boxing123 Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 I'm sorry, but its hard to take you seriously while I live as a direct indication that your statement is incorrect. Then don't.. I know a 75 yr old women with a boyfriend. Big deal.. You must have missed my point. Link to post Share on other sites
sally4sara Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 Then don't.. I know a 75 yr old women with a boyfriend. Big deal.. You must have missed my point. Your point was that we wouldn't find GOOD men after a certain age and my life indicates you're wrong. No matter how YOU would decide a man to be good, mine would meet your mark and then some. Link to post Share on other sites
pollywag Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 We see older men like that too... they have nooo idea how dumb they look... They apparently have no clue how dumb and ridiculous they sound as well. Link to post Share on other sites
boxing123 Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 So if I make the statement "Playing the lottery is a waste of money", I would be wrong if a lottery winner said " I bought a ticket and won 50 million!" Yes, there are always exceptions. I have no clue about your relationship, nor do I care. Older women must settle greatly, and I bet you did as well, if you want to admit it or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Chicago_Guy Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 It's the same thing, I make no discrimination between displaced old douche bag men and displaced nut job cougars. They are all a pathetic sight to see, please! I also find it really annoying how women in particular, and I see this a lot, always have to preempt their sharing of pictures online with "look I am 40 but I look like I am 30 don't you think?" ahhh no you don't, you look 45 possibly even 48. Why are people always trying to be something they are clearly not? If you are 45 you should look 45 and look great at 45 not 45 trying to be 25. Be proud of how you look, stop with the " but I look a lot younger" it makes you look like a boob when you make comments like that. Men do it too. I see men always saying "I feel like I am 32 and am young at heart and I get told I am a lot younger than I am, when they are in their 40's 50's, well stop acting your shoe size and people will not only tell you what they really think about how you look but you will gain a LOT more respect while you are at it too. "You look like a 45 yr old douche bag trying to be a kid again, is that the look you were going for?" That kind of desperate self promotion and neediness to be reassured they look young, goes hand in hand with the same things I personally laugh at when I see a woman too old to be wearing her hair a certain way with a booby top and a mini skirt, get a grip!!! I used to work with a guy who was in his late 40s and would tell some of the girls in the office (he wasn't hitting on them) that he thought he looked like he was in his 30s. He did have a full head of hair and not much gray hair, but his face was wrinkled and looked withered. He also clearly had the build of a man who does not work out. I actually thought he was older than his biological age. He was kind of a joke around the office. Men with bad skin and who rarely if ever work out almost always look older than they are. As we age, our skin loses some elasticity and because of gravity our internal organs in our abdomens tend to push down and outward, giving us a "paunch" look unless we combat this natural tendency by, for example, keeping our abdominal muscles strong through regular workouts and crunches. Men with a bit of a punch look do tend to look older. I will admit, however, that the guy from my office did have a girlfriend who was in her mid-40s who was was extremely attractive, but she was the gold-digger type and wanted a huge engagement ring if they were to get married. Link to post Share on other sites
sally4sara Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 So if I make the statement "Playing the lottery is a waste of money", I would be wrong if a lottery winner said " I bought a ticket and won 50 million!" Yes, there are always exceptions. I have no clue about your relationship, nor do I care. Older women must settle greatly, and I bet you did as well, if you want to admit it or not. I didn't need to settle (I was too stupid to realize this when I was younger). The thing some women have'nt realized is there is no need for women to settle. We have what we need to replicate ourselves. Men don't. Besides, my company is entertaining. I'd rather be alone than settle. I did win the lottery. He is younger than I am AND a good influence on my son. See I don't care what age difference any couple has. I care about attitudes like your's and the damage they cause to others. Link to post Share on other sites
Cherished Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 Sorry if my post about the 37 year old virgin hit home with you. I suggest you go gay. uuummmm.... ok ? or done SOMETHING to further his career...now he finds himself at 37, a virgin, making $30,000 and paying for his own bennies. What a catch, huh, living in a dumpy downtown apartment? Hmmm... But it is not about the money. Posters like the above make it hard to like women. Link to post Share on other sites
Cherished Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 Ummm, at age 37 I have a good-looking 37 year old man who is a successful veterinarian interested. However I don't consider myself "older." What do you do for a living, Boxing? Because I think a woman would be greatly settling if she ended up with you. quote=boxing123;2112399]So if I make the statement "Playing the lottery is a waste of money", I would be wrong if a lottery winner said " I bought a ticket and won 50 million!" Yes, there are always exceptions. I have no clue about your relationship, nor do I care. Older women must settle greatly, and I bet you did as well, if you want to admit it or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Chicago_Guy Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 Sorry if my post about the 37 year old virgin hit home with you. I suggest you go gay. Wow, I wouldn't want to be on your bad side. I don't usually see women telling men to just give up and turn gay! Link to post Share on other sites
Cherished Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 Uh, he stated that women were what made him start hating women...so why not go gay? I don't see how this is an angry or aggressive post. The poster who said he hated women is the one who is angry He should release his anger toward women and become what he truly is and stop denying his homosexuality. Link to post Share on other sites
St. Nick Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 So much negativity in this thread. Most posters are taking the jealous female point-of-view and saying, "Older men who date much younger women are lechers". These women are adults. An adult male has the right to date an adult female irregardless of the age difference. Everybody has got to regulate something when it comes to other people's relationships: date within your own ethnicity, social class, religion, and now age. Gimme a break. Have you people ever thought about looking at the younger female's perspective? There are many young women who date older guys and it isn't only because of cash or because he "manipulated" her or because she was easy. There are other factors involved. Recently, I've been involved with an 18 yr. old senior at the local high school. Being 24 years old doesn't make me much older but there is a difference. I've been done with high school and most of college so much of that childishness and immaturity is behind me (maybe not). I could have easily gotten with a girl my own age but I honestly didn't specifically go looking for her. I liked her, she happened to be 18, and that was it for me. I wasn't preying on her or trying to date her because she's young and naive and easily manipulative. I just liked her. But the question remains, why did she choose me over men her age? Here are the reasons: 1. I have a job, a car, and my own apartment, unlike guys her age. 2. I'm more mature and I'm looking at my life in terms of long-term goals, unlike guys her age. 3. My maturity represents me more as a father figure. A recent study said many young women are attracted to older men because the men remind the women of their fathers, and give them the love, security, and comfort they may or may not have gotten from their real fathers. 4. I dress more respectably then the guys her age. 5. I've got more cash then the guys her age. Those are basically the main reasons. And yes, young women do find older men physically attractive. Why not? Many young men find older women attractive as well, like I do. Link to post Share on other sites
sally4sara Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 So much negativity in this thread. Most posters are taking the jealous female point-of-view and saying, "Older men who date much younger women are lechers". These women are adults. An adult male has the right to date an adult female irregardless of the age difference. Everybody has got to regulate something when it comes to other people's relationships: date within your own ethnicity, social class, religion, and now age. Gimme a break. Have you people ever thought about looking at the younger female's perspective? There are many young women who date older guys and it isn't only because of cash or because he "manipulated" her or because she was easy. There are other factors involved. Recently, I've been involved with an 18 yr. old senior at the local high school. Being 24 years old doesn't make me much older but there is a difference. I've been done with high school and most of college so much of that childishness and immaturity is behind me (maybe not). I could have easily gotten with a girl my own age but I honestly didn't specifically go looking for her. I liked her, she happened to be 18, and that was it for me. I wasn't preying on her or trying to date her because she's young and naive and easily manipulative. I just liked her. But the question remains, why did she choose me over men her age? Here are the reasons: 1. I have a job, a car, and my own apartment, unlike guys her age. 2. I'm more mature and I'm looking at my life in terms of long-term goals, unlike guys her age. 3. My maturity represents me more as a father figure. A recent study said many young women are attracted to older men because the men remind the women of their fathers, and give them the love, security, and comfort they may or may not have gotten from their real fathers. 4. I dress more respectably then the guys her age. 5. I've got more cash then the guys her age. Those are basically the main reasons. And yes, young women do find older men physically attractive. Why not? Many young men find older women attractive as well, like I do. Most of the people in this thread don't take issue with age difference, but rather the attitude and motives behind some of the viewpoints on the subject. 24 is not too different from 18 and I doubt she say you as a father figure. Link to post Share on other sites
St. Nick Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 Most of the people in this thread don't take issue with age difference, but rather the attitude and motives behind some of the viewpoints on the subject. 24 is not too different from 18 and I doubt she say you as a father figure. I'm mainly taking offense to people being quick to judge the motives and attitudes. Older men don't always "prey" on younger women or only do it because they are easy to manipulate. Irregardless of the age gap these women are adults. These men have the right to get into a relationship and shouldn't feel dirty about it. The same thing goes for younger women dating older men. They aren't breaking any rules other than offending a few stick-in-the-muds. Let them do what they want to do. When you say 24 isn't too different from 18 you're thinking of things in the mathematical sense. I'm talking about as far as experience and maturity goes. My girl is in high school, lives off her parents, and is uncertain about her future. I've got my degree, live on my own, and am certain where I'm headed. We're at two different stages in our lives. She definitely sees me as a father figure because I know many things she doesn't. I've matured and understand more than she does. My older brother is my father figure and he's only 3 years older than me. But he knows way more stuff than I do and taught me more about women, friendship, life, and all that good stuff way more than my actual. Many people look up to a person who is only a few years older than they are. That's how many relationships work. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CommitmentPhobe Posted April 1, 2009 Author Share Posted April 1, 2009 . Most posters are taking the jealous female point-of-view and saying, "Older men who date much younger women are lechers". Given that the OP is male, you can't bring female jealousy into it. That's precisely why I started the thread. Nice try to assign a motive that doesn't exist though. I'm mainly taking offense to people being quick to judge the motives and attitudes. Quite ironic really Older men don't always "prey" on younger women or only do it because they are easy to manipulate "Don't always" being the key words here, you have just yourself implied that it happens so what's your objection to many of us finding it reprehensible? Incidentally if you notice the title of the thread it says "many" and not "all". It's not like I made a grossly incorrect blanket statement like And yes, young women do find older men physically attractive. That's not what some of the younger women have said on this thread Link to post Share on other sites
Sibyl Vane Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 That's not what some of the younger women have said on this thread The "eew, they're icky!" responses are not exactly something you should be taking as what the majority feel. Those that don't sound like little girls in pigtails playing in the mud would probably be better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CommitmentPhobe Posted April 1, 2009 Author Share Posted April 1, 2009 The "eew, they're icky!" responses are not exactly something you should be taking as what the majority feel. Those that don't sound like little girls in pigtails playing in the mud would probably be better. Since when has it been the majority trend for men to marry a decade younger? Link to post Share on other sites
pollywag Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 The "eew, they're icky!" responses are not exactly something you should be taking as what the majority feel. Those that don't sound like little girls in pigtails playing in the mud would probably be better. Excuse me I am not 21 and I concur it is "ewww and icky". GROSSSS!! A middle aged man getting it on with a 19 yr old girl is gross, plain and simple. HE is and old pervert that is abusing a girl. A 24 yr old guy going out with an 18 yr old girl is not eww or icky because they are in the same age bracket. Not to mention their brains are developing at the same level. That is a normal healthy pairing. The prefrontal cortex of adolescents continues to grow and develop well until the age of 24 yrs of age. The reason why teenagers make poor choices and show dodgy judgment when it comes to life decisions is because their brains are still under development. In comes old bag McGrandpervy and you tell me he is on the level with a 19 yr old girl? "Ask the "mature" 19 yr olds to pipe in?" :rolleyes: Spare me on the, "ask girls that are more mature" The ones that are mature are the ones saying it is disgusting, most women all over the world find old perverts disgusting unless you are in hollywood or a band. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 Excuse me I am not 21 and I concur it is "ewww and icky". GROSSSS!! A middle aged man getting it on with a 19 yr old girl is gross, plain and simple. HE is and old pervert that is abusing a girl. A 24 yr old guy going out with an 18 yr old girl is not eww or icky because they are in the same age bracket. Not to mention their brains are developing at the same level. That is a normal healthy pairing. The prefrontal cortex of adolescents continues to grow and develop well until the age of 24 yrs of age. The reason why teenagers make poor choices and show dodgy judgment when it comes to life decisions is because their brains are still under development. In comes old bag McGrandpervy and you tell me he is on the level with a 19 yr old girl? "Ask the "mature" 19 yr olds to pipe in?" :rolleyes: Spare me on the, "ask girls that are more mature" The ones that are mature are the ones saying it is disgusting, most women all over the world find old perverts disgusting unless you are in hollywood or a band. Im 34 and Im halfway decent looking Your average 21 year old wouldnt find me gross. Maybe inappropriate, but certainly not gross...in fact some would rather like it Link to post Share on other sites
Sibyl Vane Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 Since when has it been the majority trend for men to marry a decade younger? That wasn't my meaning. I've just read a couple "omg that is like soooo gross" comments and it kinda pissed me off, really. In the real world, if I walked up to someone that was 35 or 40 and said "like omg you're sooo old and gross!" I'd be branded a bitch. Here it's the smart and mature thing to think? I don't think so... Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 There are quite a few younger women who have their heads on straight that actually date a bit older because they can relate better to older men and feel that they are more mature. They are into older stuff that is beyind their age and an older man is a better match. This works in reverse as well because a mature young man will not relate to most women his age. I am a prime example of that. People who deny their age of either gender are sort of pathetic. Yeah the toupee wearing men who dress like kids look absurd but so do the overly botoxed women who have been carved up like a turkey by the plastic surgeoun. You put them next to a wax figure and you wouldn't be able to dell the difference. Link to post Share on other sites
pollywag Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 That wasn't my meaning. I've just read a couple "omg that is like soooo gross" comments and it kinda pissed me off, really. In the real world, if I walked up to someone that was 35 or 40 and said "like omg you're sooo old and gross!" I'd be branded a bitch. Here it's the smart and mature thing to think? I don't think so... We're not talking about walking up to random people on the street and telling them "OMG you are so gross" because they are older. People are not gross for being older. We are talking about an older man trying to get it on with someone more than half his age, that IS gross. And most people in their early 20's think it is or find it funny to even fathom the idea of being with an older perv. Sorry you can't see that. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 We're not talking about walking up to random people on the street and telling them "OMG you are so gross" because they are older. People are not gross for being older. We are talking about an older man trying to get it on with someone more than half his age, that IS gross. And most people in their early 20's think it is or find it funny to even fathom the idea of being with an older perv. Sorry you can't see that. but is it really perverted to sscrew a 21 year old (a) because you like her and (b) just to prove you can still do it i can understand its not right but its certainly not perverted. not likemaking out with a drag queen is perverted Link to post Share on other sites
Sibyl Vane Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 We're not talking about walking up to random people on the street and telling them "OMG you are so gross" because they are older. People are not gross for being older. We are talking about an older man trying to get it on with someone more than half his age, that IS gross. And most people in their early 20's think it is or find it funny to even fathom the idea of being with an older perv. Sorry you can't see that. It's cool, I can see your point. but is it really perverted to sscrew a 21 year old (a) because you like her and (b) just to prove you can still do it i can understand its not right but its certainly not perverted. not likemaking out with a drag queen is perverted Yes, makeout sessions with drag queens tend to be rather perverted. Been there, done that. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 It's cool, I can see your point. Yes, makeout sessions with drag queens tend to be rather perverted. Been there, done that. do tell Link to post Share on other sites
Sibyl Vane Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 do tell I'm sure if you used your imagination it would be far less disappointing. Link to post Share on other sites
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