Kevin Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 I am wondering if anyone can give some advice on ho to get a girl that likes someone else to like me. I am very intrested in her and i don't know if she has any intrest in me or not. If anyone has any advice on how to know if a girl likes me please post it. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
jalexy Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 if she doesnt liek you , she doesnt like you. you cant get anyone to do anything they dont want to. go find someone who does want you Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted October 17, 2003 Share Posted October 17, 2003 Well I'd agree with the previous message, except to say that you could be having a visibility problem. If it's high school, you've hopefully got a few classes with her. Well try being a class clown. Sure, you'll piss off the teacher and might get sent to the Dean's office a time or two, but the girl might respect your martyrdom on her behalf. If it's college, same thing except you've got to be a bit more careful with the professors - they're like Third World tyrants, and they won't put up with any shenanigans for very long. Your best bet in a collegiate setting is to find out what circles she travels in, and make travel the same circuit. I mean, find out who her friends are...maybe you have a few mutual friends and maybe you can attend the same parties or something. But if you've already done all this, there's little else you can do. Can't force love, bro. That's okay, though...there are many, many beautiful women in this world. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted October 19, 2003 Share Posted October 19, 2003 I agree with jalexy. I have a friend I like but our friendship relationship is going nowhere because i feel she knows i have feelings for her. Plus i met her ex-bf when hanging out once, so i think she still might have feelings for him. If the other has no interest on her half on doing anything, there's really nothing you can do to. except continue going on with what you guys already have. there are times where i try to push, and no success as she doesnt want to improve on our friendship. I dont agree with amerikajin, ive had several class clowns in hs. Because everyone knows them as the class clown, they already have an impression or judgement in their mind as to what kind of person they are already. The joker, the funny guy, the guy that likes to make people laugh, the guy that craves attention, the guy that cant communicate on an intellectual level, the guy that you wouldnt bother getting to know on a personal level because this person might not be capable of acting seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted October 19, 2003 Share Posted October 19, 2003 the guy that likes to make people laugh, the guy that craves attention, the guy that cant communicate on an intellectual level, the guy that you wouldnt bother getting to know on a personal level because this person might not be capable of acting seriously. The guy that's intelligent enough to be witty... Link to post Share on other sites
love adviser Posted March 29, 2004 Share Posted March 29, 2004 here is a thought why not just get her by asking her out just as freinds and if that doesn't work out then try harder and harder never quit at anything and in the words of the stiffmister "we don't quit at half time" so go hard and if she shows sum attention towards u take it by the neck and don't miss the boat! do u follow me? well anyway go for the gusto! i feel wut your fealing right now to man. Link to post Share on other sites
Jim24 Posted March 30, 2004 Share Posted March 30, 2004 Yea but if you keep asking again and again shes going to think u are a stalker. That isnt the correct definition of stalker but its the term ive heard girls use to describe people like that, including myself in the past once or twice when I couldn't "move on" .Though I think its kind've stupid for a girl to assume that just cause you really like her that ur "stalking her". Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted March 30, 2004 Share Posted March 30, 2004 Originally posted by Kevin girl that likes someone else Is it me or you who are missing the point??? Link to post Share on other sites
IcHi Posted May 27, 2005 Share Posted May 27, 2005 yo dude..... u wana get this girl 2 like ya then u gotta act like u dnt care if she likes u or not, sure let her kno u like her but act like u got loadsa confidence n sh**. thts wot i did, call this girl babe n hunny but say it casually at the end of sentences n stuff...shell soon get the point, eventually she WILL ASK YOU OUT its innevitable Link to post Share on other sites
JP166 Posted June 24, 2005 Share Posted June 24, 2005 You know, it's kind of funny, but sometimes females are more intrigued by a guy that doesn't pay them any attention. If she's one of those types that is used to the compliments, stares, and endless possible dates, the one guy that doesn't show her that will peak her interest. This is only sometimes. However, if she knows you like her, and there is potential there, believe me, she will start wondering about your intentions if you slip into the conversation that you may like this other girl, or you're going out with someone for a date. Even if it's a white lie, or in reality, go out with someone else. Most of the time, it's the girl opening her eyes to see that she really doesn't like the guy that gave her all the attention to be dating and hooking up with other women. This may make her step up to the plate and realize her feelings for you. Believe me, unless she is in a serious relationship, she will keep her options open. I know this from much experience-- I liked a guy sooooo much, and during the entire time, I was wondering a) how I could get his attention because he didn't really seem to notice me all that much, which i do get noticed a lot, and b) who else was another prospect. So keep your options open as well, and it may just work in your favor. Link to post Share on other sites
browneyes22 Posted June 24, 2005 Share Posted June 24, 2005 All the previous advice is great. But one thing was missed however. You can start dating one of her friends. If she knows you "once" had a thing for her, and your dating her friend she will get to hear about you, via her friend. She'll get to see what she is missnig and if she's interested you'll know. Or, better yet, her friend might make you forget all about her. It's worth a shot. Link to post Share on other sites
crazy_grl Posted June 24, 2005 Share Posted June 24, 2005 Well, I originally had a different reply. But then I realized this is an old post and the poster's issue is probably over and done with. Just as a matter of debate, I think that all the suggestions for playing mind games are a pretty bad idea. Link to post Share on other sites
shiben Posted June 25, 2005 Share Posted June 25, 2005 if u cant get a gal and ur best frnd can.. its time 2 move ur body Link to post Share on other sites
phidelt127 Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 I don't agree with most of the people here. There's no reason why you can't get any girl if she's not with someone else. Ok, here's the deal. I won't lie to you, sometimes I feel like I'll never meet the right person, or I'll never get laid again, or I'll never get married and all that. There was a time in my life that I was in your position. So here's my advice. Get some confidence in yourself. Women are drawn more to confidence than anything else. There are plenty of hot guys where I live and especially where I work, but because I'm confident that I can get the same girls that they can, I do. I mean you do have to dress well, and be able to hold a conversation, but seriously man, if you think you can get a date, you probably can. Women, tell me if I'm wrong. Women are sick of hearing the same stuff all the time. Most attractive women get hit on ALL THE TIME, and they hear the same stuff ALL THE TIME. "You are so beautiful", "Can I buy you a drink?", "Don't I know you from somewhere?". These lines are the futile attempts to pick up women by unconfident men. Be different. And for the love of God, get out and try! Go somewhere where you are going to meet women! However, do NOT go to a singles bar and do NOT do online dating. There's too much deception. SO, get to a college town with one of your other underprivleged friends and talk to everyone you can. BUT like I said, be confident and don't use dumb lines. Here's the thing. If you get rejected, you do. Forget about it and move on the the next. It's not the end of the world. I'm talking from experience in probably the most similar of situations in comparison to yours. So, at the risk of sounding like a weight-loss infomercial, I'll say "If it worked for me, it'll DEFINITELY work for you" Send emails if you want more suggestions. Link to post Share on other sites
castroneves Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Originally posted by Arabess Is it me or you who are missing the point??? Lay off the chap, for me this is an all to familier and at times it can be gut renching. Link to post Share on other sites
Neptune Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 One thing that will help a lot is to go fishing where the fish are biting. By that I mean that most guys are busy focusing on girls that are focused elsewhere. Learn to read women like a book and then understand which ones are showing interest in you and pursue them. It will make your life a lot more pleasant Link to post Share on other sites
Paving Papers Posted July 25, 2005 Share Posted July 25, 2005 If she really likes the other guy, the best you can do is move in same circles, present yourself as a nice guy (I hope it's true), don't hit on her...listen to what she/her friends say about the status of their relationship. If things look long term for them..move on! I used to befriend all girls, even ones I wasn't attracted to. I wasn't mean or mis leading, just friendly. They would tell me things about other girls/women...who was taken, who was jilted, who was trashy, who was desparate, what so and so was looking for, etc etc. Younger guys tend to be very picky about who's attractive enough for them. Take a second look at "unattractive" girls...they're better looking than your left hand, and can teach you many things. If you're nice to them, they will say nice things about you to other women. PS: part of being nice, is not lying about loving them and dumping them in a respectfull humane way. Link to post Share on other sites
random11 Posted October 3, 2005 Share Posted October 3, 2005 In response, i guess the girl I like fits into this description. I mean I have liked her for a while and have treated her really well, maybe too well in fact. We get on great but she has just started seeing this other guy that she lives with along with some friends. I think I should wait and see what happens between the two of them as friends have told me that. I know I can't do nothing right now but I'm will to wait a while for her to see If I do have a chance. I could really do with a bit of advice from someone right now as I have become too hooked up on her and don't really see myself wanting anyone else. You know, it's kind of funny, but sometimes females are more intrigued by a guy that doesn't pay them any attention. If she's one of those types that is used to the compliments, stares, and endless possible dates, the one guy that doesn't show her that will peak her interest. This is only sometimes. However, if she knows you like her, and there is potential there, believe me, she will start wondering about your intentions if you slip into the conversation that you may like this other girl, or you're going out with someone for a date. Even if it's a white lie, or in reality, go out with someone else. Most of the time, it's the girl opening her eyes to see that she really doesn't like the guy that gave her all the attention to be dating and hooking up with other women. This may make her step up to the plate and realize her feelings for you. Believe me, unless she is in a serious relationship, she will keep her options open. I know this from much experience-- I liked a guy sooooo much, and during the entire time, I was wondering a) how I could get his attention because he didn't really seem to notice me all that much, which i do get noticed a lot, and b) who else was another prospect. So keep your options open as well, and it may just work in your favor. Link to post Share on other sites
random11 Posted October 3, 2005 Share Posted October 3, 2005 In response, i guess the girl I like fits into this description. I mean I have liked her for a while and have treated her really well, maybe too well in fact. We get on great but she has just started seeing this other guy that she lives with along with some friends. I think I should wait and see what happens between the two of them as friends have told me that. I know I can't do nothing right now but I'm will to wait a while for her to see If I do have a chance. I could really do with a bit of advice from someone right now as I have become too hooked up on her and don't really see myself wanting anyone else. You know, it's kind of funny, but sometimes females are more intrigued by a guy that doesn't pay them any attention. If she's one of those types that is used to the compliments, stares, and endless possible dates, the one guy that doesn't show her that will peak her interest. This is only sometimes. However, if she knows you like her, and there is potential there, believe me, she will start wondering about your intentions if you slip into the conversation that you may like this other girl, or you're going out with someone for a date. Even if it's a white lie, or in reality, go out with someone else. Most of the time, it's the girl opening her eyes to see that she really doesn't like the guy that gave her all the attention to be dating and hooking up with other women. This may make her step up to the plate and realize her feelings for you. Believe me, unless she is in a serious relationship, she will keep her options open. I know this from much experience-- I liked a guy sooooo much, and during the entire time, I was wondering a) how I could get his attention because he didn't really seem to notice me all that much, which i do get noticed a lot, and b) who else was another prospect. So keep your options open as well, and it may just work in your favor. Link to post Share on other sites
818clown Posted October 7, 2005 Share Posted October 7, 2005 try asking her how she feels and stuff, and she'll eventually be confident enough to tell you anything then she'll relize that you listen to her and that you understand her, and she will and i repeat she will start having some sort of feeling towards you Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 7, 2005 Share Posted October 7, 2005 16th October 2003, 6:31 PM Thread originated. I'm sure the poster Kevin isn't back to read 2 years after he posted. Link to post Share on other sites
eagan32 Posted October 8, 2005 Share Posted October 8, 2005 what u want to do is tell her if she likes u or not. tell her on the phone oor somewhere in private I did it and i got her all u need to do is try to get her Link to post Share on other sites
blue16 Posted October 10, 2005 Share Posted October 10, 2005 Thread originated. I'm sure the poster Kevin isn't back to read 2 years after he posted. You never know! Watch, he'll come running back and reply to this thread to prove you wrong... Link to post Share on other sites
HITCH Posted October 12, 2005 Share Posted October 12, 2005 i like this girl and shes really hot okay..now im 12 and it worked for me. girls can be really weird sometimes. they will talk to you and try and spark something up. then the next day she completely ignores you. its weird but this is what i did: you go up to them and say hows it going? she`ll answer then you show her that you have her undivided attention,make eye contact with her. then sit down and talk about something. she will get kind of scared but you show her that you are not then she will settle down. then after a while make joke or something. then on the days that she ignores you do the same then she will start to have feelings or you. but theres a couple things you need to know what NOT to do... 1) dont act all retarted and that just act cool. 2) dont change the subject only when she looks bored you do that and 3) always smile..dont sit there with a mad face talking about your math teacher. so there you go...how to win a girl!!!!!!!!!1 Link to post Share on other sites
sirchoconuggs Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 If u want to get a girl u just have to be who u r. dont try to be the class clown or the popular guy or the tuff guy. that **** nvr works. also dont become to good of friends wit the girl bc once u ask her out she will say that she doesnt want to ruin ur friendship. this is true that girls dont, but if they say this and u rnt that good of friends u then know its bull****. i know this bc i live wit 5 women so i make friends wit girls really quick and it is easy for me to do so. i have been in the situation where i have liked a girl and she said that we were to good of friends and when this is true and the girl decides to go out wit me it ends up failing completely. so become friends wit them, but not to good of friends. also girls hate it when u talk about ur dick or videogames or **** like that. they dont care. u have to be able to talk about something that is interesting to them. also dont talk about school to them they already get that from their parents. o and for those of u who do get a date NEVER and i mean NEVER kiss her until the 3rd DATE unless she makes a motion at u otherwise NEVER. Link to post Share on other sites
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