Is she just jealous? Baby mamma drama

[JEN JEN]

i am a 26 year old woman in love with a 27 year old man. We have been together for 1.5 years and he just recently got out of jail and hadn't seen his baby in about 9 months now usually his dad had been bringing the baby to see him at work when he came into town. While my fiance was in the work release center. Now he's out and i have been buying the baby everything and mailing it to her. I even send her stuff when he doesn't know just because i love to shop for girls. Her birthday is coming up and her mother knows he is with me and have even talked to me before and his daughter as well. My man is a great man he takes care of the household but his fathering skills aren't so good . He told me the baby mamma is ignorant and he just does't like to deal with her. When he called her for us to go out there she said he can come but i can't! She wants him to come to there house and sit there with her and his baby. Now i feel like i need to know his baby because that is a part of him and now that our life is getting straighten out i won't marry him without him being in her life more often and me meeting her. My man is a really great guy and his jail exp. Was him being in the wrong place at the wrong time. He pays all the bills and will give me anything i want and i will never make him choose is she right even though he has not seen her like he should. I am the one helping him to become a better and she hates that.

[Tizzy]

When he called her for us to go out there she said he can come but i can't! She wants him to come to there house and sit there with her and his baby. Now i feel like i need to know his baby because that is a part of him and now that our life is getting straighten out i won't marry him without him being in her life more often and me meeting her.

 

As a single parent I have to admit I felt compelled to reply to this. His child's mother has the right to allow whomever she wants to into her house. You don't have any God-given right as this man's fiancee to be invited to his child's mother's house. if I were you I wouldn't take it personally. Maybe she just doesn't want you up in her space like that right now. Perhaps you all should meet somewhere else a few times and she'll feel more comfortable with you coming to her house. Let her get to know you and see how you interact with her child and vice versa.

 

Also, why does your fiance have to go to the child's mother's house? Why can't he pick up his daughter and bring her to his place? That might be the better option until the three of you get on better terms. I think it all boils down to an issue of respect and getting to know each other, not necessarily jealousy. People are crazy these days and you can't just allow anyone into your home without knowing them well enough, especially when you've got kids to protect.