Advice Suggestion, Back into dating scene been a while

[sb8098]

Hey, first off I usually don't ask for advice, but i have been out of the dating scene so I have a dilema and would like adivc/ suggestions.

 

 

Okay I am 23 ang i met/ getting to now this guy is around my age. We met about 1 month ago, he came and started talking to me. HE asked for my number and called me , He lives a little bit aways but he has driven over to myhouse and he has even met my dad. SOrry that is amust for me. ANd another reason why I haven't dated for such a long time. Back to the story. The guy that I am getting to know seems to be a gentleman, and he is patient when i comes to sex, he knows I am not ready to have sex withhim, and besides he has only knownme for a month. But, here is the ? okay i have hung out with his friends/ friends gf too and we're cool , but he does message me and call me and leaves messgaes form me cause i don't want to appear too available to him, kno wwhat i mean, but i am busy and he has had a bad week at work. So i asked him to do something this weekend and he has friends coming town, totally cool i understand, i replied well when are we going to " hangout go out next?"his answer" I don't know" Hate to say it, but it ws like that awward feeling, imean i want to ask hey is ecverythingokay, but i don't want it to scare him away, imean i am just getting back into dating adn I am looking for appreciation adn attention, and agentleman. He aid he is goign to call me today, what should I do/ tak about to kinda get his view without scaring him?. Thank you

[ArdeaCandidissima]

Ummm...not quite sure what the real question is. Sounds like you've deliberately been unavailable to him when he wanted you, and now here he is, deliberately being evasive about whether he will be available to you. Sounds like a standoff.

 

I would NOT talk to him about this. One month is way too soon to sit him down for a "you gotta get serious" lecture. If you can keep it light and breezy, you can say "I'd love to go to the beach with you this weekend" or something like that. How about easing the focus on this man and dating other men as well? That way you don't have all your eggs in one basket and may be easier to relax when you are spending fun time with this guy.

[sunnybremer01]

Well, i had offered to help him do some stuff since he was having guests from out of town come for the weekend. When i offered to some and help , and it was as if he couldn't tell remember what he had told me the day before lol. He made himself to look/ sound so bad thank you for the advice though his response: what would i need help with?