The husband is after me, what do I do now

[tommyhigher]

I'm a college student in my second year and right now I'm at lost at what to do now. This woman's husband is after me. In fact he called my house and left two anger phone calls (I hang up the phone), now what do I do, he wants to confront me.

 

I don't know how he found about it. I never slept with her though but we did gave each other oral sex and pretty much fooled around.

 

So what do I do, do I deny it, apologize what now?? I keep thinking what if it's a psycho because from what she would tell me is that he has spend some time in jail due to drug possession and drunk driving.

 

No one in my family knows who was the angry calls from.

[tommyhigher]

So what I do now?

[carhill]

Record the calls and, if threatening, call the police and report the threats.

 

Hope you learned something from this. Actions have consequences.

[tommyhigher]

Record the calls and, if threatening, call the police and report the threats.

 

Hope you learned something from this. Actions have consequences.

 

Thank you. I don't really feel like confronting him anyways, apart from the his wife cheating with me I really got nothing to tell him, I don't even know him nor does he know me.

 

The last thing I want is freaking psycho coming after me. Now if he came right here yes I will report him. I would rather report then resorting to fighting him off. However if I had to defend myself against him then I can.

 

Yes I learned from this, not to ever mess with a man's woman and don't believe for one second what the MW tells me which is all BS.

[carhill]

There are usually overwhelmingly bad outcomes from emotionally-driven physical confrontations. Hence, avoid and report.

 

How long have you been NC with the MW?

[tommyhigher]

There are usually overwhelmingly bad outcomes from emotionally-driven physical confrontations. Hence, avoid and report.

 

How long have you been NC with the MW?

 

Yes that's exactly what I'll do. It's been now about 3 weeks since I been NC with her. Basically she fed me so much crap that was it. I didn't wanna deal with it no more and just wanted my life back to normal again.

[JackJack]

Just an idea, if you do agree to meet with him tell him you'll be more than happy to meet with him out in public...I would have someone you know close by as well.

 

This is just an option in case you did decide to meet with him. I don't think you should IMO, it could be dangerous. If he wants to talk to you bad enough he can talk to you on the phone and say whatever he need to say on the phone....still would be a good idea to record the call.

[wuggle]

If you have been having an affair with his wife and he is so angry and wants to meet you, you could be a real man about it and meet him and let him beat you to a pulp, he would be justified , he would feel better and ultimately so would you. The broken nose etc would heal.

[In Like Flynn]

I never slept with her though but we did gave each other oral sex and pretty much fooled around

 

Not much difference!!! He has a right to be pissed and you should not be surprised. You knew what you were doing to another man's wife was dangerous!!!

[boldjack]

Dude, You ate his wife's pu**y , His WIFE, You know, marriage vows and all that. AND, she sucked your c**k, and you wonder why he is coming to confront you? Surely if you're a college boy, You've got to be smarter than this. You realize that this could be a potentially life-threatening situation. I don't know where you live but most police Dept. in the U.S. will want you to go to the court and get a restraining order. They might go and talk to him, This might deter him, unless he is REALLY pissed, and then you will have to face him or hide. You could call and apologize, or run and hide and hope he cools down. Also most policemen will not be sympathetic to you at all. They will do their job, but you might have to take an ass-whipping, just the same. Though they will probably try to prevent him seriously injuring you or worse.

[D-Lish]

Dude, You ate his wife's pu**y , His WIFE, You know, marriage vows and all that. AND, she sucked your c**k, and you wonder why he is coming to confront you? Surely if you're a college boy, You've got to be smarter than this.

 

I'm not sure what college... but with grammar like his- he may not be that smart.

 

He has your home number I assume? That is how your family knows you are getting these calls? If he does have your home number, he can do a reverse look up to find out where you live.

[troubadour]

Tommyhigher... you should confront the guy. Act like a man!

 

You were man enough to have oral sex with his wife but when he wants to talk to you... all you can do is taking a s### in your own pants.

 

You own him the confrontation... be a man.

[Sco]

A wise man once say " You reap what you sow "... meditate on this and you'll avoid many downfall in life.

[D-Lish]

A wise man once say " You reap what you sow "... meditate on this and you'll avoid many downfall in life.

 

This advice is very "Karate Kid"

 

Not saying it is wrong, just saying.

[Chrome Barracuda]

Why dont you just tell him your sorry for what you done instead of being defensive about it.

 

Man up! your a man right? You got hair on your chest right? Your sak still attached right, so chin up, head held high and ready to reap the whirlwind.

[Woggle]

You shouldn't have slept with his wife. If he is reading though I would tell him that a cheating witch is not worth throwing away your freedom over. Leave this guy alone and divorce your wife so you can live a happy life. am trying to helpout the OP.

[Sco]

This advice is very "Karate Kid"

 

Not saying it is wrong, just saying.

 

That's the whole point... " very elementary " , meaning basic, meaning simple, meaning straightforward and uncomplicated, but yet many people don't get it. College kid needs to learn the #1 fundamental rule of life "As Ye Sow, So Shall Ye Reap" what you do comes back to you.

[voldigicam]

He's not too bright, so do be careful.

 

A bright fellow would suggest a threesome, be very friendly, get you somewhere all hot and ready to go, then do something interesting to you.

 

Or wait six months and then mug you pretty hard.

 

Make a log of calls. Report as harassing. Vary your routine and appearance. Be very careful. There are people who will really mess you up over such things. Might move somewhere.

 

This is a difficult thing.

 

if you think he might be OK to talk to, then bring a couple of heavyset friends. No weapons. Just handy to have. Immediately after his work, or at his lunch hour. So he hasn't had time to drink or whatever.

 

Then JUST LISTEN. Tell the truth if you talk. "Yeah, I knew it was wrong. But she was so hot, you are such a lucky guy. And I'm so sorry. It will never happen again."

 

That's so much better than "Please don't hit the other testicle with a hammer." Thus choosing place of any meeting is very important.

[samspade]

Do not meet or speak with him. Do not engage him.

 

Save his messages and if they are threatening, call the police.

 

If you engage, it will about you versus him, and all his problems with his wife cheating on him will be thrust onto you. His wife betraying him is THEIR problem, not yours.

 

That's not to say you're not at fault. You are, and I hope you've learned not to fool around with another guy's wife or girlfriend. Find a single girl, there are plenty out there.

[couchmonkey]

We should live in a world that this is the result of cheating every time. it might set a lot of idiots straight.

[huck]

you messed up big style - you knew what you were doing with a married woman.

 

Man up and get some balls.. Face up to your mistake and dont make the same FU again.

 

Id meet up with him somewhere public and safe.. Tell him exactly what happended so he can get the proof and confirm what a cheating slapper his wife is.

[seibert253]

Hopefully you've learned a very valueble lesson. Don't screw around with someone else's wife.

[Dexter Morgan]

I'm a college student in my second year and right now I'm at lost at what to do now. This woman's husband is after me. In fact he called my house and left two anger phone calls (I hang up the phone), now what do I do, he wants to confront me.

 

I don't know how he found about it. I never slept with her though but we did gave each other oral sex and pretty much fooled around.

 

So what do I do, do I deny it, apologize what now?? I keep thinking what if it's a psycho because from what she would tell me is that he has spend some time in jail due to drug possession and drunk driving.

 

No one in my family knows who was the angry calls from.

 

First, lets get this out of the way...thats what you get for messing around with someone elses wife.

Although hopefully he is equally as angry with his wife and is taking steps to get rid of her.

 

So what do you do? Let me think. As an xBS, what would it take for me to stop harrassing you if it were my wife(actually I wouldn't...I told the man of my X that he did me a favor)....but in your case..I don't know. I can only guess.

 

I'd say the only thing you could say to me would be to call me up and tell me that you are sorry and that the guilt got to you and you couldn't be with my wife any longer and that you'll never contact her again.

 

Maybe that will do the trick, or might enrage him even further.

 

But really, aside from this guy wanting to beat the bloody pulp out of you possibly, I know you aren't sorry for what you did.

 

but really...he should be more angry with his worthless wife.

[Dexter Morgan]

Yes I learned from this, not to ever mess with a man's woman and don't believe for one second what the MW tells me which is all BS.

 

How would you feel if someone messed around with your wife in the future? wouldn't like it to well I would imagine.

[Dexter Morgan]

If you have been having an affair with his wife and he is so angry and wants to meet you, you could be a real man about it and meet him and let him beat you to a pulp, he would be justified , he would feel better and ultimately so would you. The broken nose etc would heal.

 

ya, thats the other thing...he was man enough to mess around with his wife, be man enough to face him. Tell him you would meet him, and that he'd understand if he touched you, you would report him to the police.

 

But let him know that he deserves to confront you and that you'd be glad to meet him in public. Be a man and face him. You owe it to him to let him get whatever it is off his chest and sit there and take it. Face the consequences of your actions.