sb129 Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 Fair enough. We didn't have any extra people, so maybe I was uber stringent!! As I said before, all our friends with kids were excited to have a weekend away without their kids. And everything was confirmed by RSVP, phone call or email weeks before the wedding. At our wedding, all the singles were really excited about meeting other singles (we had one couple hook up and they are still together!!), and in most cases everyone knew at least one other person who was already invited, and we based the seating plan on that, so we didn't think it was necessary to invite guests so people didn't feel isolated. And we had number restrictions, in the end we still had 135 guests, which was quite enough for H and I to get around and say hi to! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 We're having 300 guests, so we won't have time to be so stringent. Kids are all invited since both sides of our extended families, have bred profusely! Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 We're having 300 guests... :eek: $$$$$ Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 :eek: $$$$$ We're naming our reception "Mothers gone wild"! The numbers were actually capped. They wanted more. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 :eek: $$$$$ Ditto, ditto. TBF, you are going to be one tired chicken at the end of your wedding day! You will barely get time to say hello to everyone!!!! but it will be one helluva party! Each to their own- my parents paid for our wedding, and the venue had restrictions too. I thought 135 was a perfect number, but we probably could have got that list up to 300 without too much effort if we had included more extended family, workmates, children of guests, acquaintances etc. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 We're naming our reception "Mothers gone wild"! The numbers were actually capped. They wanted more. Lol. I know exactly what you mean! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 Lol. I know exactly what you mean!My mom became Momzilla and she infected his mom, with the same disease. My family's paying for the reception and his are paying for the open bar and rehearsal dinner. With this in mind, since they insisted, we let them have free reign, to a relatively reasonable degree. It's been good for mom, to have something else to focus on, besides worrying about my Dad. Dad's already thanked me for the distraction! Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 We're having 300 guests, so we won't have time to be so stringent. Kids are all invited since both sides of our extended families, have bred profusely! Wow, that's a big wedding! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 Wow, that's a big wedding! Not our choice. We would have preferred something 1/2 the size. You have to remember that this is both our second marriage so we're both pretty laid back about it. Let it happen the way our mothers want, since they're doing most of the work and loving it. Our wedding planner is afraid of them. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 Our etiquette is that each person be allowed to bring one guest for singles, so they're not left feeling out of sorts, sitting by themselves or with complete strangers. In a family situation, the couple is solely invited, if it's to be an adults only reception which is stated on the invitation. If the entire family is invited, the invitation is to the family. It's not impolite to call your guests, in a tactful manner and explain there's limited seating, if they want to bring the entire clan. Expect that no matter how stringent you are, there will be more than originally expected, due to babysitting issues, etc. I always thought that it was proper etiquette to invite a guest for any single person whom you are inviting. You would probably rack up a lot more guests that way though. What do you do for a family with adult children? Like would you say: Mr.X and Mrs. Y, Jane and John Doe or invite the grown up children seperately with their partners/husbands or offer them a guest? Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 or invite the grown up children seperately with their partners/husbands or offer them a guest? Exactly, even if they are at the same address Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 I always thought that it was proper etiquette to invite a guest for any single person whom you are inviting. You would probably rack up a lot more guests that way though. What do you do for a family with adult children? Like would you say: Mr.X and Mrs. Y, Jane and John Doe or invite the grown up children seperately with their partners/husbands or offer them a guest?You either invite all the children, regardless of age, or invite none of them. This way, most people will understand although there will always be someone who gets their thong in a twist, no matter what you do. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 although there will always be someone who gets their thong in a twist, no matter what you do. Exactly. And with that in mind you have to remember that its your day (and your parents) and not get too stressed out about it. Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 see... all the reasons listed here is why i did not even bother with the RSVP's.... but we did have a smallish wedding- <75 people.... and we did all the food ourselves- so we did not have to worry about that either. Thankfully! Link to post Share on other sites
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