A relationship short story

[Element Metal]

Hello good people, am I paranoid or is he cheating?

 

The story: I have a boyfriend of nearly 5 months now, has gone through the meeting the family (big christmas party and two big dinners, met lots so far and many times, he says his parents adore me), about mid January comes the first "I love you":love:, (he said first), and pretty much making US in what I would call "a committed relationship",...since mid January, problems have occurred . So it starts with a somewhat bad slip on the phone, in which I found out about an account he had with one of those bootycall dating sites and I do mean Booty (like when you load it up tits, ass, and some parts you never thought existed show up:eek:)he says, " I've just been too lazy to delete it", okay, I tell him that made me uncomfortable, he apologizes but that's all.

 

I also got a yeast infection, I say mysteriously cuz i know my body, but I couldn't be too suspicious due to he and I being somewhat regularly beer drinkers at the time, he more than I,( I did wonder though) I did a lil snooping to see if I could find his prof. on that site, no luck, so I brushed it off, not just cuz of no luck but we spent alot of time with each other there on after, he gets a new job, a graveyard shift, I work day:(, it wasn't too bad at first. His smoochy txts started becoming sparse, but that's a little thing right, maybe due to settling in to new job? Okay, Valentines day, this is a biggy and 1st breakup (not that day, bout a week ,of mulling and pondering, later) I worked 8-430, as soon as i get off and at his apt. I hurry into my dressy stuff for a wedding we were attending that evening, he was already dressed when I had arrived at the apt.

 

Were off, get back home bout 10p, we're pooped but amorous and exchange gifts, his was extravagant from roses, to sweet stuff, and lingerie, (1st time gettin lingerie for valentines:o), I was floating, we floated right into foreplay, and then to my shock, I noticed what no woman especially on this special day wants to notice in this position. His penis had a strong smell of what reminded me of a spermacidal lubed condom or what I really thought was a gel used for fellatio.

 

Now, the lube, gels, and other chemicals on sex products are very distinguishable, and WASH off I might add, so he didn't shower, or rag washed or something, but i should have been able to smell "THE OTHER WOMAN" as well, right. That smell was not there. I was shocked and confused. Anyway I confronted him, we argued, he said he masterbated that day but had no explanation for the smell. I had nothing else to go on. I eventually gave in and went back to him. I'm an idiot right? Well, the next breakup, I think was stupid, but I'm not sure. We had plans one night and he blew me off cuz of a txt mixup.

 

I tried to call as soon as the wrong txt went thru, which said something like,I cant tonight, maybe another night..ect. this was to another female friend to let her know i had plans with boyfriend, but it went to him. he calls me, makes excuses, first i was in the picture, then it was guys night in seconds. i was pissed. i went to the apt. to see if he was there. he wasn't. later we met. he asked if i had been there, i said i had been, why? he says "I'd hate for it to have been some one else..." i was alarmed, i said " who else would come over (thinking of who else would have a spare key)" then a very long pause.."I don't know the maintenance man". Stupid right. well, we argued, he cried a LITTLE MORE this time at the end, and I left...and then came right back to his arms again days later:rolleyes:.

 

So a month's gone by, now there's all sort of suspicious txting I haven't asked about, I snooped again, pretending to take pics with his phone and looked at some messages, he figured me out, along with making a really stupid comment that he can't delete them off his phone he has to hook it up to his computer, there gone the next day completely.

 

Also everyday for the last couple of weeks "he does laundry" while im at work, I've been there qiute a bit in the evening swhen i get off and the dirty laundry never moved from his hamper for many days. And to top the laundry observation off, in some small chat while together he said he was so happy all his laundry was done, i looked at the hamper, wow, it was empty and folded clothes were across the room. The very next morning i say, so what are you going to do today and guess what he says...." I'm going to probably do the little bit of laundry I have left".

 

Am I paranoid, what should i do, i m confused, is this all just little crap, am i an idiot for not leaving him the first time?