Mixed Signals and Confused?

[BklynGuy]

I was dating a girl for 4 years. When we met, I was 19 and she was 20. First 3 years were good, with drama and ups and downs. Then, a situation arose that seemed as if I was cheating with a friend - but was not.

 

After that, relationship took a nosedive. It just wasn't the "same." Girlfriend breaks up w/me after 3 years stating "I want to be married at age 26." This was immediately after telling her I'm leaving my job and going back to school. I get another full time job to keep her happy and go to school at night & on weekends.

 

Told this girl I would marry her when I have myself together. She's a teacher working on Masters. I have an AS and am working on BA. Job doesn't work out after 1 year so I quit. Went through a rough period this past summer and didn't work or go to school. Guess it's the 'Quarter life crisis.' For the last year, something inside told me there's another guy in the picture.

 

In July, 2003 I ask my GF about it over the phone. "You always seem like you're hiding something." She tells me "Maybe we shouldn't be together." Heart Breaks right then and there! We were planning to go out that night also. I tell her "Goodbye." Call her one week later and she yells in a tone I've NEVER heard before. It was scary, as if she had turned against me.

 

2 months later she sends me a card telling me how she's doing and to give her a call. We speak (On a Sunday night) and she's all frinedly/flirting. I don't know what to make of it. I visit her on Monday night and ask her what she wants from me. "Demonstrate to me that you can make something of yourself. Are you ready for sunday dinner? Instill my values in our kids?I'd go back with you in a heartbeat." I was so mad @ her I didn't even absorb her words.

 

She tells me I need to see that you can change before I come back. WHAT!? I tell her to come back now or leave it alone forever! She says "Let nature take its course." I say fine "Goodbye, Adios!" She gets out of my car and slams the door saying "I don't want it to be forever." I also told her I want the memory of our relationship to die in my mind.

 

Is she playing games? Is she serious? I dunno what to make of things! We haven't been speaking since we broke up. For four years, I valued this woman more than anything, treating her well. She was my priority! What should I do? Part of me wants her back, and part of me says just leave it all behind and start fresh. Please give feedback.

[VASH THE STAMPEDE]

Originally posted by BklynGuy

"Demonstrate to me that you can make something of yourself. Are you ready for sunday dinner? Instill my values in our kids?I'd go back with you in a heartbeat." I was so mad @ her I didn't even absorb her words.

She tells me I need to see that you can change before I come back.

Do you have kids with her???

What she probably felt at the time you quited your job and schooling was that things were probably not gonna get better so she didn't want to stay.