betrayed082603 Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 I don't even know where to begin..... I just found out in the beginning of this month that my fiance of 6 years and the father to my two children cheated on me. I found texts in his phone before he took it away from me from a number that i didnt recognize that said sweet dreams i miss you. He said that they were just friends that they work together and she is going through a hard time. I found out more of the story from her that they hung out a couple of times outside of work but they did nothing but talk. YEAH RIGHT!!! So after some heated discussions i decided to give it a try i knew that i was never going to get the answers that i deserved. Well just yesterday morning i fooled him into telling me the truth and now am so disgusted to find out they had sex but just once and it was in his car but they did kiss a few times after work and texted and talked on a daily basis. I want to stay together because i dont want my kids to be in a broken home and deep inside i do still truelly love him but dont want him to think that i will take him back if this ever happens again. I dont know what to do and i need advice i guess thats why i found and wrote this. HELP!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 Sorry to say, but he is following the typical Cheater's Script -- first: Deny, deny, deny anything at all happened. Next, the "We're just friends" line. Last, the "It only happened once, and it didn't mean anything".... yeah, right! For her to text him sweet dreams I miss you, would not come about from a quick shag in the back of his car! There is some romance, longing, and experience in that text --- I would imagine he has oft fallen asleep next to her, and she misses him in that way. You have to really continue to dig deep... he might tell you more truth, little by little, but it will exhaust you to have to fight for it. It is not a good sign that he is still willing to LIE to you... as typical as that may be (that cheaters don't give an inch unless forced to) it just shows he is not putting you in the equation... he is still being selfish and looking after his own self-interests. Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 I want to stay together because i dont want my kids to be in a broken home and deep inside i do still truelly love him but dont want him to think that i will take him back if this ever happens again. What have been the consequences of what he has done to you? If there are none he will continue on as usual and get even closer to the OW and perhaps leave you for her. That could be a possible outcome, sorry. This sounds like my stbxh and his MOW. He's leaving to be with her at the end of this month. Good riddance! Link to post Share on other sites
username24 Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 It's (almost) funny how it is always "only once". Link to post Share on other sites
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