Independence

[jmmm]

I am 24 and think I am doing ok so far. I definitely don't come from money. Wasn't given a car at 16 or for a graduation and still don't have one because I never really needed one. I live in an apartment with my parents. I have my own room which is pretty tiny..There are definitely worse situations than this

 

I just feel very very stressed at times living here and almost trapped. I feel like I am stuck almost between the age of 16 and the future. I am still told to clean up my room which annoys me to no end becuase the room is tiny and and its hard to keep it organized all the time. Its just feels aggravating to be told that at almost 25. Also, my parents are good people but they don't get along alot of the times and it stresses me out to no end to hear. Its to the point where I enjoy silence ALOT. The apartment is small so obviously voices travel. I also feel like I still don't get privacy due to my mom. I feel like I can't talk on the phone at times or if she sees my door is closed and its locked, she will try to just come in and keep knocking until i have to put a guy or friend I am talking to on hold to say I am on the phone and then I have to think she is probably listening on the other end. I just want to scream at times and feel like i have nowhere to go.

 

If I know I will get the place to myself for a few hours, I won't even want to go out but just rather enjoy it being alone and doing what I want without other people around. I also think it affects my attitude with my parents which I will probably feel guilty about years later.

 

Rents are expensive and apart of me feels like its so much better to just to save up for a downpayment on a house....but by doing that, its going to take years and years and I can't live at home until that time comes or until I happen to get married and who knows when that will be. So maybe it is better to just rent or look for a roomate, I don't even know. It has also affected my opinion on going back for a graduate degree. I donot want to place myself in debt again for school to the point I will not be able to move out because I will not be able to afford student loans and rent and other expenses as well. It made more sense to me to pay off my loans while I don't have those other expenses.

 

I just crave the moment of coming into a quiet apartment and not having to explain anything or explain where i am going at 25 and who i am going with..just kind of having a little more independence. Really hate this feeling and don't know what to do.

[ABrokenWing]

I am 24 and think I am doing ok so far. I definitely don't come from money. Wasn't given a car at 16 or for a graduation and still don't have one because I never really needed one. I live in an apartment with my parents. I have my own room which is pretty tiny..There are definitely worse situations than this

 

I just feel very very stressed at times living here and almost trapped. I feel like I am stuck almost between the age of 16 and the future. I am still told to clean up my room which annoys me to no end becuase the room is tiny and and its hard to keep it organized all the time. Its just feels aggravating to be told that at almost 25. Also, my parents are good people but they don't get along alot of the times and it stresses me out to no end to hear. Its to the point where I enjoy silence ALOT. The apartment is small so obviously voices travel. I also feel like I still don't get privacy due to my mom. I feel like I can't talk on the phone at times or if she sees my door is closed and its locked, she will try to just come in and keep knocking until i have to put a guy or friend I am talking to on hold to say I am on the phone and then I have to think she is probably listening on the other end. I just want to scream at times and feel like i have nowhere to go.

 

If I know I will get the place to myself for a few hours, I won't even want to go out but just rather enjoy it being alone and doing what I want without other people around. I also think it affects my attitude with my parents which I will probably feel guilty about years later.

 

Rents are expensive and apart of me feels like its so much better to just to save up for a downpayment on a house....but by doing that, its going to take years and years and I can't live at home until that time comes or until I happen to get married and who knows when that will be. So maybe it is better to just rent or look for a roomate, I don't even know. It has also affected my opinion on going back for a graduate degree. I donot want to place myself in debt again for school to the point I will not be able to move out because I will not be able to afford student loans and rent and other expenses as well. It made more sense to me to pay off my loans while I don't have those other expenses.

 

I just crave the moment of coming into a quiet apartment and not having to explain anything or explain where i am going at 25 and who i am going with..just kind of having a little more independence. Really hate this feeling and don't know what to do.

 

 

I totally know how you feel. I'm 30 and live at home. Times are tough, and it's tougher when you're single and only have one income coming in.

 

I crave the silent times....There are times that when I get them, I just lay on my bed and close my eyes and think. yep, just think.

 

Hang in there.

[D-D]

I'm 25 and still live at home. Been saving up for a condo for a while, so hopefully moving out this summer. I'm debt free and won't be in the hole for the next 40 years like most other people who moved out an bought a place or pay rent. People can think whatever they want about my choice. I'm single too, and don't have the benefit of a girlfriend/wife to help pay for things. Tough to buy a place on a single income nowadays.

 

I would definately wait and save some money, then buy your own place. Much better than renting in the longrun. Avoid graduate school, unless you really want to do that, as it will cost you a fortune and mean you'll be at home much longer.

[mental_traveller]

Work, save, and then share a room in a big house with 4 or 5 other guys in a safe but affordable part of town. It's cheap as chips and a great fun learning experience before you eventually get a place of your own.

 

Besides, in this economy the last thing you want to be doing is buying a house.

[ianandris]

Work, save, and then share a room in a big house with 4 or 5 other guys in a safe but affordable part of town. It's cheap as chips and a great fun learning experience before you eventually get a place of your own.

 

Besides, in this economy the last thing you want to be doing is buying a house.

 

This. While living at home does save money, you can find a pretty affordable place if you look hard enough. Even if you have a kinda crappy job and you're working full time, say, 10 dollars an hourish, you're going to making somewhere in the neighborhood of 1400 dollars a month, net. You can swing a place for around 300 if you look for more than a few days. To be frank, I'll gladly pay 300-400 a month NOT to be under my parents thumb. I've been out of the house since I was 17, and I've never, ever, looked back.

 

Plus, frankly, learning how to be a roommate is an important skill, especially in the dating world since serial dating has a tendency to end up in marriage. Not knowing how to live with other people puts unnecessary strain on a LOT of relationships. Parents don't count. At all.