xthearsonistx Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 i was out of the country on vacation over the summer. while there, i hooked up with some random girl at a hotel. no sex, just making out. afterwards, i felt i was the lowest of the low. so i quickly emailed my girlfriend at home and told her the whole story. i cried for days (what a wuss i am, i know) fast forward a couple weeks after i get home. i begged for forgiveness, and she did....sort of. a few days later she left me. she couldnt trust me she said. a few days later on she calls me and tells me how she doesnt want me to shut her out of my life? cuz she likes me a lot and cant handle not having me around...riiight. anyways...thats pretty much the whole story...so my problem is..i NEED her back. i am absolutely head over heels in love with this girl, and i kick myself everyday for making such a stupid mistake. i also need help with having her really talk to me. whenever we do phone each other, she wont talk about the issues i try and bring up..probably my sarcasm. ehh anyways. i thank you in advance for whatever advice you can muster up. g Link to post Share on other sites
aquaria127 Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 like, if you really need her to talk with you, why are you being sarcastic to her? you can turn your "head" off and speak through your "heart." if you're ready and willing. Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 Let me give you a very important peace of advice for future reference: don't cheat. Let me give you another peace of advice: if you're going to cheat, make damn sure your lady doesn't find out about it. You had the perfect setup, with an entire ocean separating you two, but instead you let your guilt get the better of you and now you're screwed. Being honest about your dishonesty isn't going to make her feel any better. It's only going to make her feel like she got bested by another girl the moment she let you out of her sight, and she'll hold that over your head like a guillotine for a long, long time - maybe forever. You owe her now, and there's a price to be paid merely for her giving you the privilege to TRY to regain her trust. Even then, she may still decide she doesn't "trust" you. She's got you in the chokehold and you're not going to get out of it anytime soon. Every time there's an argument she'll whip out prosecution's exhibit A against you - CHEATER! Just figured you'd like to know what you're getting yourself into. If you read this and you still love your girl that much, then you'll basically have to accept her price. She has the moral high ground, and she has what you want. Of course, a man can't pay for something if he doesn't have the resources to do it. So she's testing you to see what you're capable of doing in terms of begging and groveling and being otherwise pathetically desperate to win her affection. How you play this depends on you've acted in the past. You would have been okay had you not cried so damn much, but since you did, she knows that you're capable of being a groveler and she'll expect more of it in the future when it comes to your reconciliation. Tell her your sorry but don't beg too much. If you show a mix of contrition and steely strength at the same time, it might work. Link to post Share on other sites
Author xthearsonistx Posted October 15, 2003 Author Share Posted October 15, 2003 thanks...well she doesnt know about my damn waterworks! so there! seriously....thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
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