Why do many men kid themselves with the whole younger woman thing?

[pollywag]

I'm MUCH more likely to give up the BJ (and much better than a 20 year old, I might add ) if I get treated like an intelligent woman instead of some simpering little chicky whose only goal in life is to please, please, PLEASE THE MALE OF THE SPECIES.

 

 

Hey now that's not fair, there are plenty women in their 20's who are really well put together and would rock the head off of any guy sexually speaking plus they are intelligent to boot. Just so happens those types prefer men around their own age or slightly older not two decades older.

Can you blame them they have a lot to offer. Why would they settle for an old douche bag?

[donnamaybe]

Hey now that's not fair, there are plenty women in their 20's who are really well put together and would rock the head off of any guy sexually speaking plus they are intelligent to boot. Just so happens those types prefer men around their own age or slightly older not two decades older.

Can you blame them they have a lot to offer. Why would they settle for an old douche bag?

 

Polly, I'm only speaking in terms of those women some of these men claim are "easier to deal with" than women who are a few years older - and wiser.

[clv0116]

Facts about males over 40, causing breeding problems, due to DNA fragmentation in sperm:

1. Non-verbal intelligence of children, declines exclusively due to paternal age.
   
2. Greater rate of miscarriage, infertility and birth defects due to fragmentation of DNA.
   
3. Children born to men from 40 and up have six times the risk of having autism, than from men under 30.
   
4. The risk of children developing prostate and breast cancer later in life, is due to paternal age.
   
5. Exclusively due to aging paternal sperm are the risks of Apert Syndrome, Crouzon syndrome, Pfeiffer syndrome, dwarfism, and 50% of Down syndrome cases.
   
6. Paternal aging sperm contribute to a higher percentage of schizophrenia.
   

Is everyone with me so far?

 

I'd like sources and actual risk probabilities, not just risk factors. For instance if the odds of a child having autism is 3 times more likely at age 40, what is the actual ODDS of that? For example with a woman aged 39 the odds of conceiving a Downs child is 1%, which is very high but manageable. At age 49, 10% which is IMO unacceptable.

 

Can you supply similarly useful numbers for the above assertions?

[clv0116]

A much younger woman would have realised their mistake, apologised several times over, and given him a blowjob.

 

That's more the way it happens, yes. That's bad, why?

[pollywag]

Polly, I'm only speaking in terms of those women some of these men claim are "easier to deal with" than women who are a few years older - and wiser.

 

 

Oh ok thanks for clearing that up, thought you meant all 20 something women. I have to stand up for my young sistas!

There are plenty out there.

[Sam Spade]

I was simply trying to make a point. The younger ANYONE is, the easier they are to manipulate.

 

Equating this with manipulation is pretty self-serving, don't you think?

By saying easier to deal with I personally mean nothing more than not having to worry about what crazy judgement will be dispensed in my direction just because I proposed two movie dates within a month, for example. Or what assumptions will she make if I just don't feel like going out this particular evening. Laidback people existin in all ages, no doubt. but let's face it - while being older doesn't make anybody piece of crap, there is a correlation between extent of entitlement and reduced likelihood to find a compatible partner within reasonable time. The concept of damaged goods is often misinterpreted - it simply means that the more history you have, the more likely you are to have been affected in some ways, not necessarily positive. the less baggage you have, the easier you are to satisfy, etc.

[CommitmentPhobe]

I'm not bothered in the least, in fact I agree that in all ways physical I'm not nearly as good as I was 20 years ago, by a long shot. For whatever reason plenty of pretty young women still want to date me. Sigh. What can I do but let them?

 

Write them love poems

 

"Ode to my baby"

 

There is no mountain that we can't climb

Like my sexual peak back when I had hair

I couldn't get viagra when you were born

Oh my baby a love like this is so rare

[CommitmentPhobe]

That's more the way it happens, yes. That's bad, why?

 

Why bother though? If you want a sexual object, get a hooker, much easier.

[clv0116]

Write them love poems

 

"Ode to my baby"

 

There is no mountain that we can't climb

Like my sexual peak back when I had hair

I couldn't get viagra when you were born

Oh my baby a love like this is so rare

 

I'll try to do that if I ever lose my hair or try Viagra. Does that stuff really work by the way? I heard it can be addictive, do you find that to be true?

[CommitmentPhobe]

I'll try to do that if I ever lose my hair or try Viagra. Does that stuff really work by the way? I heard it can be addictive, do you find that to be true?

 

I've no idea, you're the one who/s testosterone has fallen of a cliff.

[clv0116]

Why bother though? If you want a sexual object, get a hooker, much easier.

 

I'm not sure how it can get much easier, but I'll keep that voice of experience in mind.

[pollywag]

Write them love poems

 

"Ode to my baby"

 

There is no mountain that we can't climb

Like my sexual peak back when I had hair

I couldn't get viagra when you were born

Oh my baby a love like this is so rare

 

 

:lmao::lmao:

 

Baby when I was born, rainbows were black and white.

I even have a picture of Jesus in my year book.

[Balthazar]

 

One thing none of us are entitled to do is to tell another person what their preference is supposed to be.

 

 

Word.

 

I'm with you

[pollywag]

I'll try to do that if I ever lose my hair or try Viagra. Does that stuff really work by the way? I heard it can be addictive, do you find that to be true?

 

 

Don't be coy now clv, you know full well it works and a cheap toupe is not hair.

[BUENG1]

Indeed, that's usually the way it works! The different stages of life are just incompatible for me.

 

 

 

 

Yes it is a generalization!

 

You are correct there are men in their 40's that are dating women in their 20's, I don't deny or have an issue with that

I don't have an issue with a man in his 40s hitting it off with a 20 year old, these are the way things sometimes go

 

I have an issue with 40 year old men wanting to exclusively or more to the point thinking that they can exclusively date women in their 20's. I think it's pathetic that they believe that they can do it or have a right to it! It's total denial! This is nothing to do with love whatsoever, it's to do with male ego.

 

Why should anybody care what you think about it? People do it because they can or want to. People can date whoever they want, they don't have to have reasonable demands, fair demands or even demands that make any sense.

[clv0116]

I've no idea, you're the one who/s testosterone has fallen of a cliff.

 

According to the annual physical (part of being over 40, look forward to it) I take I'm OK, and empirical evidence points (so to speak) toward that being the least of my worries. Indeed, my last mugger expressed her surprise at how much mugging I enjoy. But then my appetite for being robbed has always been pretty extreme, she would have probably needed help 10 years ago.

[CommitmentPhobe]

I'm not sure how it can get much easier.

 

Having more seeds than a jaffa orange would be a good start

[Die Hard]

Word.

 

I'm with you

I'm in on this too. I honestly could not care less what other people do regarding their relationships. None of my business at the end of the day.

[CommitmentPhobe]

According to the annual physical (part of being over 40, look forward to it) I take I'm OK, and empirical evidence points (so to speak) toward that being the least of my worries. Indeed, my last mugger expressed her surprise at how much mugging I enjoy. But then my appetite for being robbed has always been pretty extreme, she would have probably needed help 10 years ago.

 

That's odd, I didn't think you could have both hair AND testosterone by that age.

 

Surely it's one or the other.

[clv0116]

Don't be coy now clv, you know full well it works and a cheap toupe is not hair.

 

The place where a horse accident broke my arm aches sometimes, and my lower back gets stiff from the motorcycle accident. If you want to pick on my physical flaws I can start you a list, but I have all my hair and my dick still works just fine. Just saying. Matter of fact, I'll nail you just for spite if you're up for it.

[clv0116]

That's odd, I didn't think you could have both hair AND testosterone by that age.

 

Surely it's one or the other.

 

Nope, not always. Testosterone plus an inherited condition that cause elevated levels of another hormone are one cause of baldness in men. The men on moms side of the family don't go bald, who knew?

[pollywag]

I'll nail you just for spite if you're up for it.

 

 

I don't do charity work for the elderly, sorry. I get too attached and then they die. Besides shooting blanks out of a hollowed out penscil is not by idea of getting nailed. I'll leave any nailing up to the 30 something bucks that know how to rock it!

 

We'll bring you over some lemonaide and Pollydent when we are done.

[CommitmentPhobe]

Why should anybody care what you think about it? People do it because they can or want to. People can date whoever they want, they don't have to have reasonable demands, fair demands or even demands that make any sense.

I don't think they should care about what I think about it

 

It's the massive void the guy chasing women half his age is trying to fill that needs to be paid attention to.

[Lizzie60]

These threads about ages are just getting ridiculous.. no offence.. but geez people.. get a grip..

 

SOME OLDER MEN LOVE TO DATE, F*CK, WHATEVER... YOUNGER WOMEN...

 

SOME OLDER WOMEN LOVE TO DATE, F*CK, WHATEVER... YOUNGER MEN...

 

SOME PEOPLE LOVE TO DATE, F*CK, WHATEVER... PEOPLE THEIR OWN AGE...

 

SO WHAT IS THE FREAKEN DEAL????? WHO CARES????

 

WHO CARE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK????

 

WHY DO PEOPLE FEEL SO FREAKEN INSECURE ABOUT THEIR AGE.. THIS IS A BIG FARCE..

 

INSTEAD OF CHECKING WHAT OTHERS WANT/NEED/PREFER... CHECK YOUR OWN NEEDS/PREFERENCES..

 

I USUALLY DON'T RESPOND ON THOSE THREADS BECAUSE THEY ARE GETTING OLD AND BORING!

[Chicago_Guy]

Because some men simply never mature. Also it is usually extremely shy and nerdy men or loud douchebag type guys who are old and demand women half their age, for one simple reason: they never got any chicks when they were in their 20's and 30's and now that they have a little financial stability and it's their last hope at getting what they have always missed out on, via flashing a few dollar bills around.

That's the only reason. While all of us were out there hooking up and doing what typical 20 yr olds do, these types of guys were at home making love to their hands and squeezing zits infront of a mirror.

 

Look everyone knows youth is attractive, there is no denying it, young looking women and men look GREAT. They look better than most older people, but every age has its charm. A person that hasn't grown up enough to recognize that is seriously grasping on to a past that was unfulfilling to them, they did not have the same opportunities others had and they feel they need to hang on with dear life to a youth they will never have again. They have issues.

 

It's sad, but it's got to be seen for what it is. I thought it was gross when I was 22 and I used to get hit on by a pathetic older dudes and it was simply gross. I used to tell them find a woman your age, and stop trying to be younger than you are. Some would get pissed off others would get a reality check. The idea of sleeping with a man 20 yrs older than me was nauseating. It still is. It really is sick if you think about it.

 

Women want the broke bad boy any day, some of these older dudes with money think they are "bad boys" and they are not they are still nerd or loud mouthed douche bags with money. It's never sexy, it's pathetic.

 

I don't understand your complaint. Are you saying that something is wrong with a man in his 30s preferring women a few years younger? I totally agree with your issue with men in their 40s chasing women in their 20s and agree that most women wouldn't be in to that.

 

So tell us - what do "typical" people in their 20s do, since you are the expert? Do they all sleep around with pot-smoking musicians like you seem to suggest, because I sure don't remember that being the standard of the compatible educated women I knew when I was 20. Your angry post is over-run with generalizations and stereotypes. Lots of women even in their 20s think that pot-smoking musicians are total losers and wouldn't go for them at all.

 

A grounded man in his early-mid 30s who stays in shape can attract a woman in her mid-late 20s who isn't simply after his money. I get attention from women because of what I look like, even though they probably don't know what I do for a living.

 

I agree with you that flashing money is not the way to attract decent women. I certainly wouldn't want a women whose main attraction to me was money.