MIKEY Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 Hello all! here is my story. I am now 27 and ex is 24. I met her last Summer. We had an on /off thing until October when we became a couple. She broke up w/ me right after Christmas and we didnt speak for 6 months. my friends became friends with her freinds and everyone hung out. Anyway I never went out w/ them and did my own thing. She ended it because she didnt want a rrelationship. She had a 4long relationship w/ a guy (who was a jerk to her) and that ended 2 yrs before I met her. He moved away and got engaged. Anyway in frebruary (during the time we didnt talk) she met somebody who was younger than her and ahd a history of rug abuse problems. He wasnt very good to her but she tried. They broke up in May. We got back together shortly after that. We had a great summer togehter and things were very intimate between us. She was falling for me. The guy that recently broke up w/ her was out of the picture. September comes around and she said she didnt love me. I told her it wasnt fair for her to come back if she didnt. Now I hear that she is talking to the guy that broke it off w/ her in May. He was away at rehab for heroine and now they are "echanging phonecalls" I was great to this girl and she was great to me to for this Summer. I cant help to feel manipulated. I have cut off all contact w/ her now. She is now in touch w/ first jerk-off BF and the drug addict. what do i do--there is more to the story i weill tell in time Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 Hello? Mikey, you've already asked exactly this question and gotten a bunch of answers. What is up with that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MIKEY Posted October 15, 2003 Author Share Posted October 15, 2003 Just looking for advice from different people--Like i said I loved her very much. I am worried about her but I have cut off contact. Now I know she asks about how I am and all. Good thing I have good freinds cause they tell her nothing about me. It is just the fact that it is this guy that is bothering me. He is gross and she isnt like that Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 "He is gross and she isnt like that" She may not be "like that" but it's what she keeps running back to. Stop worrying about her and start worrying about yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MIKEY Posted October 15, 2003 Author Share Posted October 15, 2003 believe it or not I am worrying about myself--but her and I were really close --sometimes my mind wanders to her and her well being...... Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 "believe it or not I am worrying about myself--but her and I were really close --sometimes my mind wanders to her and her well being......" You're worrying about yourself in the sense that you're still holding out hope she might come back to you. It isn't just "sometimes" that you're wondering about her well-being. Judging by your other posts, I'd say she's probably on your mind 24/7. You've recently broken up so that's to be expected. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MIKEY Posted October 15, 2003 Author Share Posted October 15, 2003 so what do i do--I will see her again because we hang out in the same circles. When she brings this loser around--how do I react towars her? Last time this happened with this guy I ignored her for quite sometime--it finally got to her.... Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 Be civil and walk away. You are not yet ready to maintain anything more than polite conversation with her at this point. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 Mikey, if you're 27, do you not have a job to occupy your time and thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MIKEY Posted October 15, 2003 Author Share Posted October 15, 2003 yes i do have a job--but that doesnt prevent me from thinking of her-- Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 If these thoughts go on for much longer (to the point where they are obsessive) I'd say counseling and perhaps medication might be of some help. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MIKEY Posted October 15, 2003 Author Share Posted October 15, 2003 I think obsessive would be calling her, emailing, going to see her.....I havent done any of those things. This is just a concern for soemone I love. Of course I would love for things to of worke dout. They didnt---but it is the fact of who she chose that really bothers me. You see we met5 and then broke up an dshe starte ddating him. They broke up and then we got back togehter. now we broke up again and they got back together-he was a heroine addict and recently "cleaned up" She never told me that---I am angry about that because she put my life in danger! Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 If you think about her constantly to the point where nothing else occupies your time and mind then I would say that is obsessive. "They broke up and then we got back togehter. now we broke up again and they got back together-he was a heroine addict and recently "cleaned up" She never told me that---I am angry about that because she put my life in danger!" I think you're angry about the fact that she broke up with you - again and again. Link to post Share on other sites
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