Why do many men kid themselves with the whole younger woman thing?

[burning 4 revenge]

Are you honestly lecturing me about double standards? Funny how up in arms you get when the "younger is better" statement you preceive I am making is about men being younger better. Yet when you say younger women are better, that's okay. Talk about double standards.

I think you have a crush on him

[clv0116]

Funny how up in arms you get when the "younger is better" statement you preceive I am making is about men being younger better.

 

Up in arms? I've agreed with it! I know I was better in many ways and overall in the past. I don't care about it though which is something you can't seem to understand. You seem to fixate on the fact that I'm dating younger women and that I won't consider courting an older lady.

[Cherished]

No, plenty of men aged 35 plus are pursuing, dating, and marrying women within their own age range. What about that don't you understand, clv???

[clv0116]

No, plenty of men aged 35 plus are pursuing, dating, and marrying women within their own age range. What about that don't you understand, clv???

 

No to ... what? What in my previous post are you saying no to?

[soserious1]

Ah, the internet, it is ever constant. Nice to know the pot is still being stirred.

 

I had dinner with a colleague, excellent fish, good wine, stimulating conversation.Hit the flower market and treated myself to 3 dozen

long stemmed roses which are totally lovely in vases around the house.

Am sipping coffee and brandy now.. quite a good day.

[Cherished]

SOME older men want to date younger women, not all. In fact, not the majority. Duh.

[Cherished]

Ah, the internet, it is ever constant. Nice to know the pot is still being stirred.

 

I had dinner with a colleague, excellent fish, good wine, stimulating conversation.Hit the flower market and treated myself to 3 dozen

long stemmed roses which are totally lovely in vases around the house.

Am sipping coffee and brandy now.. quite a good day.

 

Yes, clv never dates. He is always portraying his fake world of dating women in their 20s to the internet. That is how he spends his time.

[clv0116]

SOME older men want to date younger women, not all. In fact, not the majority. Duh.

 

Well it's hard to know motives, but it's pretty clear what turns mens heads and it's not older women. Of course many older men date and marry older women, that's an indisputable fact.

[Cherished]

Depends on the woman and the guy. Many,many, many women in their 30s and 40s turn many, many many men's heads. Obviously these men are not marrying women their own age range because they aren't in love and aren't attracted.

 

You are so out of touch with reality, clv.

Time to get off the internet.

[clv0116]

Anything looks good if you're starving. If you want to see what is most attractive to men look at the props that are used to market things to men.

[Jersey Shortie]

Up in arms? I've agreed with it! I know I was better in many ways and overall in the past. I don't care about it though which is something you can't seem to understand. You seem to fixate on the fact that I'm dating younger women and that I won't consider courting an older lady.

 

I could care less if you date younger women. That is not waht it's about. It's not about your personal dating life Clv. Not everything is about you. Funny though how around this board this is really the only topic you can talk about. Must really stick in your crawl. Had one or two women leave you did you?

 

It's really the fact that you think you are better then women your own age. You think you deserve things that women in your age group don't. And I have seen you say as much. I keep pointing out to you and you keep dodging. You atricously gave that advice that an older woman should take up knitting but that you as a man of the same age deserve to pursue a family. Completely ridiculous. It's one thing to be dating women and another hting to to tell women in your own age group that you feel pitty for them and they should somehow use knitting as a subsititue for a family while you can go out and try to get yours.

 

Seriously, you are no spring chicken and you are waiting for what? I mean, you are in your 40s. Crap or get off the pot. Not really fair to the women you are dating that they get stuck with some 40+ aging male that is going to be aging faster then them. When you finally have kids you are going to see that most of the fathers are much younger then yourself and your kids are going to be like "well why is my dad so much older then the other kids fathers".

[sumdude]

When you finally have kids you are going to see that most of the fathers are much younger then yourself and your kids are going to be like "well why is my dad so much older then the other kids fathers.

 

Interesting that you bring this up. It only really hit me as an adult that my dad was a bit older than my friends fathers. Especially now since I'm the first of my group to go through losing both of his parents.

 

Thing is that people are living longer now and having children later. Whether or not this is a good thing? Time will tell when the next generation grows up. I will say that the number of single parented children hasn't been a good thing IMHO. Seems like myself and one other friend of mine are the only ones whose folks stuck it out through think and thin. But that's a subject for a different thread.

 

I know for myself that if I have kids i hope to still be able to kick my 17 year old's butt if I absolutely had to.

[clv0116]

I could care less if you date younger women. That is not waht it's about. It's not about your personal dating life Clv. Not everything is about you. Funny though how around this board this is really the only topic you can talk about. Must really stick in your crawl. Had one or two women leave you did you?

 

Of course, and I've nexted a few as well - who hasn't? I believe the word you want here is craw, crawl makes no sense in this context.

 

 

It's really the fact that you think you are better then women your own age. You think you deserve things that women in your age group don't.

 

People who say they deserve something usually have the same idiotic mindset as morons who claim they "can't sell their house for what it's worth" and similar nonsense.

 

Life isn't about some farcical concept of deserving, it's about what you can actually get.

 

 

And I have seen you say as much.

 

Show me were I said I deserved something. Please.

 

 

.... Not really fair to the women you are dating that they get stuck with some 40+ aging male that is going to be aging faster then them.

 

First of all, they are fully formed adult humans capable of making their own life choices. Second, everyone ages at the same rate as long as you disregard minuscule relativistic effects.

[Jersey Shortie]

Interesting that you bring this up. It only really hit me as an adult that my dad was a bit older than my friends fathers. Especially now since I'm the first of my group to go through losing both of his parents.

 

Well it was obvious to me that my father was older then the other dads.

 

 

I know for myself that if I have kids i hope to still be able to kick my 17 year old's butt if I absolutely had to.

 

Of course you do. And that's perfectly normal to hope for that. I mean no offense but I think men have a harder time admitting to their own mortatlity then women do. If you are near 40 or already 40 by the time that kid is 17, you'll be 57 and logically and scientifcally, most 57 year old men can't keep up with a 17 year old.

 

 

Interesting that you bring this up. It only really hit me as an adult that my dad was a bit older than my friends fathers. Especially now since I'm the first of my group to go through losing both of his parents.

 

Thing is that people are living longer now and having children later. Whether or not this is a good thing? Time will tell when the next generation grows up. I will say that the number of single parented children hasn't been a good thing IMHO. Seems like myself and one other friend of mine are the only ones whose folks stuck it out through think and thin. But that's a subject for a different thread.

 

Show me were I said I deserved something. Please.

 

I think you purposely act obtuse when it suits you.

 

 

First of all, they are fully formed adult humans capable of making their own life choices. Second, everyone ages at the same rate as long as you disregard minuscule relativistic effects.

 

First, I never said adults weren't capable of making their own life choices. That's not even what it's about. Second, I am a different person now then when I was 20.

 

Third, yes the older you get the faster you age. Please ask any doctor. That's a medical fact. Of course, how you take care of yourself helps. But I hate to tell you, the older you get, the faster you age and someone at 40 is aging faster then someone who is 20. That's seriously a medical fact.

[clv0116]

First, I never said adults weren't capable of making their own life choices. That's not even what it's about. Second, I am a different person now then when I was 20.

 

So how is it unfair to let them decide what they want and permit them to act on it? As for your second point you will hopefully find that to be true for your whole life. Change is constant.

[Untouchable_Fire]

So how is it unfair to let them decide what they want and permit them to act on it? As for your second point you will hopefully find that to be true for your whole life. Change is constant.

 

Dude, if your 40 something with no kids... better to focus on women in their late 30's who are still willing to have kids.

 

You kinda missed the boat there and unless your rich, famous, or both... Your not going to pull a Larry King without scraping the bottom of the barrel.

 

If your really trying to chase girls in their 20's, your going to be very unhappy in 10 years if you land one. I say that because I've... uh... had some experiences with relationships like that.

[clv0116]

Dude,

 

....

 

If your really trying to chase girls in their 20's, your going to be very unhappy in 10 years if you land one. I say that because I've... uh... had some experiences with relationships like that.

 

Dude, I'm not having any problems unless you consider a few discussion board harpies a problem.

[Untouchable_Fire]

Dude, I'm not having any problems unless you consider a few discussion board harpies a problem.

 

I hear you... I'm just giving you a valuable piece of advice.

 

There have been way too many times I see some older guy marry a 20 something, and 10 years later she is slapping ham with another guy. I'm just saying your taking a much higher risk.

 

Just be realistic, don't think your going to be the worlds one exception.

[Jersey Shortie]

Healther Mills..and now Billy Joel's wife.

[clv0116]

Bob Scott, and Thomas Watson.

[Tony]

After more than 400 responses to the OP in this thread as well as the existence of many other threads dealing with the same topic in recent memory I think for now we should give this a rest and move on to more pressing issues.

 

Many thanks for your participation.