Groovy Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 If you want to apologize by phone do it. Tell him you greatly regret actions and have learned. Do not tell him what you and her did. And do not meet in public. Let campus security know about the threats. Tell a close friend. People who say be a man and meet him must not have TVs to watch the news. Sure a broken nose heals but gunshots pr knives may not allow you to "live and learn". Crimes of passion usually have no rhyme or reason. I'm not trying to scare you, just talk some commone sense into you. If the threats continue I would also go to the police even if you were wrong. I am not only worried for you but worried for her as well. I hope it all works out..... Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmasMuse Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 I'm going to put my rake up,..I'm not going to rake you because I think you've had enough raking from others on your actions. So with that being said, I hope that if this person continues to call you or harass you, you'll call the police or something. Many crazy people out there. I'm not saying what you did was right, but neither is what he is doing! Link to post Share on other sites
jnj express Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 You don't have to worry he is angry but he isn't going to touch you, he probably has kids, and he doesn't want to end up in jail or in a lawsuit, but don't call him a psycho, cuz what you have done is to wreck his life, he was living a good carefree and innocent life, and his slimeball wife, and you who i think is best described as chicken **** have wrecked it. Talk to him , whoops you probably won't cuz you arn't man enuff, you sure have no huevos, all you know how to do is be a home wrecker, The only advice i have for you is go find a hole and crawl in it, you don't deserve to be among real men. Link to post Share on other sites
surgngnl Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 i'm sorry if this offends anyone, but come on. everyone makes mistakes, maybe lies were told, whatever. bottom line is that most likely, this guy is angry and wants some sort of reason as to why his life has been turned upside down. if you feel comfortable, talk to him. if you don't want to do that, then don't. people who have been cheated on (as i have) usually don't expect an answer. i wouldn't worry too much about him. you're only really going to be bothered by what goes on in your own head. life isn't a television show. he'll back off if you just tell him that you've told people about this situation. he doesn't want to go to jail over his cheating wife. good luck and be safe! Link to post Share on other sites
mark982 Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 i get a chuckle over this,you eat his ol ladies snatch, and now you're afraid your gonna get your azz kicked!! WELCOME to manhood kid,you don't screw with another mans wife and expect to get a free pass. one of these days hopefully when your married, this will happen to you then you can truely understand the feelings and pain you caused Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 You should talk to him and at least allow him to vent some of his frustration. I do hope he is not like my husband. He has a terrible temper in the first place but he controls it pretty well -- UNLESS it has anything to do with another man. I would never cheat in the first place but if I needed any additional reason I know it'd literally put the other guy in danger. That is the one thing that would push him over the edge. With my husband it does help him to vent and get it out of him somehow. Maybe it'll help with this guy too. Don't duck his calls -- what ever you do. Then it'll just make him come looking for his answers. Link to post Share on other sites
JohnnyBlaze Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 As I see it, you've got two main choices here: Man up, talk to him, and risk the wrath. A lot of people here have said that he won't touch you, out of the risk of prison. That's not entirely correct. Rage has a funny way of taking over, regardless of consequences. He might just vent. If so, you got lucky. Very lucky.Lay low. I mean stay so far below radar that Jimmy Hoffa makes disappearance jokes about you. Then just hope that they try and reconcile. If they do, they'll probably go into marriage counseling. He can do his venting there. At that point, the last thing either one of them will want to do is see you again. So all you have to do at this point is steer clear of their neighbourhood for a while, and you should be okay. Of course, there are inherent risks in both options. If you do talk to him, you won't smooth things over. Not now, not ever. He'll hate you until the day you die. She won't acknowledge you anymore, either; she'll act like she doesn't know you from Adam. You might minimize the damage, but that's the best you can hope for. If you do confront him, you might wind up with some serious injuries. If you duck him and they don't reconcile, he's now a man on a mission. You just destroyed his life and he's looking to return the favour. A restraining order is nice, but unless there has been a recent breakthrough in body armour technology (no pun intended), a piece of paper still can't stop a 9mm round, or even a crow bar. I'm just presenting options here; I'm not recommending one or the other. I have been on both sides of this coin. I've been the hunted and I've been the hunter, so I have a good idea what's going on in both of your heads right now. Just remember this. That fear of death in your head right now? That's a very valid fear. Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted April 12, 2009 Share Posted April 12, 2009 I wouldn't confront this guy, not even in a public place. It's sad to say, but some people are just out there, and people have killed each other over things worth a lot less than a woman. I'm not saying this guy is like that, but why chance it? Plus there is nothing to say anyways, you owe this man nothing. His problem should be with his skanky wife, not you. If he calls again just tell him you regret things happened the way they did, and that you aren't going to be seeing this woman anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
mental_traveller Posted April 12, 2009 Share Posted April 12, 2009 BJJ, a 9mm, or a convincing line in bullsh*t Link to post Share on other sites
avenger Posted April 12, 2009 Share Posted April 12, 2009 tell him and take your butt whooping like a man I caught my ex cheating and she ran like a punk and I left her on the spot after I confronted her Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 12, 2009 Share Posted April 12, 2009 Straight up tommy, it's difficult to give respect to someone who completely blames the MW, hence not accepting any responsibility for his own 50% of the affair, and is now cowardly afraid of the repercussions from the husband. Why not just take his next call and tell him that the cops are aware of his threatening calls, if he has plans to get violent? Apologize for your portion of the affair and then honestly answer all his questions. Information given to the betrayed spouse, allows him the opportunity to make an educated decision about where he wants to go with his marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
fella Posted April 12, 2009 Share Posted April 12, 2009 tommy higher, you sunshine are a vulgar little dipsh*t and i hope you get a proper beating. pussy. Link to post Share on other sites
letters Posted April 12, 2009 Share Posted April 12, 2009 Dude, You ate his wife's pu**y , His WIFE, You know, marriage vows and all that. Uhmmmmm........... okay crucify me guys, but I gotta get this out: Boldjack, let him alone, you know what such "service" can do to a horny wife? Like I could be totally cured of my "blues" if someone ate...... (OK! I didn't say it)... Say whatever guys... I would never....it's just a thought. And for the college kid in trouble...uhmmm, oops! Link to post Share on other sites
MichelleS1983 Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 LOL...he's a college kid - how good could the oral sex have BEEN for this married woman to take that kind of risk? I can't imagine it was worth it for her. I see Tommy hasn't been back. Either the angry husband put him through a wood-chipper or he didn't like hearing about his atrocious grammar and sentence structure (he's college educated????). Or, perhaps he didn't like hearing that he should MAN UP and face the consequences for acting like a little weasel and thinking with his d*ck. My advice to Tommy would be to crack down on the college books so he doesn't sound like an illiterate fool, and to stay away from married or committed women just because he wants to think with his d*ck. Link to post Share on other sites
SpanksTheMonkey Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Interesting some of the responses so this kids supposed to take his beating like a man from the husband fair enough. But I cant help but wonder what should the consequences for the cheating wife be in the same posters eyes I wonder? Link to post Share on other sites
blair08 Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Well tommy, its been awhile since you last responded..hope things are ok..let us know! Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Interesting some of the responses so this kids supposed to take his beating like a man from the husband fair enough. But I cant help but wonder what should the consequences for the cheating wife be in the same posters eyes I wonder? I know it. If the husband wants to thrash the man that boinked his wife(and justifiably so), then what is the husband prepared to do to his wife? If the H wants to beat the dog#### out of tommy, then he needs to be prepared to divorce his wife. And if so, hopefully the wife shows up on tommy's doorstep/dorm door, and expects tommy to take care of her if the husband throws her out. Link to post Share on other sites
Lostchances Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 This is pretty dang funny. I say Tommy boy should meet the husband in a public place and agree to take the cheating wife off his hands once and for all. I think Tommy boy has earned a lifetime with this woman and he deserves an opportunity to support her lifestyle from now on. Who is to say the husband is not generously trying to accomplish this very thing? Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted April 14, 2009 Share Posted April 14, 2009 You should talk to him and at least allow him to vent some of his frustration. I agree. He was man enough to screw another man's wife, be man enough to face him. Let him know that being physically assaulted isn't acceptable and you will go to the police, even though I think he would be justified in at least punching you in the nose, but I digress, because even as mad as I would be, i wouldn't do it as you are simply not worth going to jail over. But be a man....face him in public. Let him vent and take it. You OWE him that. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted April 14, 2009 Share Posted April 14, 2009 This is pretty dang funny. I say Tommy boy should meet the husband in a public place and agree to take the cheating wife off his hands once and for all. I think Tommy boy has earned a lifetime with this woman and he deserves an opportunity to support her lifestyle from now on. Who is to say the husband is not generously trying to accomplish this very thing? LOL, no kidding. I would take the so-called wife with me to a meeting with lil tommy, have her suitcase at her side and hand it to him and say, "she's all yours". Then turn around and walk away. I wonder what tommy would do if that happened? Link to post Share on other sites
Lostchances Posted April 14, 2009 Share Posted April 14, 2009 I wonder what tommy would do if that happened? Tommy is a coward in every sense of the word. He would sh , err, poop a brick. Several bricks. eta: The universe is interesting when it comes to young people as OPs. It seems, karma or whatever one wants to call it, that when they eventually marry their spouses sooner or later do the exact same things to them. Tommy better watch his back for a whole lot longer than his OW's husband will be interested in him. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted April 14, 2009 Share Posted April 14, 2009 This guy is a psycho... Report him to the police... period. Don't let him intimidate you.. you had sex with his wife.. you didn't rape her.. You don't have to talk to him.. you don't owe him anything.. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted April 14, 2009 Share Posted April 14, 2009 This guy is a psycho... Report him to the police... period. Don't let him intimidate you.. you had sex with his wife.. you didn't rape her.. You don't have to talk to him.. you don't owe him anything.. ya, and if this guy isn't making physical threats, and he reports him to the police, they'll laugh at his stupidity for having sex with another guy's wife, then crying about the husband contacting him. Now if the guy is making physical threats, thats a different story. But what consequences should lil tommy have to face for being a horses ass? Honestly though, if this guy is that mad at tommy, then he needs to be equally and more angry at the wife and kick her out of the house. as far as not owing the husband anything, well thats the way of it with people here at LS isn't it? people like tommy should have carte blanche to screw other people over, but face no consequences. screw someones wife and cry about the husband contacting him.....too bad. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted April 14, 2009 Share Posted April 14, 2009 I'm starting to think that tommy has already been confronted. He hasn't shown up for awhile now. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted April 14, 2009 Share Posted April 14, 2009 Maybe they are physical threats.. Tommy can say that they were.. I doubt the police will laugh at him.. since it's not against the law to scr*w other men's W.. but it is to make physical threats. Plus, I should add. that most (if not all) policemen are cheaters... so they would take Tommy's side.. Tommy.. report him! Link to post Share on other sites
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