]

Hey everyone I need some advice about my online boyfriend!! He's been my boyfriend for close to a year.You should know I've never met him but I mght get to meet him this summer. We talked on the phone tons of times. We know each other really well. He means everything to me. He used to email me all the time because other than the phone thats the only way to keep in touch with each other. Lately he emails maybe once a month or every 2 months. I get so depressed when he doesn't email, I'm always paranoid he doesn't love me anymore. I am obsessed with him. He is the only thing I can ever think about!!About a month ago i carved his name into my foot. I cry at night because I miss him so much!What should I do to stop thinking about him so much? Should I tell him how I feel when he doesn't email me?And should I tell him that I carved his name in my foot?And please dont tell me to break up with him because if I ever lost him i swear I would kill myself. Thanx!!!!

[Tony T]

The guy is pulling away from you. Online relationships are VERY difficult. You need to call him and make arrangements to meet him in person as soon as possible. In person chemistry and what you have built up in your head may be two different things. Even though you would die if you broke up with him now, you may more readily do so if you meet him in person. I am sure in any case he could be a very good friend if you have had such a nice relationship via Email and telephone.

 

The contact between you is becomming more rare simply because it is so difficult to maintain feelings for someone with whom you have no physical contact whatsoever...no kissing, touching, face to face talks, walks, etc.

 

If you are as in love as you sound, you better buy that plane ticket PRONTO and get this thing moving. I really do hope it works out great for you.

 

If you can't buy a plane ticket or make other arrangements to see him and you want to stop thinking about him so much, get away from your computer, go outside cyberspace into the real world and meet some nice guys in the flesh.

 

No, I would not tell him you carved his name on your foot, at least not until you know exactly how he feels about you once you've met him. He may be very flattered by that...but at the same time, he could get a much different impression of you. Yes, I think you should tell him how you feel when he doesn't email you...but be completely ready for whatever type of response or non-response you get.

 

I hope you left room on your foot for a few more names.