Why is being verbal so hard for me if I'm a woman

[samsungxoxo]

I still have kinda a hard time expressing myself or keeping up a conversation for a very long time, even by phone. Sometimes it's shyness but not all the time. I see most of the other women have it easy, they keep on talking. It's like they have it naturally born. So why not me???

 

Isn't it say that if you're a woman then you have it easy when it comes to being verbal so what's wrong with me then??

 

I can be writing a lot in these forums and overly expressing what it wouldn't come out in real life yet when it comes to being verbal, it's like I either below the average or I just didn't have it implanted on my DNA. Why wasn't I born with that gift?

[Beautiful Inside]

girl i am the same way my bf wanted to strangle my ass cause he could never get anything out of me (emotions feelings etc) in the beginning of our relationship. i think it was cause i was scared of saying the wrong thing or saying too much not saying something the right way i dont know it was really hard for me to share my feeling or if something was bothering me i would just get quiet and my bf hated that. he was always trying to get me to open up more with him i guess i just liked him so much i didnt want to loose him so i was always so passive with things that bothered me in the beginning im getting a lot better at voicing my thoughts opinions what ever but i just wanted to share that with you. ive been there im still there just slowly working on it ....

[samsungxoxo]

It's a relief that I'm not alone on this and yes that same thing happened even when I was with my boyfriend. I wonder if there's a way I can improve on that or will it just stay like that?

[Lights]

No need to put faith in stereotypes of what you or what women are. Your life is your own. If you want to be more verbal, all that's really left is to work on it oneself. Not everyone is naturally gifted there.

 

I don't know the nature of the conversations or lack thereof that you describe, but don't get overly worried about it if it's not extreme; a temporary lull in a given conversation can be quite normal and isn't something to get too worried about.

[Nikki Sahagin]

Women don't NEED to be talkers. Who says? Our sex is what makes us male or female. I don't believe personally traits are 'male' or 'female' - I think that's generally a social construct.

[gopher]

OP, Do you feel like you protecting yourself by not being so verbal? It may just be your way to deal with people you think are unsafe or are unsure about.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

Me too in a way don't get me wrong I can hold a good convo once its going but I'm not to hot at starting one all the time.

 

Or if the other party is shy/nervous I have a hard time and it can be very awkward I need a very interactive kind of person.

 

To keep things rolling in a conversation and I'm a female as well so your not alone..

[JohnnyBlaze]

Gopher's right, Samsung. I find that, a lot of times, it's about self-preservation. I can talk up a storm when it's all friends that I know and trust, but as soon as outsiders are brought in the mix, I'm a mute. It's all about the comfort level.