Diane-MRPD Posted May 9, 2000 Share Posted May 9, 2000 To Tony and Billy the Kid, thank you both for your thoughts on my dilemma. They were helpful. I appreciate the time you took to help. I am aware that we both need privacy of some sort, but I also believe that there is nothing that should be hidden from your spouse. As far as him looking in my purse or any other of my personal items, I have no problem with that because I truly have nothing to hide. There is no problem with his just looking as far as I am concerned. Heck, I look. The problem is with interacting and deceit. We've talked, extensively, about this issue and I hope we can work it out. Thanks again. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted May 9, 2000 Share Posted May 9, 2000 So happy you are working it out. I do respect your opinion that nothing should be hidden from your spouse. However, I do feel every human, no matter what his marital status, deserves some measure of privacy as long as it does not concern or hurt the spouse. In your case, you may never have been hurt had you not found out...but then again, something may have happened and you could have been hurt. You are correct that you should know about a husband's flitations, etc. This is really a tough one. However, you will need to teach your husband to share more and be more open. But I promise you, he will NEVER come home and tell you how attracted he is to some woman at work (if that become the case), or that he is flirting in a chatroom, or whatever. NO INTELLIGENT MAN WILL!!! If you work hard on the marriage, keep him occupied and excited, this may become a non-issue. I am so very happy you decided to work on these things. Don't think this is the only problem that will come up in your lifelong committment. The way you work this out will be the way you will work other issues that come along from time to time. We are all pulling for you and want great happiness for you always!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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