georgejungle Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 unless you ACT! (on goals, things you'd like to accomplish) I've been one of the BIGGEST DAYDREAMERS in the world. All i do is dream. It's all i've ever done. BUT, what good are dreams if you're not going to do anything to achieve them and put 110% of yourself into getting what you want in life? I'm 32 and I feel not so much like a "failure" but more like "I shoulda tried harder at what i wanted when i was younger". fear of rejection, feeling unsure about myself, fear of failure, I guess i've been in denial about those things, but they are very much in me. I'm happily married, a happy new father, but I feel like i wasted so many years before, just daydreaming and not TRULY acting, yet, i thought i was. My Daydreaming has been so bad that I dream about what i want and tell myself what i want to do and before i know it, it's 6 months later and I still haven't acted on it. Why? I want to change right now, this minute. I want to get what i want out of life and although I see it so clearly in my mind, I DON'T Know where to start...it feels very pathetic Link to post Share on other sites
Ross PK Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 The main obstacle that I'm having is like you I really don't know where to start. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 baby steps. i.e., breaking down the goals into very manageable increments. Checklists are also good, because there's a certain satisfaction in marking stuff off ... proof that you're being proactive rather than just procrastinating (my bad habit in particular). also, keep your mind open to all possibilities. Some daydreams are great, but others dont translate into "reality" because they're so pie in the sky. Or aren't what you thought they'd be. So when you come to a fork in the road, don't be stuck on "having" to go a particular path, but consider the options. You never know what improvements you'll discover. Link to post Share on other sites
Author georgejungle Posted March 30, 2009 Author Share Posted March 30, 2009 The main obstacle that I'm having is like you I really don't know where to start. it's hard. It sounds silly to my ears to say that, but it truly is hard knowing where to start. I can crush the fears somedays and get that drive to JUST DO IT! But then i'm stuck with knowing where to start. I feel like there's a messy room and i'm prepared to clean it and work hard now, but where do i start?? i.e., breaking down the goals into very manageable increments. Checklists are also good, because there's a certain satisfaction in marking stuff off ... proof that you're being proactive rather than just procrastinating (my bad habit in particular). i've tried this and it helps to get it all written out, clears my mind, but then i NEVER get to the list....Ugh... I need to make another list, an updated list and start checking things off once and for all. You're right. Link to post Share on other sites
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