ended relationship

[candy]

i recently ended a relationship with a guy that i really cared about because deep inside of me i didn't think he love me and i told him my feelings and he left and have not attempt to show me that i am wrong. we had dated for five years, five years of being faithful to a boyfriend that didn't even care. could i be wrong to end such a relationship base on my feelings.

[Tony T]

You are NEVER, EVER wrong to do anything (legal) based on your feelings.

 

However, you need to do some work on timing. If you didn't feel he was caring for you after three or four months, that's when you should have split. You are a patient lass, indeed.

 

There are millions of people in relationships with people who either don't care for them or don't care at a level that meets their needs. So often we stay in a relationship because we love somebody and so very much hope that tomorrow they will somehow click onto us and start loving us more. But tomorrow is often as flat as today but we keep on hoping. You, my friend, are the champion optimist.

 

There are actually people who MARRY people who they know deep down do not care for them in a significant way. It is a tortuous experience that always ends in great hurt and pain.

 

Praise yourself greatly for being willing to face the fact that this dude was not right for you, no matter how much you loved him. It's not easy to recognize that a person we love dearly doesn't care whether or not we exist. We have to feel that the person who is with us cares in a deep way, otherwise the relationship is empty, unfulfilling, and awesomely lonely.

 

You will recover from this episode and once that happens you will be ready to begin dating once again. Listen and PAY ATTENTION to your feelings. When you meet someone YOU care about who ALSO cares about you, you have found something. This will happen but please give yourself time. It doesn't happen every single day.

 

You did the RIGHT thing!!!