mark982 Posted April 19, 2009 Share Posted April 19, 2009 if my ex tried to get back with me, there would be a damn good chance i'd be facing a life sentence:mad:, went through her crap once,aint no way,mentally or physically i could do that again and not go charlie manson on her. Link to post Share on other sites
Ingenue Posted April 19, 2009 Share Posted April 19, 2009 I think it depends on the circumstances of the break up and the reason the dumper broke off the relationship. If it was for space or finding oneself or circumstances that weren't optimal for a relationship, there's more of a chance that a reconciliation can occur, providing that the dumpee holds no ill will towards the dumper. I absolutely agree with D-Lish that you can tell a lot of the person by the way he/she dumps you. In the case of my ex, if the opportunity ever came to reconcile, I'd never take it. He dumped me by email after 5 years together and later I found out that there had been emotional (and possible physical) cheating. Once a cheater, always a cheater and even if he never cheats in future relationships, the damage is irreparable for any relationship of trust with me. That for me, can never be rebuilt, nor would I want it to. Why would I want a man who is so selfish and has so little regard for anyone but himself. He actually contacted me about 1.5 months ago on a fishing expedition. He had the temerity to complain to me about his current relationship (ie the woman he cheated on me with). He was lamenting that he missed me, that he missed the good times with me and that he still thought of me and that in times when he was depressed, he thought of me. He wanted to know whether any of the current men I'm dating had long term potential. Fishing. I didn't bite. Ultimately though, it comes down to the person and what he/she wants. If reconciling makes you happy, then you should do it knowing full well what consequences can arise. I just don't believe compromising your dignity, self-worth and self-respect are worth any ex. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jessicasilver Posted April 19, 2009 Author Share Posted April 19, 2009 he treated me really good while we were in the relationship, like a princess brought me everything i wanted and spoiled me but he just never trusted me i would have never cheated on him i loved him so much!! we argued about the most silliest things but each time we made up it only made us stronger i know he loved me too but his family got involved during the break up, he acted as if he never had feelings for me really hurt! i still love him greatly 2 months on but im starting to think maybe the break up was for the best Link to post Share on other sites
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