JessicaB Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 Went with my BF to his parent's house for his father's birthday party on Monday, and I admit I had to much to drink. Should I say something or let it go? I think my BF's mad but he hasn't brought it up, and we both regularly get plastered after class so it didn't seem like it would be an issue. I guess I should have thought about it beforehand and slowed down but my week has been so bad with class and exams, I had way too many beers at his parent's place. Now I'm scared to bring it up but I'm also scared they might be talking about me in a bad way and don't know what to do. Maybe theyve let it go and if I bring it up it will just remind them all over again? Please help Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 Boy, this brings back some memories. A couple of times I was pretty plastered in appropriate situations, and I remember afterwards how embarrassed I was. But people tend to be more gracious than we give them credit for. I suggest apologizing to the parents for anything inappropriate you may have said or done, and chances are they'll laugh it off and tell you to forget it. But they'll probably remember your integrity. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 Oh, and watch the boozing. Too much of that crap can screw up your life far more than an embarrassing moment or two. Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted April 10, 2009 Share Posted April 10, 2009 Jessica, If you are going to mention it to them, I'd tend to not want to go into all the excuses why you drank too much, nor your history of drinking too much. Just, "I'm sorry that I acted inappropriately. I did not mean to cast a bad light on your b/day party, nor to act disrespectfully in any way. I will be watching my alcohol intake from now on." I would, however, first talk with my b/f -- same thing, no excuse -- just, "I'm feeling totally crappy about what I did, you know your parents, what would you suggest I do?" Regardless, it is okay to forgive yourself for your indiscretion/thoughtlessness (whatever they want to call it.) Crap happens and we do stupid things...but we're not obligated to carry it around with us, in form of guilt and self-loathing, for the rest of our lives. I'm not seeing it as a "lack of integrity" issue, though. Lack of control, is all (IMO.) Hugs, and good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 10, 2009 Share Posted April 10, 2009 Blah, no biggie. Just do better and drink less the next time. I'll assume his parents had a few beers too. The critical thing is how you behaved. Sometimes people test you that way Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted April 10, 2009 Share Posted April 10, 2009 Blah, no biggie. Just do better and drink less the next time. I'll assume his parents had a few beers too. The critical thing is how you behaved. Sometimes people test you that way I'm with carhill on this one.. and next time you go to his parents you might want to try and make a great impression and leave the alcohol for another time and place. Everyone can mess up from time to time and family will recognize that and cut you some slack this time... Link to post Share on other sites
WTRanger Posted April 10, 2009 Share Posted April 10, 2009 I guess I'm kind of curious to know that exactly happened. Did you hurl all over the new sofa or something? If you just had a few too many, then I'd agree with talking to your bf first. See if it's even worth making a fuss over. Link to post Share on other sites
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