mental_traveller Posted April 18, 2009 Share Posted April 18, 2009 You did the right thing. You saved this guy from potentially catching herpes, genital warts, or even HIV, not to mention an eventual divorce at huge financial and emotional cost, and potentially harming their kids in future years. You also helped your friend avoid marrying a guy she neither loves nor respects. Link to post Share on other sites
Author justme2781 Posted April 20, 2009 Author Share Posted April 20, 2009 update: sarah told me not t o sya anything more, she said she was going to write him a letter syaing that she had hung out with someone but noting about sex. she said that he wanted to work things out and didnt flip out. so i am guessing she didnt tell him even close to what the truth is. so i guess i am going to stay out of it now, what do you guys think? Link to post Share on other sites
lostsunsets Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 I would say, write your own letter. She will do it again. If this guy was on meds, because his grandma died. It is only a matter of time till he doesn't kiss her a$$ enough. She will do it again. No doubt. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 I'd say distance yourself from this friend. I had a gf once that was upset that I had a "dog" for a friend. We got into fights alot because if I was his friend, she didn't want me around him. I didn't blame her for feeling that way either. She is going to lie to him to mitigate the damage. Just as I have always said, cheaters will tell half truths to cover up an entire lie. If you care about her bf, and he is also a friend of yours, you owe it to him to make sure this skank doesn't snowball him. Link to post Share on other sites
reservoirdog1 Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 she told me i ruined her life. i feel like i betrayed her trust, i did. i should not have done it the way i did. but i guess i just couldnt hold it in anymore. She ruined her own life with her shytty behaviour. You were just the messenger. Her selfishness put you in a colossally crappy position. I don't think you should apologize at all. If she "cuts you off", then what have you really lost? A best friend who you're hugely uncomfortable being around. Besides, if she'll brutally betray her fiance -- the person she's about to commit herself to and pledge to be faithful to (what a laugh) -- she has it in her to betray you as well. So you've probably lost a dishonest best friend. Not really a bad thing. And another plus in the ledger, you saved her fiance from marrying that woman. You gave him the wakeup call many of us who've been in the same position (married partners who were secretly cheaters) wish we'd had. Hold your head high. You have certain standards of honourable behaviour that you require of people you allow to be your friends, and she breached those. Her loss, not yours. Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 You say you are friends with this guy. Write him your own letter and tell him the truth and then walk away. If the roles were reversed you would want someone to tell you the truth. He will destroy his life being with her. Link to post Share on other sites
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