BUENG1 Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I don't think they should care about what I think about it It's the massive void the guy chasing women half his age is trying to fill that needs to be paid attention to. paid attention to by who and for what purpose? Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I wouldn't say no to dating someone around 40. It's not exactly something I am searching for, but if the connection was that intense it would be stupid to ignore. By the way, I'm 21, have been providing for myself since about a month before my 18th birthday and yes I have issues with my father. I have made no secret on here that I find the man-boys my age to be dull. There are of course the intelligent, quiet types but 9 times out of 10 they spend most of their time drinking as much as they possibly can and getting arse as much as they possibly can. Neither hold much interest with me but I'm sure they will survive without me. Of course dating someone old enough to be my father is not the best solution, but like I said, not something I am searching for. It's also not something I would never in like a million years totally not even consider, you know? :lmao: Of course finding that one 40 year old that is as fit as a 20 year old, treats me like an equal and is not looking for a youngun to screw around with until the woman he will marry comes along is pretty much impossible so I wouldn't hold my breath. Link to post Share on other sites
pollywag Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 It's the massive void the guy chasing women half his age is trying to fill that needs to be paid attention to. Agreed! It's not the idea that people date whom they want to date it is the idea that men who have severe emotional issues try to tell women of their own age or a bit younger that they are useless because they don't conform to the cradle-robbing stats they impose on women. Date whomever you want just don't try tell me I am useless because I am not half your age, that problem is within YOU not us. These men are filling a cavernous void that they refuse to acknowledge and every other person looking from the outside in can see this, yet they make it out to be like they have something special to offer women half their age and women who are over 30 are all losers who lost their chance at love or family. Who does that? Who makes it out to be like the entire gender over a certain age has no chance at love? Only a very disturbed and conflicted man with severe emotional issues does and a man who supports that is just a disturbed. We are pointing that out, that's all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CommitmentPhobe Posted March 30, 2009 Author Share Posted March 30, 2009 Agreed! It's not the idea that people date whom they want to date it is the idea that men who have severe emotional issues try to tell women of their own age or a bit younger that they are useless because they don't conform to the cradle-robbing stats they impose on women. Date whomever you want just don't try tell me I am useless because I am not half your age, that problem is within YOU not us. These men are filling a cavernous void that they refuse to acknowledge and every other person looking from the outside in can see this, yet they make it out to be like they have something special to offer women half their age and women who are over 30 are all losers who lost their chance at love or family. Who does that? Who makes it out to be like the entire gender over a certain age has no chance at love? Only a very disturbed and conflicted man with severe emotional issues does and a man who supports that is just a disturbed. We are pointing that out, that's all. Ah... you put it so much better than I do Link to post Share on other sites
pollywag Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I wouldn't say no to dating someone around 40. It's not exactly something I am searching for, but if the connection was that intense it would be stupid to ignore. By the way, I'm 21, and yes I have issues with my father. Don't worry, you'll grow out of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Don't worry, you'll grow out of it. Probably. But getting plowed by someone that actually knows what he's doing in the meantime would be simply wonderful. Link to post Share on other sites
Die Hard Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 These threads about ages are just getting ridiculous.. no offence.. but geez people.. get a grip.. SOME OLDER MEN LOVE TO DATE, F*CK, WHATEVER... YOUNGER WOMEN... SOME OLDER WOMEN LOVE TO DATE, F*CK, WHATEVER... YOUNGER MEN... SOME PEOPLE LOVE TO DATE, F*CK, WHATEVER... PEOPLE THEIR OWN AGE... SO WHAT IS THE FREAKEN DEAL????? WHO CARES???? WHO CARE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK???? WHY DO PEOPLE FEEL SO FREAKEN INSECURE ABOUT THEIR AGE.. THIS IS A BIG FARCE.. INSTEAD OF CHECKING WHAT OTHERS WANT/NEED/PREFER... CHECK YOUR OWN NEEDS/PREFERENCES.. I USUALLY DON'T RESPOND ON THOSE THREADS BECAUSE THEY ARE GETTING OLD AND BORING!You know you get sexier to me every time you post, not that I presume you care, I'm just saying. I wish more women thought like you. That said, women being insecure regarding their age is just one of the facts of existence. Secure women can handle it, insecure ones cannot. It's actually a great way to weed out what I like to call "stealth insecurity". Nothing sexier than an older woman who takes care of herself and is secure in her age. Unfortunately there are not many out there. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Probably. But getting plowed by someone that actually knows what he's doing in the meantime would be simply wonderful. With or without viagra? Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 With or without viagra? With would be preferable. As long as he doesn't, you know...have a heart attack. :eek: Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 With would be preferable. As long as he doesn't, you know...have a heart attack. :eek: Yes, Viagra is recommended. When it takes a year to build up reserves for the next go-around, thank goodness for medical intervention! Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Thanks Die... I just don't get all this bashing/constant postings about age differences in couples... As long as both partners are major and vaccinated.. who cares if they prefer younger/older. For me.. as long as he has his driver's licence it's all good.. I certainly don't feel the need to apologize for my preference for much younger guys.. as far as I know.. I never put a gun to their head.. let alone I've never asked anyone out.. they come to me.. it's never been the other way around.. If an older guy date a young chick.. I say good for him.. he CAN! He sure has something to offer.. whether it's a nice car, money, etc.. he's happy, she's happy... so what.. who cares.. it's HIS and HER life.. no one else's business. Link to post Share on other sites
Jaytb Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Thanks Die... I just don't get all this bashing/constant postings about age differences in couples... As long as both partners are major and vaccinated.. who cares if they prefer younger/older. For me.. as long as he has his driver's licence it's all good.. I certainly don't feel the need to apologize for my preference for much younger guys.. as far as I know.. I never put a gun to their head.. let alone I've never asked anyone out.. they come to me.. it's never been the other way around.. If an older guy date a young chick.. I say good for him.. he CAN! He sure has something to offer.. whether it's a nice car, money, etc.. he's happy, she's happy... so what.. who cares.. it's HIS and HER life.. no one else's business. Just what I was thinking too! Link to post Share on other sites
pollywag Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Probably. But getting plowed by someone that actually knows what he's doing in the meantime would be simply wonderful. Sex with both older and younger age is not a factor when it comes to sex, connection is. If you are connected to the person you can have the best orgasms in the world, try being really horny and having a guy who can't keep it up, needs at least 24 hrs to recoup from one blow job or if you wear something too sexy and exciting his premature ejac kicks in and you are left all dressed up an no where to cum. Read these forums it happens all the time to women. :laugh: Men who are good in the sack are just good, it has nothing to do with age, and men in their 20's and 30's rock it., TRUST me I've had them of all ages. The younger they are the more eager they are to please plus they are up for it all night long if you want it. Try getting an old dude to get it up spontatneously, he needs to take a blue pill walk around with an instant boner for an hour and hope you are still in the mood. Yawwwwn... Link to post Share on other sites
EllieBean Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I remember when I was 23 and a 35 year old guy was interested in me. We let him hang around with us because he was in our class at college, but he was 10-12 years older than the rest of us, and we used to laugh at him behind his back because he thought he was still young and trendy. When he had his ear pierced and bought a leather jacket we almost died with laughter, and one time he followed us to the student bar and we sneaked away and left him because he was a crusty old bore. Yes, he had a lot more money than guys my age, and he had a house and a sports car, but all I thought about was that he was this wrinkled old man and he wasn't as hot as the guys my age. Link to post Share on other sites
Sam Spade Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I remember when I was 23 and a 35 year old guy was interested in me. We let him hang around with us because he was in our class at college, but he was 10-12 years older than the rest of us, and we used to laugh at him behind his back because he thought he was still young and trendy. When he had his ear pierced and bought a leather jacket we almost died with laughter, and one time he followed us to the student bar and we sneaked away and left him because he was a crusty old bore. Yes, he had a lot more money than guys my age, and he had a house and a sports car, but all I thought about was that he was this wrinkled old man and he wasn't as hot as the guys my age. The problem here is that this guy was completely out of his element (if we assume he wasn't a loser, which he was - the pierced ear gave him away)... There's no way an older man can compete with younger guys in what younger guys do. His strenghts are class and worldliness, none of which thrive on college campuses, but are nonetheless attractive, if present . But, as long as you don't insult the leather jacket, I believe you. the ability to find the proper leather jacket dinstinguishes men from boys at any age , a task not made easy by the overabundance of unremarkable crap . Link to post Share on other sites
clv0116 Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Probably. But getting plowed by someone that actually knows what he's doing in the meantime would be simply wonderful. It's probably more about being experienced enough that he's able to contain his excitement. After a while the new wears off the whole process and while it's just as much fun, it's also a lot more relaxing. I had trouble relaxing and enjoying the whole process when I was younger. Now I'm really comfortable with the whole thing. I suspect any guy who's ever gonna be any good can be good at any age, within reasonable physical limits. Link to post Share on other sites
justme2781 Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 this thread is so dumb there are a ton of situations where younger women like older men sometimes its for money and sometimes its because of chemistry. my new bf is 17 years older and i think i am pretty attractive, i am 27 almost 28 so maybe you are referring to 22 y/o s but otherwise i think you are completely wrong. i am an actress and fell for an actor. he isnt rich and he didnt hit on me. Link to post Share on other sites
mr.dream merchant Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I think it just depends on how much swagger you have. I know plenty of older men who bag young chicks all the time. And then there's the others who come off as a bit creepy and perverted. All about how you carry yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
pollywag Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 The problem here is that this guy was completely out of his element (if we assume he wasn't a loser, which he was - the pierced ear gave him away)... There's no way an older man can compete with younger guys in what younger guys do. His strenghts are class and worldliness, none of which thrive on college campuses, but are nonetheless attractive, if present . . The thing is is that it has very little to do with the earing, or leather jacket though they are just the icing on the cake, in terms of hilarious props. Men like that ARE laughable, we laugh behind their backs because their desperation and "uncool" factor is palpable. Women and men can smell that a mile away. How many times have you sat at place where there is a lot of pedestrian traffic and laughed at the old geezer parading around in the convertible and Italian suit trying to get the attention of women half his age? We all do it because it is a sad pathetic sight that anyone who has an inch worth of grey matter can spot and laugh at a mile away. Some men are less subtle than that in how they dress and the toys they display but the desperation is still very noticeable. They are desperately trying to hang on to something that has escaped them many decades ago, no matter how you slice it and that's a humorous thing to see. Link to post Share on other sites
Isolde Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I dunno, I think men are just as capable as women of holding on to some of the spirit of youth, but there are also a lot of washups of both genders. It depends on one's personality, and the things that you value. Link to post Share on other sites
moman Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I don't have problems with younger women. I'm 30, and my GF just turned 25. Also went out on a couple dates last summer with two 20 year olds, and a 24 year old. I prefer the younger ones too, as long as they have some maturity to them. Link to post Share on other sites
clv0116 Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I prefer the younger ones too, as long as they have some maturity to them. Same here, there seem to be plenty of women in their 20s with their act together and who want something serious. The party girls will maybe grow up later and plague the party guys. Link to post Share on other sites
Isolde Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 There seem to be plenty of women in their 20s with their act together and who want something serious. . This is definitely true, none of my girlfriends are playing the numbers game. They're either in LTR's or single and looking for an R. Link to post Share on other sites
clv0116 Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 This is definitely true, none of my girlfriends are playing the numbers game. They're either in LTR's or single and looking for an R. Women seem to get ready for that a lot younger than men. Link to post Share on other sites
The Collector Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I'm just stating facts clv Men in their 40's just aren't as virile or attractive. Look at my profile pic and gaze upon the living definition of virility and attractiveness in a 40 year old. I wouldn't date anyone more than 15 years younger than me though. Too immature. Link to post Share on other sites
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