How do you deal with being ugly ?

[johan]

He's been attending the boxing123 school of dating.

 

Attending school?!! Ha ha ha ha... More excellent irony! This is my new favorite thread!

[sotired]

LOL....And you wonder why you can't get laid??

[EllieBean]

BoredPerson, I seriously hope you are a troll who's trying to get a reaction from people - because if not, you really are some sort of retard and haven't got a hope in hell of ever getting a decent girl.

[SoulSearch_CO]

Can we give up on the absolutism that my 'attitude' that is disagreeing with you is what causes all of my problems?

 

It is part of the problem that I described for myself where people say that image does not matter, neither do looks, but then when it comes to real decision making and the actions that they take; their decisions and actions indicate that looks and image where a big part of why they did what they did.

 

So a good looking guy that talks about how he banged this girl, and that girl, and how the girl cries over him when he acts like a total jerk then deciding that all men are *******s must have a really good attitdue because he gets women and I don't?

I'm sorry but it is your attitude. I've been initially attracted to a man and his attitude ****s it up completely. I've also had the opposite happen - being completely not attracted at first glance but his attitude completely changes my opinion of the guy. I've seen really unattractive people treated quite normal...it's their ATTITUDE.

 

The mere fact that you keep bringing it up and keep bringing it up and keep bringing it up tells me it's your attitude. It's aggravating because you already posted a thread about how ugly you are - did you do ANYTHING recommended in that thread? I doubt it - you just came back to complain yet again at the genetic cards dealt you. It's the same as somebody complaining about the state of the world (poverty, hunger, violence, etc), but not doing a DAMN thing to change it. It gets old very, very quickly. It's self-pitying and honestly a really bad trait.

 

If you don't like something about your life, CHANGE IT. But you know what - you're not going to change. I've known guys like you and it's like talking to a brick wall.

 

No, I don't think my words are harsh. I don't deal well with pessimism, negativity and self-pity because not a single one of them provides for forward movement - it just proves that person is not interested in changing. I would just ignore the guy, but what's the point? I'm going to have to continue to see his "ugly" threads hanging around the dating forum. I hardly think "How do you deal with being ugly?" is a dating thread. I'd say this is in the wrong forum. How about Coping?

[Els]

I now feel profound sympathy for all the men in this thread who've read the OP's latest post. Please don't feel embarrassed and think that we'll lump all men into 'neanderthal idiot' category because of the posts of one mentally-challenged individual who happens to be male. We won't. Promise.

[knaveman]

Women are stupid. They're wired differently to men. Why aren't there many female engineers or scientists ? Or managers of large companies ? Because women are not smart enough to do those jobs.

 

A few are, and we should allow them to do whatever they want to do. But the rest are much better suited to mundane professions and administrative tasks. A woman would much rather be a pretty receptionist than a professional. Only society molds women, and women do exactly as they're told.

 

Women are the smallers sex, they're designed for the express purpose of having children and thereby their main purpose is having sex with men. That is why men objectify women, because they exist primarly for sex. A woman is not supposed to be able to solve problems, or be useful she is designed to wait around for a man to get pregnant and to raise a child. She has just enough intelligence to collect berries.

 

Obviously there is a need for some women to be intelligent and there are many intelligent women. Women who probably evolved to make sure the other women back in the cave don't walk off a clifff.

 

But more often than not women fit into one of these stereotypes. As there are stereotypes for men only different kinds.

 

The reason for all of this statement is to show you why you are making the ridiculous statement that you are making. That somehow 'looks don't matter'. The reason you are saying what you are saying is because you are a woman, and you do as you are told. Someone told you that is is they way it is so you believe it without question.

 

Most people believe it so you think it must be true. Now you can decide to be intelligent, you can open your mind and try to learn or you can live in your ignoranace and continue to collect berries.

 

Choice is yours. Become smarter. Or don'.t

 

Your attitude it ugly and that is an ugly you will never get over.

[victim_of_love]

Not only in terms of trying to find a partner but life in general. Especially livining in a world where looks and image is so important yet where it is important for people to deny that your appearance has an impact.

 

In many parts of life being ugly has a big impact at work I find it difficult to have confidence because most other people there are much better looking than myself. I am very big and ugly.

 

How do you deal with getting to know a member of the opposite sex, finding them to be wonderful then realising that nothing can ever happen because of the way you look.

 

How do you deal with the vain people who like to tell you that looks don't matter ? I need help dealing with all of these issues.

 

The word "Ugly" is a personal point of view. It is not really something you can be. In all honesty, NO one is ugly. Ugly is what you make it. Anything we find that does not appeal to our liking at all is particularly ugly. Apparently, you don't like how you look because people don't like how you look, so you think you're ugly.....that is a bad way to think dude.

 

Whoever is making you think you are ugly, get rid of them. You don't need to have anyone killing your self-confidence. Besides, who is going to think you're handsome when YOU don't think so? When you find self-confidence in yourself, loving yourself, and actually start believing that you are not ugly then people will start believing it too. When you don't show value for yourself, then why should they?

[Bermudagirl]

If you think you are ugly then do something about it. I don't care what you say there is always a solution! But really I don't think that being ugly is your problem. I think you just like whining about your problems so that people will feel sorry for you. That sympathy from others gives you an ego boost.

[MindoverMatter]

With all due respect, there is such a thing as ugly and denial doesn't help anybody. Think quasimodo. People can have an inner beauty that makes the outer one irrelevant, but they have a harder time to get people to notice them favourably and get to know them in the first place.

 

But men don't have the same pressure to be pretty as women. If a man is ugly, but has a great body, great posture and an interesting life, he is still a catch. And he will have an even better chance with women if he knows that he isn't the most gorgeous piece of ass on the planet.

 

So, yeah, there is ugly, but ugly isn't a death sentence. If you're ugly and whine, insult women and pity yourself, however, you might as well give up your penis society membership card, because you won't ever get to reach the honey pot.

 

[BoredPerson]

Oh please. I even said that there are some women who are as smart as men.

 

Everyone is politically correct about things and doesn't want to offend women because they love their wives, girlfriends, and daughters too much.

 

This feminist matra of everyone being equal has gone on long enough. Without women the only thing men couldn't do would be to procreate. Without men women would be helpless, they'd all die very quickly.

 

There is nothing wrong with this situation and there is nothing wrong with being a helpless woman. Men love women, and we naturally want to look after them and make sure they're safe.

 

The only reason I brought this up was because of these silly comments I am being given by women who are making these far our claims that 'looks don't matter' as though they have something intelligent to say. Honey, sorry, but you really are just a girl. You have all these warm fuzzy feelings and thats great that you love your boyfriend for who he is and nothing else came into it but please, keep these warm fuzzy feelings to yourself. They're part of what makes you female, and part of that is you can't understand logic. Which means ignoring facts.

 

Now all of this is fine and I think you are just as important as any man but it is about time women started to realise that they're 'just women' a lot of the time.

 

Unforunately I have to live in the real world. A world you can't understand because you can't understand facts or reality, your world is a twisted mass of emotion. Men, have to live by different rules. if we fail and die no one is going to look after us. So ladies, try to have a little bit of understanding for what men go through that you do not.

[BoredPerson]

With all due respect, there is such a thing as ugly and denial doesn't help anybody. Think quasimodo. People can have an inner beauty that makes the outer one irrelevant, but they have a harder time to get people to notice them favourably and get to know them in the first place.

 

But men don't have the same pressure to be pretty as women. If a man is ugly, but has a great body, great posture and an interesting life, he is still a catch. And he will have an even better chance with women if he knows that he isn't the most gorgeous piece of ass on the planet.

 

So, yeah, there is ugly, but ugly isn't a death sentence. If you're ugly and whine, insult women and pity yourself, however, you might as well give up your penis society membership card, because you won't ever get to reach the honey pot.

 

 

I used to be all of those things. I worked out contantly while I got my degree I worked in a warehouse and made nearly 30 an hour. I dressed well and I was social but women still wouldn't date me. The reason was that I am an ugly man.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

Your attitude it ugly and that is an ugly you will never get over.

I agree 110% theres been a few trolls around I think lately and this thread is starting to reek I wonder if there all not the same sad person to be honest.

 

No point in giving it anymore attention but Bored wont mind if all the females here ignore him as he puts it were almost all stupid anyways good luck with that lol...:lmao:

[BoredPerson]

I agree 110% theres been a few trolls around I think lately and this thread is starting to reek I wonder if there all not the same sad person to be honest.

 

No point in giving it anymore attention but Bored wont mind if all the females here ignore him as he puts it were almost all stupid anyways good luck with that lol...:lmao:

 

I never said you are almost all stupid I said that women can be just as smart as men but they usually are not.

 

You can go along believing whatever you want but the fact is that the most intelligent people on the planet are almost always men. Get a room full of random 17 year old boys and ask them to do math, 75% of them will tell you to die in a fire because they won't see how they'll ever be able to use it.

 

But if you held a gun to their heads they'd be able to do the math. A classroom full of random 17 year old girls simply would not be able to do the math so you'd have to shoot them in the head.

 

Guns aside if you held both groups up in the room, eventually they boys would understand the work, while the girls would probably end up crying and would prefer to write about feelings and puppies instead.

 

I don't want this to be confused with woman hating. I love women which is the point of my unhappiness at the moment is that I don't have anyone. Now you people asking what I expect to get out of this, probably not a lot. But it helps me to be able to whinge and complain, or I could drink myself out of it which has worked in the past but probably isn't the healthhiest idea.

 

Furthermore, given the *ahem* demographic I don't expect that anyone is really going to be getting ANY answers from this forum. I mean that because a large percentage of members are not exactly the sharpest tools in the shed.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

I never said you are almost all stupid I said that women can be just as smart as men but they usually are not.

 

You can go along believing whatever you want but the fact is that the most intelligent people on the planet are almost always men. Get a room full of random 17 year old boys and ask them to do math, 75% of them will tell you to die in a fire because they won't see how they'll ever be able to use it.

 

But if you held a gun to their heads they'd be able to do the math. A classroom full of random 17 year old girls simply would not be able to do the math so you'd have to shoot them in the head.

 

Guns aside if you held both groups up in the room, eventually they boys would understand the work, while the girls would probably end up crying and would prefer to write about feelings and puppies instead.

 

I don't want this to be confused with woman hating. I love women which is the point of my unhappiness at the moment is that I don't have anyone. Now you people asking what I expect to get out of this, probably not a lot. But it helps me to be able to whinge and complain, or I could drink myself out of it which has worked in the past but probably isn't the healthhiest idea.

 

Furthermore, given the *ahem* demographic I don't expect that anyone is really going to be getting ANY answers from this forum. I mean that because a large percentage of members are not exactly the sharpest tools in the shed.

You really are uglier then you thought arnt ya..

[BoredPerson]

You really are uglier then you thought arnt ya..

 

I am ugly on the inside and on the outside.

[MindoverMatter]

I never said you are almost all stupid I said that women can be just as smart as men but they usually are not.

 

You can go along believing whatever you want but the fact is that the most intelligent people on the planet are almost always men. Get a room full of random 17 year old boys and ask them to do math, 75% of them will tell you to die in a fire because they won't see how they'll ever be able to use it.

 

But if you held a gun to their heads they'd be able to do the math. A classroom full of random 17 year old girls simply would not be able to do the math so you'd have to shoot them in the head.

 

Guns aside if you held both groups up in the room, eventually they boys would understand the work, while the girls would probably end up crying and would prefer to write about feelings and puppies instead.

 

I don't want this to be confused with woman hating. I love women which is the point of my unhappiness at the moment is that I don't have anyone. Now you people asking what I expect to get out of this, probably not a lot. But it helps me to be able to whinge and complain, or I could drink myself out of it which has worked in the past but probably isn't the healthhiest idea.

 

Furthermore, given the *ahem* demographic I don't expect that anyone is really going to be getting ANY answers from this forum. I mean that because a large percentage of members are not exactly the sharpest tools in the shed.

 

1. That's a sick scenario.

 

2. While there are some differences between the genders and which kind of mental exercise they excel in, there is a greater gap between the most and least mathematically adept female then between average joe and average jane in the same field.

 

3. Do the same thing but ask both groups to learn a language, and then the girls will be more likely to give you better results. And not knowing how to say "I come in peace" is more likely to get you killed then not knowing how to construct a geometrical figure.

 

4. You don't love women, if you would, you would not spew venom like you do. You're looking for affirmation from the world. A pat on the back. You want to be recognized as the big pimp who has the girl with the huge tatas. You lack confidence on all levels, and this is what makes you an outsider. The chip on your shoulder is the size of the US.

 

My prediction:

Soon, the old posters will leave your threads alone. With the exception of some new people who will initially respond to you, you will be unnoticed. And in time, you will leave the boards, once again thinking that you proved that the world is a ghastly place and the universe hates you.

[BoredPerson]

1. That's a sick scenario.

 

2. While there are some differences between the genders and which kind of mental exercise they excel in, there is a greater gap between the most and least mathematically adept female then between average joe and average jane in the same field.

 

3. Do the same thing but ask both groups to learn a language, and then the girls will be more likely to give you better results. And not knowing how to say "I come in peace" is more likely to get you killed then not knowing how to construct a geometrical figure.

 

4. You don't love women, if you would, you would not spew venom like you do. You're looking for affirmation from the world. A pat on the back. You want to be recognized as the big pimp who has the girl with the huge tatas. You lack confidence on all levels, and this is what makes you an outsider. The chip on your shoulder is the size of the US.

 

My prediction:

Soon, the old posters will leave your threads alone. With the exception of some new people who will initially respond to you, you will be unnoticed. And in time, you will leave the boards, once again thinking that you proved that the world is a ghastly place and the universe hates you.

 

Where did I say I want the woman with the biggest breasts? You are making things up.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

I am ugly on the inside and on the outside.

You got that right I think you need to seek some help I agree thats a sick sinario...

[Els]

The only reason I brought this up was because of these silly comments I am being given by women who are making these far our claims that 'looks don't matter' as though they have something intelligent to say. Honey, sorry, but you really are just a girl. You have all these warm fuzzy feelings and thats great that you love your boyfriend for who he is and nothing else came into it but please, keep these warm fuzzy feelings to yourself. They're part of what makes you female, and part of that is you can't understand logic. Which means ignoring facts.

 

Now all of this is fine and I think you are just as important as any man but it is about time women started to realise that they're 'just women' a lot of the time.

 

I'm not even gonna bother to respond to the first part of your post, it's too much a waste of my time.

 

The 2nd part that I quoted above is slightly less a waste of my time, since you actually sounded convincing enough there that a young naive teen reading that might actually think that you're telling the truth, so I feel bound by duty to explain how utterly illogical what you're saying is.

 

WHO are the people whom you claim to not be interested in you because you're ugly physically? Women.

 

Then when real women come and tell you that no, looks don't matter all that much to us, what do you say? That we're 'just a girl', and that what we're saying is stupid.

 

But we're of the same gender as the same women as the ones whom you ASSUME are rejecting you because of your looks. Are you a woman? No. Are we women? Yes. Who knows better then, whether or not looks matter that much to a woman? The poster who is a woman, or the poster who is NOT a woman?

 

Of course, due to your tendency to ignore facts and logic, my post will probably be skipped over by you, or put aside with entirely illogical cop-outs such as 'that's totally illogical, typical of a woman!' with no explanation or rebuttal whatsoever. I'm putting it out there anyway for the other young men who might feel compelled to believe you.

[Donovan]

sometimes you have people who find themselves ugly and then when someone who comes along who respects them for who they are on the inside treats them well, their heads get swole and it gives them that little confidence they need as they are just as ugly inside as the "pretty people". yes, some people are as bad inside as they are outside.

[laRubiaBonita]

some people have lots and lots of babies (at one time even) to try and make themselves feel better about themselves......... don't make that mistake

[Jersey Shortie]

I think it's your ugly personality on the inside that is scaring people more then your looks. I know ugly guys that can get girls.

[BoredPerson]

I'm not even gonna bother to respond to the first part of your post, it's too much a waste of my time.

 

The 2nd part that I quoted above is slightly less a waste of my time, since you actually sounded convincing enough there that a young naive teen reading that might actually think that you're telling the truth, so I feel bound by duty to explain how utterly illogical what you're saying is.

 

WHO are the people whom you claim to not be interested in you because you're ugly physically? Women.

 

Then when real women come and tell you that no, looks don't matter all that much to us, what do you say? That we're 'just a girl', and that what we're saying is stupid.

 

But we're of the same gender as the same women as the ones whom you ASSUME are rejecting you because of your looks. Are you a woman? No. Are we women? Yes. Who knows better then, whether or not looks matter that much to a woman? The poster who is a woman, or the poster who is NOT a woman?

 

Of course, due to your tendency to ignore facts and logic, my post will probably be skipped over by you, or put aside with entirely illogical cop-outs such as 'that's totally illogical, typical of a woman!' with no explanation or rebuttal whatsoever. I'm putting it out there anyway for the other young men who might feel compelled to believe you.

 

Non of that made any sense.

[laRubiaBonita]

Non of that made any sense.

 

yeah-huh.... you aren't a woman, so what do you know about what women think..... plus you seem to think women as a whole are stupid

[LucreziaBorgia]

BP, I can sort of understand why you are being so abrasive. It helps to assure that you will continue to be 'right' about people rejecting you - only the part you are missing is that even if you looked like Ryan Reynolds, that attitude will repel all but the most masochistic or completely shallow bubbleheads.

 

I used to do that a lot myself: act in such a way that I could continue to say "see? No one likes me or wants to be with me."

 

It didn't accomplish much. Only a vicious cycle that took a long time to break out of.