He doesn't see me

[Lady of the Flowers]

I won't call it love, that is far too dramatic and intimate for this. Simply, I am infatuated with a friend of mine. It is an online friendship, we have not met in person. We are some distance apart and perhaps that is why he sees me as not even an option.

 

He simply does not see me. I have never had to work for a man before, have been lucky in that department I guess. I'm attractive, I laugh a lot, people find my company fun and I'm of some intelligence. That was always enough but now it's not even close. I may be rambling, I am sorry. It is hard to put this into words. I've tried not contacting him, I cannot help but. I am drawn to him and it is hard to shake I think. Any thoughts?

 

I can't believe I got myself into this. I tried to put this off and deny my mind the luxury of imagining life with him but it has not worked, so I find myself at this crazy time of day posting in this place.

[Ronni_W]

Hi Lady, and welcome to LS.

What is it that this guy does/says, that makes you feel so good about yourself?

Cos sometimes the trick is to first figure out what we are receiving from whatever situation, and THEN we can start to make decisions and plans about how we are gonna bring more of that into our day-to-day lives (in sane and healthy ways .)

 

And of course, it's not even that what we do receive (and give) in our on-line communications/relationships translates into being able to have the same experiences in our 3D world. IME, you meet them and end up thinking, "What the heck was I perceiving online? Where did it go? Was I just making it up?"

Most of the time. Sometimes, it does translate and we read about the happy couple, or see them on TV.

 

Er...now I'm rambling, too

 

If you're BOTH single and available, why not casually mention about meeting up, someday, somewhere...and see where that may lead?

[belocchoc129]

In my own experience, we often deceive ourselves, imagine a lot, and think about all good things in internet conversations with person we've never met. We often dream about things that dont exist in our real life. Because that can fulfill our needs, our desire of being truly cared and loved by someone. You can't help contacting him is comprehensible. But if you guys have chance, try to meet with each other and see if things work out. If he appears as not what you expected, your brain will automatically sort things out and release you out of the dream you've been dreaming about him. If he appears so perfectly as you dreamed, then what's the reason for not starting to discover him more?