LostLamb Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 How do you know he is telling the truth about being abused? A man dumps his girlfriend then buys lubricant at 1am in the morning? He isn't being honest with you so i'm not sure how you can save this relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author miss-undastood Posted March 25, 2009 Author Share Posted March 25, 2009 I'm not sure where people are getting the idea he dumped me? Nope, he never once told me things were over. Also, the 'moving out' thing was a mutual agreement. I suggested some time out, he didn't want to at first, but did it because he thought it would help. Besides, he hasn't officially moved out, he's just taken a few clothes, his guitar, computer and PS3, that's about it. The majority of his stuff is still here. Yeah... maybe everything he has told me is crap, maybe there is someone else, maybe he wasn't abused. I don't know for sure. I won't know until I see him next. I'll be letting him do most of the talking. If he wants to leave, then fine - I'll accept that we were never meant to be, and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
boldjack Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 So, Mis... You BOTH agree to a trial separation, he moves out. AFTER he moves out you go thru the junk in HIS car, call or text him DEMANDING to know his whereabouts and what he was doing with the lube,and obsess about who he's seeing (toe-rag) all of the time living in a house HE is paying the bills for. What a BASTARD he must be!! My suggestion is that before you can help him , you have issues that YOU need to address . Link to post Share on other sites
Author miss-undastood Posted March 25, 2009 Author Share Posted March 25, 2009 When I read about your 'discovery' of his abuse, red flags went up immediately. Please do not think that people will NOT use something so horrific as a tactic to better their position.... there are plenty out there that will. My ex did.. and what a great, last resort bit of info to dump on me, only to find out later by his own contradictions that he was in fact full of sh*t. So please tread carefully. Oh, wow... ok, I'll definitely be listening out for any contradictions in his story when I see him on the weekend. As for the two phones thing, one is his personal, the other is his work-issued one. Both on different networks. Who he texts on each phone depends on the network they are on. He mostly texts his mother and 'her' on his work phone, and myself and his mate on his personal phone. Yeah, I know the cell phone thing is fishy, I already plan on asking him more about it on the weekend. Link to post Share on other sites
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