ps1972 Posted October 12, 2003 Share Posted October 12, 2003 I am wondering if anyone can give me some good advice? I am trying to get back with my ex girlfriend but it is impossible for me to talk to her because she went back to her ex boyfriend almost instantly after we broke up! They are with eachother 24/7 sleeping over and everything. I cant call or see her because they are always together. What can I do to get her to talk to me I have tried everything from text messaging and getting no responce and I even sent her a letter and got nothing. I dont know what to do I love her so much. It has been a long six weeks for me and it doesnt even seem to bother her that we dont talk. I dont understand how she could spend 14 months with me and just go on like I meant nothing to her. I have figured out that she was never over her ex and that is most of the reason why our relationship failed but I am hopeing it doesnt work out between them so I can try to get her back. I just feel like there is nothing I can do and I am very hurt by her going back to him. Even though they are ex's I don't see how it can work for them because she went from me to him and plus the reasons why they broke up are still going to be there right? Isn't this a rebound thing? I am trying to be strong but I Love her so much and I want to show her how much I love her bbut it just is impossible right now with him around. What do I do. I am trying the no contact thing and I am working on myself but my feelings for her are so strong that it is so hard. It doesnt seem to bother her that I don't call anymore. What am I suppose to do wait around and hope they don't make it so she comes back to me. I know part of her misses me so I am trying to hold on to something here. Any advice would be great Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
VASH THE STAMPEDE Posted October 12, 2003 Share Posted October 12, 2003 Move on bro ,shes no good . Let them be together they deserve they mentally sick selves. There's better out there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ps1972 Posted October 12, 2003 Author Share Posted October 12, 2003 The thing is I know that she doesn't know what she is doing. She is a scared little girl inside and is affraid to be alone. This guy broke up with her before and just went on with his life like it was nothing. So here I am trying to show her that I love her and she is choosing ssome guy that is kissing her butt because he is lonely himself. Should I just let her find this out for herself and just let it be? It's so hard when you care about someone so much to see them get hurt because i know he will hurt her. Everyone is telling me to move on but it's hard to do when she was my whole life. Very confused Link to post Share on other sites
Goatsbreath Posted October 12, 2003 Share Posted October 12, 2003 Theres nothing you can do. I mean you could turn to witch craft and cast a love spell but na, never mind. Seriously, you have to just let things be and work on moving forward. There is nothing in you power to change things. It is not your job to look out for her either. Perhaps she will see the error of her ways and come crawling back to you, perhaps not. In the meantime, don't sit around waiting- press on! Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted October 12, 2003 Share Posted October 12, 2003 PS, Are you REALLY worried about her getting hurt? No offense, but whose feelings are you afraid of here - hers or yours? Always be honest with yourself about how YOU feel and then worry later about trying to figure her out. Who knows what she wants. Unfortunately, the cold reality of it right now is that she wants him more than she wants you. Not trying to be a jerk, but just pointing out the reality - and we've all been in that situation before. It sucks. Personally, I'm very wary of getting back together with any girl I'm dating. My attitude about it all is that if it wasn't working the first time around, it probably won't work the second time around either. Now there are exceptions, and sometimes there may be valid reasons why someone decides they just aren't interested in dating. Maybe someone's sick, has a family emergency, new career, or academic studies, all of which would consume someone's time and put dating down on their priority list. But in this case, it seems like she's just having issues over trying to find Mr. Right. Dude, if she couldn't see the magic in your relationship over the past few months and years, she probably won't see it anytime soon. Why wait around for her to mature when you're already there? It's hard to move on but I think it's your best move here. Hang in there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ps1972 Posted October 13, 2003 Author Share Posted October 13, 2003 The thing is people tell me she misses me. I see her all the time and she doesnt even wave to me or anything like she doesnt know me. I know she is angry but I dont think letting go of her is right, my feelings for her are too strong. I need to find a way to get her back without being a crazy ex. What should I do just wait and see what happens or keep trying to talk to her. Do all girls act like this when they are not sure what they want? What else can I do? Link to post Share on other sites
Goatsbreath Posted October 13, 2003 Share Posted October 13, 2003 Even though they are ex's I don't see how it can work for them because she went from me to him and plus the reasons why they broke up are still going to be there right? Isn't this a rebound thing? earlier in the post I have figured out that she was never over her ex and that is most of the reason why our relationship failed but I am hopeing it doesnt work out between them so I can try to get her back. I hate to say it but it is possible that you were the rebound guy. It don't look good for you but you can't sit around waiting for this girl. Convince yourself that its time to start the moving on process and follow through with it. Its your only solution- you can't change the way she feels. Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted October 13, 2003 Share Posted October 13, 2003 ps, Nobody here can ultimately decide what's best for you. We are all creatures of free will, so regardless of what we say, you're going to do what you want. But you asked for the objective advice, and we gave it to you - objectively. Your friends are probably trying to pump your esteem up a little bit, or trying to soften the blow in their own way somehow. But in life, remember one thing: actions always speak louder than words. Talk is cheap. If she were really interested in you, she'd be with you. It's almost always that simple. The only exceptions are when women are playing stupid little head games, and if that's the case, then you have to ask yourself if this relationship is going in the direction you want. Either way, I think she's bad news. Doesn't mean she's a bad person, but it does mean she's not the right match for you. I think you should remember the good and move on to something else. But that's just my opinion. It's your choice and your life, not mine. Link to post Share on other sites
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