samsungxoxo Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 I felt like sharing this even though it is now long ago since it happened. I am quite sure this is not a way an uncle (esp. if it's your uncle by blood) should act on his own niece. Ok so I was 19 at the time I chose to not mentioned it to anyone not even my boyfriend nor father. I decided to get it go but off course will not talk to him again unless it's a family reunion and thus I got no choice. So anyways to make the story short he starts asking personal questions about my relationship with boyfriend and well at first I though it was cool to have an opened-minded uncle that talks about sex, relationships and those youth issues. He tells me if I wanted to watched porn videos ok, he has them. Another day he brings them porn flicks but when my mom ain't there and ok I felt kinda weird but I just thought well maybe I got an open-minded uncle. So far until he asked a question I didn't expected and it freaked me out then. He was like ''Is your boobs getting aroused (from the flicked), can I see, feel them''. I say no right away to which he was like '' But I'm your uncle''. Inside I thinking ''Ok he's weird, if he's my uncle then he shouldn't have acted like that nor ask me that''. Then he left but was somewhat disappointed I say no. Plus I noticed he looked at me in a different way, not as an uncle. Ok do some uncles (well he's my dad's older brother) act like that when their nieces start growing up?? Because that was super weird. Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 You were 19. Most 19 year old women would have found it strange and insulting that her Uncle would want to watch porn with them. The fact that you did, maybe because you simply didnt know how to react - was a green light to him. Either way - his behavior was disgusting if not criminal. Should you see him again, you have every right to tell him so. KEEP HIM AWAY FROM THE YOUNG WOMEN IN YOUR FAMILY. And tell him that you will be watching. The bast*ard. Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted April 1, 2009 Author Share Posted April 1, 2009 Yes I am avoiding any possible contact with him. I don't even wanna hear from him but if he were to one of these days come to visit my father then all I would say is ''hi'' and then avoid him the whole day. But yea if I were to catch him doing something similar to another young girl then yes he will be exposed. I just didn't think he would watch porn with me but I though he was only gonna lend me one (according to him so I can have an idea of more positions to do on my boyfriend) and then I would return it. But then when he was watching it with me and then asking that questions then I realize that no an uncle doesn't act that way so I say no to the question and told him to leave. Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 Well, you may not be there to catch him. Someday you will say something to him...when you have girls of your own. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 I wouldn't wait that long, and I'd make sure there were 2-3 other people present AND LISTENING when you have the conversation with him. His behavior is disturbing, and it's not natural ... Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 Tell your parents. This type of thing should never be a family secret. Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted April 1, 2009 Author Share Posted April 1, 2009 Tell your parents. This type of thing should never be a family secret. As I stated it has long been since that incidence (I'm gonna turn 22 this month) and I choice to let it go and don't wanna ruin his marriage either but if he ever visits my parents then I for sure will keep my eyes open. Yes if he ever comes up with that again on me or some other girl he will be exposed. I wonder if he even feels guity for acting that way to his own niece, that might be a reason why he has not contact my father for sooo long. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 As I stated it has long been since that incidence (I'm gonna turn 22 this month) and I choice to let it go and don't wanna ruin his marriage either but if he ever visits my parents then I for sure will keep my eyes open. I wonder if he even feels guity for acting that way to his own niece, that might be a reason why he has not contact my father for sooo long. Does he have any daughters or exposure to other nieces or young girls? While you chose to let it go, is it fair to anyone else that he might be incestuously inappropriate with? Things to consider. Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted April 1, 2009 Author Share Posted April 1, 2009 Does he have any daughters or exposure to other nieces or young girls? No he has an only son who is now like 30 years old. As for other niece yes but she's in another country. While you chose to let it go, is it fair to anyone else that he might be incestuously inappropriate with? Things to consider. Thus why I say that if I catch or find out he's doing that to some other girl then yes I will exposed him. I'm sure the wife (my aunt) has no idea what he is like nor does his son. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 No he has an only son who is now like 30 years old. As for other niece yes but she's in another country.That's good. Thus why I say that if I catch or find out he's doing that to some other girl then yes I will exposed him. I'm sure the wife (my aunt) has no idea what he is like nor does his son.But isn't that too late, where the damage has already been done? I don't know how old you are now but you're still mulling over something that happened to you when you were 19. Anyways, I'm glad that you're willing to expose him if you hear about anything again. I just wish you would do it before it happens to anyone else but I also understand why you might not want to. People like that should be shot. Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted April 1, 2009 Author Share Posted April 1, 2009 But isn't that too late, where the damage has already been done? I don't know how old you are now but you're still mulling over something that happened to you when you were 19. Yeah I know it's kinda late but I felt like sharing it. As for how old I'm I now. I will be turning 22 this month. Anyways, I'm glad that you're willing to expose him if you hear about anything again. I just wish you would do it before it happens to anyone else but I also understand why you might not want to. Yeah I don't wanna cause trouble. Like I stated I assume he must be feeling guilt about it, I don't know. Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 The important thing here is that YOU feel no guilt about what HE is guilty of. You learned a life lesson. You were the victim. Incorporate the knowledge of that lesson into your life. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 How long ago did this happen? Either way you need to tell your parents, your uncle's behaviour is NOT normal! Link to post Share on other sites
wuggle Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 Your uncle sounds to me like a crude, immature, horrible little man who is to be avoided and pitied. You say he is your father's older brother, so evidently way to old to consider a liason with you as viable (regardless of relationships), normal or socially acceptable, yet the things he is saying are suggestive and as though he is trying to start some sort of sexual relation with you. Until this man apologies for his inappropriate behavious I strongly suggest you stay well clear of him, even in social or family circumstances, he has not grown up sufficiently to realise that the suggestions he is making are grossly inappropriate. Basically he is a creep, avoid him. Him making a pass at you is NOT your problem is is HIS. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 Make this known to your parents. Even though this is behind you and you are trying to deal with it, even though there are no other nieces.... It disgusts me to say this but in years to come there may be granddaughters. Please just think of how you might feel in 10, 15, 20 years time if you do not say anything. Don't rely on whether you hear anything, it may be too late. Until now, who have you told who could have changed things for you? Sorry but this really turns my stomach. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 You wont * catch him * at it molesting a younger girl because most child molesters go to elaborate attempts to do their deed and do it unoticed. Please don't wait until one of your sisters or neices is another victim. I would contact the Rape Crisis Center and ask them what they can advise you do and to protect your female family members . Also the most scarey thing is ...maybe its not limited to the female members... Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 Never let him buy you a drink. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted April 3, 2009 Author Share Posted April 3, 2009 Never let him buy you a drink. LOL No definately not. Link to post Share on other sites
sarah63 Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 omg, this really makes me sick too, that is just not normal behavior of an uncle. You should really tell your parents, even if it was years ago, it doesn't matter, they need to know what this sick man was trying to do. You poor thing, I send you a big hug and I wish you the best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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