Darth Vader Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 Anyway, The E-Mails written from the way the poster made it sound, may have contained a lot of sexual words, things they did, where, when, even to the point of insulting her husband and OM's wife very badly, which would be enough to call it quits right there. But, the fact that poster's daughter was lied to by her mother may have been mentioned in one or more of those E-Mails, even to the point of insulting her daughter and perhaps even her other children. I must point out a possible fact, if her husband has gotten a really good PI worth his salt, which so far I would say that he has, then expect that the husband is reading these forums. The PI would know to check the computer history, as well as cookies, there are also programs that can undelete such things, as this has been proven already. If so, I'm sure that not just I, but everyone else here would like to hear the Husbands side of the situation/s. Feel free to post on a Thread of your own. Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 I must point out a possible fact, if her husband has gotten a really good PI worth his salt, which so far I would say that he has, then expect that the husband is reading these forums. ________________________________ If so, I'm sure that not just I, but everyone else here would like to hear the Husbands side of the situation/s. Feel free to post on a Thread of your own. That did cross my mind... and then he will also be reading his wife's posts! Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 Oh, Dexter, correct me if I'm wrong, but, I don't think she mentioned if she lives in a no fault state. If she lives in a fault state, she's screwed! It seems strange to me that her husband is collecting all of this evidence if he couldn't even use it anyway, apparently he's up to something or knows something we don't........... But, yeah, he's been biding his time, no doubt about that, but hey, can you blame him? Her husband's not playing the "victim", he's playing the "conqueror". Link to post Share on other sites
tami-chan Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 even if he did lie....yes, she did deserve it. she cheated on him:o So we'll just say he lied. If lying to get the truth out of a cheater isn't something she deserves, just what DOES she deserve? And don't say a 2nd chance either. Nope, never said that. I said she made the decision to cheat, she pays the consequence whatever it is.<shrug> What his WIFE needs?? She cheated...too freakin' bad what SHE needs right now. She deserved NOTHING from her until he got the truth. SHE was the one that cheated on him. Maybe she doesn't deserve anything from him. I do not care, since I am not the one making that decision. The bottom line of my post is for her to take stock..not to wallow in despair. She has a lot of things to do, to learn...that's all. Ya, tells me that you expect him to cowtow to her "needs" while he still doesn't have the complete truth from her. Seems a little off kilter to me. No, I dont expect him to "cowtow" to her needs. There's is nothing more annoying than a person who has been cheated on who "cowtows" to the WS. I was responding to some posts that said "if she had told the whole truth maybe her marriage would have been saved"-My take is, no it wouldnt have made a difference. Her husband was not interested in what she had to say--probablay never did, even before she cheated, who knows? Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 That did cross my mind... and then he will also be reading his wife's posts! Great minds think alike! How's it going with your Divorce? Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 but hey, can you blame him? Her husband's not playing the "victim", he's playing the "conqueror". I have to say, playing the victim when you are the BS is the Worse thing you can do to yourself -- you land up with so much more collateral damage... far better to take back Power into your hands and Kick Them Out (even if only temporarily) OR give them severe consequences in some other way... because if you do not, you WILL suffer necessarily MORE than you have to. S_I_G_H experience is the teacher... you may not know what to do with the D-Day of Affair #1, but by Affair #7 or so, you realize your kind, forgiving (read wimpy) ways are no good at all.... not for your mental health, not for your wandering spouse to 'learn' anything valuable, and not for the state of your Marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 Great minds think alike! How's it going with your Divorce? ... Woah there, the D- word! Just kidding, , hey I can SAY that word now! <divorce> (yugh) Well, I am still building up the resolve to make that call for an attorney's apt... I DO have some names... and I WILL call before this Thursday 11am! How's that for a commitment! BTW, I ignored that last email of my H where he wrote for me to come live with him.... anyway, I must share with you that a fellow female poster here on the boards, PM'd me to comment on my H email, and she wrote, "I must admit your husband does "write" really endearing, and may I say persuasive, emails? Even I want to stay married to him! and I am not even married to him!" I love it... :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
tami-chan Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 He wasn't lying. He was making an example. He knows he wasn't a mailman. He said "IMAGINE' the daughter walking in and witnessing her mom screwing someone. Now, are you contending she didn't screw this guy in the family dwelling? "One thing lead to another and we slept together in my house" I am not contending anything-lol... anyway, chrome and I settled the "mailman" thing already. I am not sure why you have to bring it up again...are you trying to pick a fight with me, Dexter Morgan? You shouldn't. I am just a tiny, Asian woman, who can barely speak English...:lmao:!!!! Besides, I think he defended his posts valiantly. But it's cute that you came to his aid. Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 You shouldn't. I am just a tiny, Asian woman, who can barely speak English...:lmao:!!!! With a sharp-witted tongue! :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
tami-chan Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 ... Woah there, the D- word! Just kidding, , hey I can SAY that word now! <divorce> (yugh) Well, I am still building up the resolve to make that call for an attorney's apt... I DO have some names... and I WILL call before this Thursday 11am! How's that for a commitment! BTW, I ignored that last email of my H where he wrote for me to come live with him.... anyway, I must share with you that a fellow female poster here on the boards, PM'd me to comment on my H email, and she wrote, "I must admit your husband does "write" really endearing, and may I say persuasive, emails? Even I want to stay married to him! and I am not even married to him!" I love it... :lmao: LOL!!!! wait...you IGNORED THAT email????????? why? Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 With a sharp-witted tongue! :laugh: And a huge Samerai sword and Nunchucks!(I know, I spelled that wrong:p) Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 ... Woah there, the D- word! Just kidding, , hey I can SAY that word now! <divorce> (yugh) Well, I am still building up the resolve to make that call for an attorney's apt... I DO have some names... and I WILL call before this Thursday 11am! How's that for a commitment! BTW, I ignored that last email of my H where he wrote for me to come live with him.... anyway, I must share with you that a fellow female poster here on the boards, PM'd me to comment on my H email, and she wrote, "I must admit your husband does "write" really endearing, and may I say persuasive, emails? Even I want to stay married to him! and I am not even married to him!" I love it... :lmao: Well, that all good! BTW, how's the Sub Teaching going? Even if it's not going so hot right now, you've got to remember that you've only just started, plus the fact that if you were to quit now, that means that you might have to go back to screwing around hubby(YUCK!) Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Oh, Dexter, correct me if I'm wrong, but, I don't think she mentioned if she lives in a no fault state. If she lives in a fault state, she's screwed! . No, she isn't. All a fault state requires is the person filing for divorce to have a "fault". It makes no difference as far as how marital assets are divided OR custody. No fault states you can get divorced without a reason and it usually takes a waiting period for a divorce to happen. not so with fault states. So she will still get 1/2 the marital assets and custody if she wants it. Pretty crummy deal for the husband. Insult to injury. Gets cheated on and loses alot of money and his children on a daily basis. now she could always agree to 1/2 time custody where she doesn't get child support. That would be fair. But what do you wanna bet she isn't interested in whats fair. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 I am not contending anything-lol... anyway, chrome and I settled the "mailman" thing already. I am not sure why you have to bring it up again...are you trying to pick a fight with me, Dexter Morgan? You shouldn't. I am just a tiny, Asian woman, who can barely speak English...:lmao:!!!! Besides, I think he defended his posts valiantly. But it's cute that you came to his aid. Not coming to his aid. i saw a posts by someone that was turning around on the husband. I know, you came back and said thats not what you were doing....but reading it, thats exactly what it looked like. Link to post Share on other sites
tami-chan Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Not coming to his aid. i saw a posts by someone that was turning around on the husband. I know, you came back and said thats not what you were doing....but reading it, thats exactly what it looked like. You brought the "mailman" thing again...and I said THAT was settled already. (READ posts #339 and #340). But your response above tells me this is really not about that post- about the "mailman". You were JUST using that to get to me. I get it ! Sorry, I kinda had to translate the whole thing to my native language before I can make sense of it ! You should have just been upfront with it! Anyway, if it looked like that to you, then, so be it... Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 No, she isn't. All a fault state requires is the person filing for divorce to have a "fault". It makes no difference as far as how marital assets are divided OR custody. No fault states you can get divorced without a reason and it usually takes a waiting period for a divorce to happen. not so with fault states. So she will still get 1/2 the marital assets and custody if she wants it. Pretty crummy deal for the husband. Insult to injury. Gets cheated on and loses alot of money and his children on a daily basis. now she could always agree to 1/2 time custody where she doesn't get child support. That would be fair. But what do you wanna bet she isn't interested in whats fair. That's obvious that cheaters aren't fair. I can see why you say that cheaters should get slapped with attempted murder or attempted manslaughter charges because of the STD factor! Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Ok, guys, quit playing with the asian girl! Because it's clear that she wants me! J/K:p Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 You brought the "mailman" thing again...and I said THAT was settled already. "Originally Posted by Dexter Morgan Not coming to his aid. i saw a posts by someone that was turning around on the husband. I know, you came back and said thats not what you were doing....but reading it, thats exactly what it looked like." 1) when I responded I had not seen that it was settled...and in any case, can put my 2 cents in anyway and 2) Show me where I brought up the mailman again. I said I saw posts from someone that was turning it around on the husband...was talking about the other posts. Anyway, if it looked like that to you, then, so be it... Tami, i have read enough of your posts to know that you defend WS's left and right. I can post a few examples if you really want me to. Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Well, that all good! BTW, how's the Sub Teaching going? Even if it's not going so hot right now, you've got to remember that you've only just started, plus the fact that if you were to quit now, that means that you might have to go back to screwing around hubby(YUCK!) LOL oh, Darth -- if you remember from any one of a dozen of my posts -- THAT is what my H is very good at... No, but seriously, I don't want him anymore. I have Finally understood what it means when you shouldn't love someone who doesn't treat you well (spouse)... I did start subbing, I am thinking I may only do this short term, and continue to look for my niche in life! Exciting! Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Ok, guys, quit playing with the asian girl! Because it's clear that she wants me! J/K:p She said she's petite, and by the looks on your Avatar, Your light saber is huge :bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Why don't you people get a grip, do I have to separate you? Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Why don't you people get a grip, do I have to separate you? LOL BNB!!!!! :laugh: !! Oh, and PS: DID you take a peek at his Avatar... hmm?! OP: We are awaiting your Return!!! And keeping your thread warm and near the Top... Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 I don't look at other men's light sabers:eek:. Wait....yes I can:cool: Nice!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
samprez Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 I'm glad you guys hijacked this thread for your nonsense. I want Confused to continue to feel safe here to post because no matter her circumstance, she posted her to vent or look for help or both. If you guys want to play back and forth, find another blog to do it. This thread has some very serious discussion points and the last 15 posts or so have trivialized this terribly. This has been like whisper down the lane and while there are many valid points being made, the facts she shared from her posts have been skewed to make peoples points. Corrections have been made so let's move on. Link to post Share on other sites
stampdaddy Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 and I am asking the same... Please, Please, Please keep this open to OP to possibly have a "safe place" for her honest feelings and thoughts.. YES, we get that those havent been to husband, where they should be, but come on...... please.....? Link to post Share on other sites
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