Anyone Here, Happy in their Relationship?

[shadowplay]

EVERY boyfriend I had doted on me and I didn't have those feelings for.

I thought I would -- I wanted to -- but never did.

 

I thought I would never feel that and receive it. I thought I was somehow broken inside and unable to love like that.

 

And then -- THEN -- I met him. And all of that changed.

 

It comes when you LEAST expect it. And in ways that you never imagined!

 

TBF's guy was pushing her out of the snow I believe...and NOW --

BLISS.

 

Well, that's inspiring! How long have you guys been together? And how did you meet?

[Island Girl]

Well, that's inspiring! How long have you guys been together? And how did you meet?

 

Over 8 1/2 years.

 

-- and -- we met in a bar! Yeah. I know.

 

No one ever -- EVER -- meets their true love in a bar!!

 

But we did.

[thegoodlife]

I love the way my man can never hide the slightest smile because his dimples always give him away.

 

And the way his voice cracks when he's getting sleepy.

 

I also love the way he adores me. I have one tooth that is in front on all others, it's very slight and most people don't even notice, but every once in a while you notice it when I smile. I've always been really insecure about it, hated it since all my other teeth are aligned. My man named it lil' stewart and thinks it's one of my cutest attributes. He embraces me in a way that no one else can.

[thegoodlife]

Also, since this thread is so great I just had to share this.

 

My best friend's parents are the most loving couple I have ever seen. They've been together since they were teenagers, and they are still so in love with one another as if its day one.

There will be times that I am sitting on the couch with my friend's dad, and he's gazing at his wife who's across the room and he muses "isn't she SO beautiful?"

 

Everytime one of them comes home from being out, whether it be a quick run to the store, or a long day at work, they hug each other tightly for 5-10 minutes in blissful silence.

 

They dance together, all over the house, at any random point in the day. They just truly love one another's company and are still amazingly in love. It feels so great to be in their presence.

[Star Gazer]

But the truth is I've never had a bf whom I truly loved and who treated me with undeniable adoration. The one bf who doted on me I didn't have those feelings for. I hope I get there (part of me feels that I never will), and that it's permanent.

 

I didn't either, until I met my BF. It took me a while - I've got some years on you. But honestly, it will happen when you least expect it. The new song "Halo" so reminds me of him (and how I felt before I met him). It'll happen, Shadow. Just have faith.

 

My best friend's parents are the most loving couple I have ever seen. They've been together since they were teenagers, and they are still so in love with one another as if its day one.

There will be times that I am sitting on the couch with my friend's dad, and he's gazing at his wife who's across the room and he muses "isn't she SO beautiful?"

 

Everytime one of them comes home from being out, whether it be a quick run to the store, or a long day at work, they hug each other tightly for 5-10 minutes in blissful silence.

 

They dance together, all over the house, at any random point in the day. They just truly love one another's company and are still amazingly in love. It feels so great to be in their presence.

 

I sooo love that.

 

My BF's parents are the same way. You can tell that afer 37 years of marriage, they are still oh so in love. Right down to the little things. For example, we occasionally go over to their house for dinner or a glass or two of wine. As his dad moves around the kitchen, he always finds a way to lovingly touch his mom. My BF sees it, and instinctively does the same thing to me.

[Trialbyfire]

I adore words to actions.

 

We were at a work-related cocktail affair last night where there was an alcohol-induced barracuda on the loose, who zoomed in on him. She literally followed him around, trying to get his attention.

 

Finally, she put her hand on his arm and leaned into him. He looked at her hand, looked at her, looked at her hand, until she dropped her hand from his arm and backed off. At this point, I went back to him, put my arm through his and took him away. She went away after that.

[Lauriebell82]

This thread is making me both happy and sad. I'm happy for the people who are experiencing this, but it's sad to be without. I know when I was happy in a relationship how much I enjoyed exchanging cute things I loved about my SO with other people in the same boat. But the truth is I've never had a bf whom I truly loved and who treated me with undeniable adoration. The one bf who doted on me I didn't have those feelings for. I hope I get there (part of me feels that I never will), and that it's permanent.

 

You will. The thing about "extremely doting boyfriends" is that (in my experience) there is usually some deeper issue there. Adoration is where it's all about, but you have to have other things besides your relationship.

 

Shadowplay, you'll find a guy who is the right one. You just kind of know, and even if thinks aren't always perfect you still remember how much you love each other. Neither of my relationships have been "perfect" but that would require perfect people and that doesn't exist. Eventually it just "clicks" and thats when you know it will be forever. Just my two cents.

[Cherry Blossom 35]

I just saw this thread!

 

I am very happily in love with my sweet man. I love his pretty blue eyes, I love the fact that he wants to hold my hand. He trusts me so implicitly. Sometimes I think he is from another planet. He is emotionally open and was the first to say "I love you". From the very beginning, he liked me as a person, not just as a sex object. He brings me flowers on random occasions, and still takes me out to dinner even though we are way beyond the "he pays" stage. He is so easy to be around, and we never run out of things to talk about.

 

There is one particular thing about this RL that feels very different. Usually, when I am in the throes of new love, I wonder when it will start to fade. When will the sheen start to come off? Will he stop adoring me? Will he start to look at different women? This feels totally different. It's like I know that our love will grow and we will be more deeply connected. I'm not saying that I don't occasionally freak out and think that this will end, because I do. But when I look at the two of us I just see growth of love, not diminishing of love. And it feels very real, not like infatuation.

[Trialbyfire]

That's an interesting perspective to bring up, Cherry. The growth of love.

[Eve]

Great thread!

 

Yep, nearly ten years married, eleven years together and we are still going strong. We have weathered a lot and learned that sometimes the love seems to fade but really it is still there. Its just slightly hidden. I never thought I would get married until I met Hubby. Never thought it possible to fit so well with someone. It is like he is my leg or something.

 

I love the fact that he loves coming home so much! His laugh really cracks me up and we share the same warped perspective about people. He is very level headed and practical, whilst I am pretty ditzy. But I know in my heart of hearts that he would not cheat on me or be disrespectful. Just not in him to go down that road.

 

I love watching him get snuggly in bed and the way he comes for hugs if he feels a bit anxious about anything. I love that we parent strongly together and that the kids can come to either of us with their bad selves. I love how he has overcome his first marraige and actively protects us all from that devious ex wife of his.. gosh, that woman enjoys trouble. I love his boys and the fact that they are so respectful to women and themselves.. so handsome just like their Dad...

 

Endless things to say.

 

Above all I thank God that I was lead to someone capable of giving their heart..

 

Take care,

Eve xx

[Touche]

What a beautiful post, Eve.

 

It made me think about so much where my H is concerned. Our 14th anniversary is coming up in June. We're together 15 years this October.

 

He is the best. Extremely honest, intelligent, funny, witty and very, very loving. Not to mention that I still find him sexy as hell.

 

He's light years above me in terms of maturity. I still have so much to learn. But yet, I have much I have taught him and continue to do so.

 

He's forgiving and very patient. Not to mention what an excellent father he is.

 

He's my best friend.

 

And I know in my heart that if anything, God forbid, ever happened to him, I'd be alone the rest of my life. There's no way I could ever have "lightening strike me" more than once in this lifetime. No way, would I ever be this lucky again.

 

Not only do I not tolerate most people but I'm sure it would be almost impossible to find someone who would tolerate me. I'm set in my ways, stubborn and very opinionated and judgmental.

 

For whatever reason he loves me. He takes care of me when I'm sick, gives me hugs and says "I love you" when I need it the most, kicks me in the butt when I need it, and just generally "gets me."

 

I sometimes feel like I don't deserve someone as good as he is. I may fail at times, but I always strive to be the wife he deserves to have.

[Star Gazer]

There is one particular thing about this RL that feels very different. Usually, when I am in the throes of new love, I wonder when it will start to fade. When will the sheen start to come off? Will he stop adoring me? Will he start to look at different women? This feels totally different. It's like I know that our love will grow and we will be more deeply connected. I'm not saying that I don't occasionally freak out and think that this will end, because I do. But when I look at the two of us I just see growth of love, not diminishing of love. And it feels very real, not like infatuation.

 

I'm so happy for you, Cherry! I don't know why, but I feel like this is the first time you've discussed this guy... where have you been hiding him??

 

I have to say, I feel the same way. I've been calling it the "you just know" feeling, but like you, I don't worry about our love disappearing. I know, I am certain to my core, that it will only get better. It's the most authentic, real love I think I've ever had.

 

Never thought it possible to fit so well with someone. It is like he is my leg or something.

 

It's an awesome feeling.

 

I love seeing how happy y'all are!!

 

And Touche... congrats on your upcoming anniversary. These days, making it that long is quite an accomplishment.

[Touche]

Thank you so much SG.

 

Wow, can life surprise you and kick you in the gut. My words are coming back to haunt me in a way. I've been crying and scared and thinking a lot along the lines of what I wrote above before this happened.

 

I'm exhausted and sitting in a hospital room with my sweet "T" who had a heart attack yesterday. Seems like so long ago after all the hell I've been through. I've never been so scared in my life.

 

He's asleep now and I'm going to try to sleep in this chair next to him. He should be ok. Hopefully I can take him home tomorrow.

 

God, I've learned sooo much in the last 24 hours. All of you who are in happy relationships, please don't take them for granted. It can all be snatched away in the blink of an eye.

[Land Shark]

Hey, T! Wow, what a scary thing to have happen! Take care of him. I'm sorry this happened. All the best to you and your family!

[sb129]

I think it was sb, who called me an M&M, a long time ago. Hard candy coating on the outside, soft, mooshy chocolate on the inside.

 

I think that was me...!

 

Well you lot all know how happy me and Wonderboy are- and its just getting better.

 

Even though we have had some really sad times with my family lately, there are lots of things he has done during those times that have made me go

 

When he said goodbye to my dad for the last time, he said "Thank you for raising such an amazing daughter and I promise our kids will know who you were"

 

He made lots of little adjustments to my parents house to make it easier for my mum to look after my dad, and after he died WB fixed all the locks so she would feel safe on her own.

 

He helped build my dads personalised casket, and looked after my confused grandmother at the funeral. He helped us so much around that time.

 

He has made me so many dinners lately, and whatever my pregnant self craves, he will make it. He also cleans up!

 

He is soooo excited about our baby and still whistles at me when I am naked even though I have put on nearly 7kg and feel revolting! I love the way he has nicknamed our baby "Frank the Fetus" and talks him/her as if they are already a person.

 

I love the way he still is so happy to see me at the end of the day, and doesn't mind if I am tired or grumpy or sad (which is often at the moment).

 

My parents were married 34 years this year, and had an awesome marriage. Its so sad that it ended so abruptly- I am determined to love and hold onto my husband for dear life, as I have got a good one and when it comes down to it, our relationships with our friends, family and loved ones are the most important things in our lives.

[Star Gazer]

Oh no, Touche! Oh no! I SO hope he'll be okay!

 

My BF is overseas right now, and I've been panicked for over a week about something as silly and simple as a plane flight... worried that he'll be taken from me. I can relate, but not to 15 years of happiness.

 

I'll keep you both in my thoughts. Please keep us updated.

[Jake Barnes]

You said he should be OK

 

Did they do a by-pass

 

I remember my father had a heart attack and they only did an angioplasty

[sb129]

Touche- so so sorry to hear about your darling hubby- I was just typing my post saying a smiliar thing about not taking things for granted as you typed yours.

 

I hope he makes a speedy and full recovery.

[Star Gazer]

SB - I seriously heart Wonderboy for being so good to and for you. He's a real gem of a man.

[Touche]

Hey, T! Wow, what a scary thing to have happen! Take care of him. I'm sorry this happened. All the best to you and your family!

 

Aww, thanks Shark. (I still can't figure out who you are but I appreciate it anyway.)

 

Yes, I've been taking care of him. Shoot, I hope he doesn't expect this treatment when he gets completely back on his feet! Man, I'm just glad he's ok now.

 

Oh and look for a separate thread...well a RANT on something that happened here in the hospital that almost made me faint...totally uncessary. They'll be hearing from me about this. Yesterday was really one of the worst days of my life.

 

But i'm off topic now. I'm punchy from lack of sleep. I should try to sleep now.

 

Anyway, thanks so much Shark. It's driving me crazy though trying to figure out who you are. Someone PM me!!!!

[Star Gazer]

Touche, I know we've had our differences, but I really hope he's okay... I'm actually getting upset here thinking about it.

[Land Shark]

Touche, I know we've had our differences, but I really hope he's okay... I'm actually getting upset here thinking about it.

 

Feeling guilty?

[Touche]

Oh no, Touche! Oh no! I SO hope he'll be okay!

 

My BF is overseas right now, and I've been panicked for over a week about something as silly and simple as a plane flight... worried that he'll be taken from me. I can relate, but not to 15 years of happiness.

 

I'll keep you both in my thoughts. Please keep us updated.

 

I know what you mean, believe me. We both get nervous when one or the other of us even has to drive just an hour out of town. That's the thing about finding that happiness, it's that much worse when it's taken away..or a perceived threat of it being taken away.

 

That's sweet of you, SG. I do appreciate it. Yes, I'll update whenever I can.

 

You said he should be OK

 

Did they do a by-pass

 

I remember my father had a heart attack and they only did an angioplasty

 

I know nothing about any of this. You can bet I'll be learning really fast. What's an angioplasty exactly? They put a stint or a splint...forget what it's called. A little piece of metal to keep the artery open...no surgery. It was through his leg/groin...I didn't want too many details. He had 99% blockage in one area but they said the damage is very minimal and that he was lucky. Everything seems fine now. But he did suffer some damage and will have to take it easy for awhile...no gardening together for a couple of months at least. But I'm not complaining...I'm lucky to have him at all.

 

Touche- so so sorry to hear about your darling hubby- I was just typing my post saying a smiliar thing about not taking things for granted as you typed yours.

 

I hope he makes a speedy and full recovery.

 

Thank you so much SB..yeah, it's really made me think about so much. I cry at the drop of a hat now.

 

I'm going to try to sleep now.

 

If I can I'll check back on here tomorrow. I do appreciate your kind words and wishes. It does help. You guys are sweethearts.

 

Give your loved ones a special hug and in your case SG, just tell him you can't wait to have him in your arms again (but I'm sure you have already.)

 

Night, everyone..and thank you.

[sb129]

I can't find your hospital rant thread Touche?

[Touche]

Feeling guilty?

 

Shark, you seem like a sweet person...so don't. It was big of SG to say what she did and I do appreciate it. I do.

 

Star, don't be upset. It's fine. I've just been through the wringer. We got lucky. It's a wake up call of sorts.

 

SB, i didn't post my rant yet...i can't. It's still too close to home now. I'll start crying again. I will in a few days or so.

 

Ok, you guys. I'm really going to shut this off now and try to sleep a little.

 

Love you!