I am having a hard time "she loves me but not in love"

[Biggie25x]

Thank you all for helping me here. I know I am not over it all and I will probably post again but just talking to you and knowing that you understand where I am coming from means so much to me now that it's not even funny.

 

I have the case of oneitis. I still think to a certain extent that we had something special. That what we had can't be duplicated and we can't because my relationship skills have grown from all this. I will enter into a new relationship a different person. I guess I am just a little afraid that I will never find anyone else.

 

I know that's silly but I really enjoyed being married. It completed me in a way that nothing else has. I know that as soon as I make new friends out here and get into a place I can move on that will change a little.

 

It is hard though, I think she was my best friend. It is like a big hole is in my soul and it hasn't filled in yet. It will though, that's what I keep telling myself. I know I will make a good partner in the next relationship it's just that I don't really have the energy to try right now. It's like too much work.

 

I think what this is telling me is to get used to being single for a while as I need to get myself into a better place. Then I can work on the relationship.

 

Again, thanks for helping me here. I tell you all stuff I can tell no one else in my life and it helps to talk about it.

 

Gunny thanks for encouraging me to be the best person I can be, for believing in me. No one else tells me like you do. It means the world to me.

[lupa]

Thank you all for helping me here. I know I am not over it all and I will probably post again but just talking to you and knowing that you understand where I am coming from means so much to me now that it's not even funny.

 

I have the case of oneitis. I still think to a certain extent that we had something special. That what we had can't be duplicated and we can't because my relationship skills have grown from all this. I will enter into a new relationship a different person. I guess I am just a little afraid that I will never find anyone else.

 

I know that's silly but I really enjoyed being married. It completed me in a way that nothing else has. I know that as soon as I make new friends out here and get into a place I can move on that will change a little.

 

It is hard though, I think she was my best friend. It is like a big hole is in my soul and it hasn't filled in yet. It will though, that's what I keep telling myself. I know I will make a good partner in the next relationship it's just that I don't really have the energy to try right now. It's like too much work.

 

I think what this is telling me is to get used to being single for a while as I need to get myself into a better place. Then I can work on the relationship.

 

Again, thanks for helping me here. I tell you all stuff I can tell no one else in my life and it helps to talk about it.

 

Gunny thanks for encouraging me to be the best person I can be, for believing in me. No one else tells me like you do. It means the world to me.

Holy man, I feel like I'm looking into the future here. I feel like this is the path I'm going down, and my wife has left me emotionally for another man.

 

It is over. I know it, I can't stand it.

 

It is over.

 

It is over.

 

I'm going to be strong. I don't know how, but I'm going to.

[Biggie25x]

That's all we can do. Just go on and make the best of it because that's all there is to do. It is tough and it takes grit but each day is different. One day it seems like you are over it the next day you can' live without it.

 

Keep posting on here, the posters on this forum have helped me in my darkest days. Pass it on when you can.

[Gunny376]

Oftentimes in life we find ourselves in situations where its either get screwed, fight or go for your gun ~ that is to say where all you can do is sit in shock awe about what am I going to do.

 

You can sit on your sorry @zz and do nothing, or you can get up and get busy about improving your situation in life.

 

What's going to happen ~ is going to happen and there's no need in worrying yourself about it. Worrying doesn't do one damn thing! It changes nothing, it un-does nothing, it prevents nothing! Ninety per cent of what we worry about never comes down us to begin with. Its the ten per cent that never crosses our minds that bites us in the @zz!

 

When someone leaves you? It means one thing and one thing only ~ you've got to get your head and @zz wired back together, and get busy living your life.

 

In the end it takes two to make it and only one to break it.

 

Next time you decide to find yourself someoe? Go find someone that's been through infidelity. Having personally experienced the heartache and pain ~ along with all the other BS they're 1. Less likely to cheat on you and 2. More likely to work hard and long all day, each and everyday to make you happy and to make it work.