Chris78 Posted April 10, 2009 Share Posted April 10, 2009 hey this is my first post im a 28yo male, i have been with my 27yo partner for 13yrs. We are high school sweet hearts we have been together since we were 15, and a funny thing is she actually for my 16th birthday let me be her boyfriend...lol! But things have been good we have a very very strong friendship that is a strong bond in our relationship. She has 2 masters and is finishing up her phd in psych. After her first masters she decided to move to chicago we r originally from ohio, i really did not want to go but i loved her we were together for about 7-8 years at that time so i went we have been here for 5.5 yrs. She aquired her 2 masters and began on her psyd (basically a phd) in order to complete her phd she had to do a internship, we traveled all over the country for her to interview she finally got placed back in ohio, we started another life when we got to chicago the money was good and we were paying a ton of rent so we bought a house together we were in our house about 1.5yrs before she had to leave for internship. So she went to ohio and i stayed here she was only going to be gone for 1 year so we thought we could do it. I am a mechanic and i have not always been the most tidy person she has always done the cleaning and i always in hind sight now realize i always neglected to help out so shes in ohio and comes to visit this past weekend and i had a feeling something was amiss due to the past 2 weeks she has been withdrawn from me not talking on the phone not ending our calls with i love u, so she came and i didnt have the house totally clean so she cleaned the house and it totally sparked a big fight and i flew off the handle and she left 2 days early i spoke to her this past sunday and she told me i make a great best friend but a ****ty partner and that it was over that she didnt love me anymore. And i reacted the same way you think i love this woman with all my heart i balled like a baby i begged i pleaded and she just replied with that is how she felt all the times she was cleaning by herself and grocery shopping by herself. In 13 years we have only been seperated for 1-2 days. I dont know what to do i offered to go to counseling and she just replied she doesnt love me anymore and that if i want to make her happy i will stop calling and texting her i really am lost i dont know what to do......... Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted April 10, 2009 Share Posted April 10, 2009 I am so sorry you are going through this. I wish I could help in some way. But there are others here who may be able to relate a bit better to your situation. You should re-post this in the break-up forum and you will get some more responses. Ad make sure you break your post into paragraphs so it is easier for the people to read. You'll get more responses that way as well. There are people who are here to help and like I said - they can relate to your situation. Again I am so sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Chris78 Posted April 10, 2009 Author Share Posted April 10, 2009 thanks for replying Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted April 10, 2009 Share Posted April 10, 2009 thanks for replying Chris78 If it hasn't been too long -- please go into your other thread and break it up into paragraphs. It will be easier to read and encourage more responses. I know you are looking for help and I'd like you to have as much as possible. You are certainly going through a terrible situation. Link to post Share on other sites
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