I don't feel like living anymore

[UCLAMike]

we're on the same boat. abandonment sucks and you deserve better. know this. you deserve better! I know you will pull through this. Do it!

[marlena]

Marlena, no one has ever put so much energy and time into helping me become ME and get rid of all the bad stuff. You're like my sister or mother #2 or my other self.

 

RP, there is a reason for this. You remind me of myself in many ways. Perhaps this is why you recognize a part of me in you. Your story moved me because it hit so close to home. And because I simply like you. So, I will always be here watching over you like a clucking mother hen or a guardian angel.

 

You are getting stronger though there may be times when you don't feel that you are. This is the thing about strength. It is a quiet, gathering force, a constant underlying presence in all of us. It unobtrusively and patiently waits on the sidelines knowing just when to step in and sweep you up in its powerful arms like a parent would a child who is about to fall and hurt itself when it is making its first tentative steps. Soon you will be standing on your own two feet and walking away from all that is tormenting your spirit right now.

 

Still waiting for Lone Wolf!!

[lostsoulmate]

RP-

 

Hang in there! I know you know that you can do it!!!

You do deserve the best in life, as do your children!!!

You do deserve better than he gave!!!

 

You deserve to have you back!!!!

 

Peace, hope and brightness to you!!

 

I PM'd you again today.

[RecordProducer]

RP, I can't tell you how pleased I am for you that you have found some information to help you let go of a severely flawed man and a marriage that must have been impossible to maintain!

 

I can see you take your marriage vows seriously and did everything you could to try to make your marriage work.

But, sadly you could not. The next best thing is to walk away from him and start a new life without looking back.

Now I know it.

 

As for your thoughts about trying to find help for him -- sadly you cannot... a narcissist is not unhappy enough to want to change. He only leaves a wake of destruction behind him as he moves on to his next source of narcissistic supply.

Yes, I was thinking today about what my fafther said long time ago: "You need to talk to a psychiatrist and ask him to decipher his profile." I went through so much self-doubt and I could've known all along what the deal was. People told me all the time he was sick, jerk,etc... but no one ever attached any concrete medical label onto his profile. I have no doubt in my mind that he is a narcissist. On the other hand, through self-doubt I learned my own mistakes and flaws, which is good for me.

 

I can only caution you to be very careful next time to NOT be taken in by a Charmer (this is my weakness too, and I have a N husband as well).

My heart sank when I read that you're suffering too. Then I thought "Hey, I feel so sorry for you, but didn't feel sorry for myself, as in shut up and be happy he threw you out of hell, not out of heaven?"

How do you deal with him? Do you plan to leave him someday?

Learn what you can to never repeat that mistake of man again.

Personally, I think that the way to avoid the same choice in man is to take a new relationship really slowly... as much as a N. man will try rush the romantic side of the relationship, you must try to slow it down... TIME will expose them...their real character leaches out with time.

I don't want to waste my time jus to find out that someone was a waste of time. There must be a better way. Like talk to his exes?

Best of luck to you in regaining your sense of normality and self-dignity after being subjected to a cruel man.

I like how you put that!

 

You are getting stronger though there may be times when you don't feel that you are. This is the thing about strength. It is a quiet, gathering force, a constant underlying presence in all of us. It unobtrusively and patiently waits on the sidelines knowing just when to step in and sweep you up in its powerful arms like a parent would a child who is about to fall and hurt itself when it is making its first tentative steps. Soon you will be standing on your own two feet and walking away from all that is tormenting your spirit right now.

What a beautiful thought.

 

RPYou deserve to have you back!!!!

I actually never deviated from ME much and that's why our marriage didn't succeed - according to him. When I did it was only temporarily, with lots of resistence and often mere faking (e.g. I promise myself not to get upset when he does/says something and I stick to it for like one day).