redfathom Posted March 22, 2009 Share Posted March 22, 2009 I have a friend that talks almost none stop. When I hang out with her and other people I feel obligated to aplogize on her behalf. She doesn't share any conversation well always bringing the topic back to her personal life, or starts conversations about her personal life that I sometimes feel are inappropriate. Nothing offensive, she will just make a random comment about wanting to date someone: a. with money, b. with a nice car, c. with a boat, etc. Or what ever materialistic item she is into at that time. She did this very thing the first time she met my BIL, and he later told my H she was a cackling hen. Today, she came over to watch a movie with me and my husband. She talked A LOT through the movie (so much that hubby and I plan on watching it again soon so we can watch it in peace). She knows she talks a lot and I have mentioned it to her (telling her it seems like a nervous habit). She even had a friend she gave an "apology" gift to because they went to a bar and she kept the woman an hour later then she wanted talking the whole time... I really like her as a person, I just wish she could break this nervous habit. Its like she is afraid of silence, which she mentioned she is when she is "dating" someone. I can't imagine what a guy going on a first or second date would be thinking...unless he chats a lot too. With me she isn't always so bad, but anytime a guy is around she rattles on and on, even if its the first time she has met this guy. I know it because 1. she is nervous and 2. she wants the attention. But I feel like she is doing more harm to her relationships or potential relationships by doing this. I feel obligated to entertain her when she is talking, but then other people get excluded from any conversation - because the topics are so shallow. Which is odd, because she is really smart and could have a lot to say if it wasn't always about her. It's gotten to the point where I don't want to invite her over when anyone else is present... Any suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
signedin2008 Posted March 22, 2009 Share Posted March 22, 2009 Don't worry about your friend, that's just a small problem. I think you need to hire a private investigator to follow your husband for a week to see if he stops by any motels while at "work." In addition, you should get yourself tested for STDs. Link to post Share on other sites
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