why do those EXS you once loved come back when you couldnt care less????

[jessicasilver]

you tell them you want them back infact beg them lose all the pride you built but yet they refuse then several months pass and you gradually heal and move on and then the feelings go (only the memories remain) and who texts/calls/emails u.....DAT EX YOU ONCE LOVED!! why do u think they always come back when its too late S:

[hopesndreams]

I think they will do that because you are the back-up plan when things don't go as they want. Do not let him back in your life under any circumstances, you have moved on...be proud of that and tell him where to go.

[RainyNight]

I wish my ex would do it .

There are millions of people out there praying day and night to get their ex's back .

 

Anyway , why do I think they come back ?

May be they realize finally the true value of their ex's presence in their lives .

[jessicasilver]

awww ur better off without your ex... it just complicates the whole situation, do u ignore the months of pain and torture that they put u through and forgive them or do you use the time you spent healing and making yourself strong again and tell them to get gone??!?

[hopesndreams]

May be they realize finally the true value of their ex's presence in their lives .

 

If that were the case wouldn't that be wonderful? Too bad they take forever to to decide this after putting you through agony without any thought for your well-being while they are off living their lives, eh?

[jessicasilver]

yeh i agree with that, they have their fun and then decide they couldnt find anyone better and then they remember you... but thats when your with someone else or just over them completely

[Cora]

I believe they only come back when it's convenient for them or when their current relationships aren't going so well, or when they have just ended. At least that was the case with my ex. I was always apparently "the back up girl" who was too blinded at the time to see it. He dumped me once for another girl....months later begged me to give him another chance then dumped me again for the same damn girl which is now his fiance. So it was my own fault for being dumped twice because I should of seen it coming. It's like that saying fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. Well shame on me because I got fooled twice.

 

Shortly after I got dumped the second time there were actually moments when I wished, hoped, prayed he would come back out of desperation.....stupid I know after everything he put me through. But now I can honestly say I hope I never ever hear from him again! I realize that I am so much better without him. He would only do the same thing over and over again. I'm tired of being a doormat and a back up girl. I have learned that I deserve much better. You deserve better too! Don't ever take an ex back because most of the time they will only continue to hurt you.

[You'reasian]

I've never done this and none of my ex-es have ever contacted me about this.

 

However, I have spoken with ex-es a few times in the past and it was actually nice and refreshing to hear from them, how they were doing and it was just an overall positive experience.

[Chrome Barracuda]

Yeah i was in the same situation it sucked, when she came back i just was basically smashing out anything in sight and wasnt the same guy she knew.

 

I didnt have the same feelings and she killed them for me before hand. I knew it wouldnt work. It took 2 years for her to even try contacting me when we stopped talking and I was not interested which amazed me. Because the amount of love I had for this woman surprised me.

[Trialbyfire]

jessica, they all come back, sooner or later. Whatever their reasons, doesn't matter, especially when you've honestly moved on. If you have moved on and still like them as people, there's no reason not to be friends with them, if that's what you both want. If you're not like this or want this, then a civilized "good bye" is the cleanest cut of all.

[vessv6l]

Maybe they have grown and realised that you were a great partner?

Not every ex comes back trying to reignite things when they have no one else, but in that instance you would tell them to keep walking. But if you both meet again and want to try things later on why not. Not all relationships where ex's get back together are doomed to fail. People grow and change and sometimes couples need time apart to readjust to who they are. A break in a relationship doesnt necessarily mean that the problems that led to it were insurmountable and always will come back to haunt the people involved. Perhaps im a romantic but i like the idea of love then lost only to return stronger then ever. Ive witnessed it happen to my best mate so i know it does happen, just not all the time. I think state of mind dictates how a relation will progress, so if you enter into one again contantly thinking of how things went wrong and worrying that it will happen again you wont be happy and your concerns will manifest in your behaviour towards each other. Forgiveness and trust need to be established early if there is any chance for it to work, but love conquers all right? How it ended is important in establishing trust again, if you were cheated on it will be an issue. If it was just a seperate for time apart things will be easier if you can forgive the person for hurting you. Im no expert by a long stretch this is just what i think

[Chrome Barracuda]

Maybe they have grown and realised that you were a great partner?

Not every ex comes back trying to reignite things when they have no one else, but in that instance you would tell them to keep walking. But if you both meet again and want to try things later on why not. Not all relationships where ex's get back together are doomed to fail. People grow and change and sometimes couples need time apart to readjust to who they are. A break in a relationship doesnt necessarily mean that the problems that led to it were insurmountable and always will come back to haunt the people involved. Perhaps im a romantic but i like the idea of love then lost only to return stronger then ever. Ive witnessed it happen to my best mate so i know it does happen, just not all the time. I think state of mind dictates how a relation will progress, so if you enter into one again contantly thinking of how things went wrong and worrying that it will happen again you wont be happy and your concerns will manifest in your behaviour towards each other. Forgiveness and trust need to be established early if there is any chance for it to work, but love conquers all right? How it ended is important in establishing trust again, if you were cheated on it will be an issue. If it was just a seperate for time apart things will be easier if you can forgive the person for hurting you. Im no expert by a long stretch this is just what i think

 

Yeah and I snort pixie dust up my nose for the colors!

 

Please you know what really happens is man meets woman, woman is a skank that will sleep with every baller, playa and hustler out there on the streets. She likes to get smashed out by brolick diesel dudes at the clubs, because all her little girlfriends think it's all so cool. She's dating a drug dealer it's so cool. Meanwhile mr nice guy is put into the friends zone.

 

Anytime she breaks up with a jerk who does she call? Everytime she get's her eye bust open who does she call? Everytime she's thrown out of the car on the grand central expressway because she wouldnt give the homie head who does she call?

 

The nice guy. And the nice guy constantly obligies because he's so blinded by her beauty and when the girl is worn out and her looks start to fade and she's alone with kids who does she then turn her attentions to?

 

Oh your so nice, or I see you in a different light, I feel something inside for you I've never felt before.

 

All that talk is called : running game.

 

Bottom line women just like getting treated like trash and emotionally use the good guys utilizing him as a fall back plan when mr cool doesnt work out.

 

That's it.

 

I could be wrong...

[Chrome Barracuda]

Maybe they have grown and realised that you were a great partner?

Not every ex comes back trying to reignite things when they have no one else, but in that instance you would tell them to keep walking. But if you both meet again and want to try things later on why not. Not all relationships where ex's get back together are doomed to fail. People grow and change and sometimes couples need time apart to readjust to who they are. A break in a relationship doesnt necessarily mean that the problems that led to it were insurmountable and always will come back to haunt the people involved. Perhaps im a romantic but i like the idea of love then lost only to return stronger then ever. Ive witnessed it happen to my best mate so i know it does happen, just not all the time. I think state of mind dictates how a relation will progress, so if you enter into one again contantly thinking of how things went wrong and worrying that it will happen again you wont be happy and your concerns will manifest in your behaviour towards each other. Forgiveness and trust need to be established early if there is any chance for it to work, but love conquers all right? How it ended is important in establishing trust again, if you were cheated on it will be an issue. If it was just a seperate for time apart things will be easier if you can forgive the person for hurting you. Im no expert by a long stretch this is just what i think

 

Yeah and I snort pixie dust up my nose for the colors!

 

Please you know what really happens is man meets woman, woman is a skank that will sleep with every baller, playa and hustler out there on the streets. She likes to get smashed out by brolick diesel dudes at the clubs, because all her little girlfriends think it's all so cool. She's dating a drug dealer it's so cool. Meanwhile mr nice guy is put into the friends zone.

 

Anytime she breaks up with a jerk who does she call? Everytime she get's her eye bust open who does she call? Everytime she's thrown out of the car on the grand central expressway because she wouldnt give the homie head who does she call?

 

The nice guy. And the nice guy constantly obligies because he's so blinded by her beauty and when the girl is worn out and her looks start to fade and she's alone with kids who does she then turn her attentions to?

 

Oh your so nice, or I see you in a different light, I feel something inside for you I've never felt before.

 

All that talk is called : running game.

 

Bottom line women just like getting treated like trash and emotionally use the good guys utilizing him as a fall back plan when mr cool doesnt work out.

 

That's it.

 

I could be wrong...

[vessv6l]

Im going to take a stab in the dark and say your speaking from experience and you were the nice guy? Sorry to hear man but your doing yourself a disfavour if you catergorize every breathing woman as having those traits you have detailed above. If you look for it enough, you will see it in them if its there or not. I could also be wrong though...

[Chrome Barracuda]

Im going to take a stab in the dark and say your speaking from experience and you were the nice guy? Sorry to hear man but your doing yourself a disfavour if you catergorize every breathing woman as having those traits you have detailed above. If you look for it enough, you will see it in them if its there or not. I could also be wrong though...

 

LOL did I say all women we're like that?

 

Some maybe but not all. And I was not the only nice guy. I have a load of friends who can attest to having similar stories. So it's not uncommon and it's not unreal it does happen.

[vessv6l]

you didnt say all, but you didnt say some either

"Bottom line women just like getting treated like trash and emotionally use the good guys utilizing him as a fall back plan when mr cool doesnt work out."

 

Yea mate i know it happens my bro has gone through a few like that

[Chrome Barracuda]

you didnt say all, but you didnt say some either

"Bottom line women just like getting treated like trash and emotionally use the good guys utilizing him as a fall back plan when mr cool doesnt work out."

 

Yea mate i know it happens my bro has gone through a few like that

 

...it's all semantics.

 

And your bro could definitely understand where im coming from. What happened to him?

[delajoonal]

Bottom line women just like getting treated like trash and emotionally use the good guys utilizing him as a fall back plan when mr cool doesnt work out.

 

That's it.

 

I could be wrong...

 

chrome....you are not wrong...basically on some level, yes, all women are like this...i never did the extreme stuff you listed...but i did marry my

mr. nice guy...only after a life time of 'bad boys' and helacious relationships...so maybe, it is true, to an extent for all us women, who finally give up at some point on the bad boys, and marry the nice guy...?

cause there is ALWAYS one waiting right there to take care of us...always. i don't mean that in a bad way, i am very grateful for the life my husband has given me...until HE cheated...end story.

[vessv6l]

...it's all semantics.

 

And your bro could definitely understand where im coming from. What happened to him?

 

When he was younger he was with this girl for a couple of years then she just ****ed him off for no apparent reason and totally ignored him.

After a while got hooked up with this other girl, turns out she was a ****en nutcase. Manipulative and a compulsive liar. Had an abusive relationship before my bro and kept speaking with that guy while she was with my brother. Ended up she went back to him after all kinds of **** went down.

 

Ive seen my mate go through this as well, was with this girl for a while. She was completely cooked, fooled him and all of us his mates. Ended really badly and she kept trying to be friends with me afterward as well.

 

So yeah some ****ed women and men out there

 

Ive had a pretty good run in comparison. Stayed with my latest ex for 3 years only recently ended. Wasnt a bad ending as such, still ****en hurt though. But not as jaded by women as other people certainly

[jessicasilver]

well with me i was with a bad guy for 2 years, he treated me so bad and i got sick of it, i just wanted a Mr. nice guy n that was my ex.. he treated me so well, until the break up, he became a stranger with no feelings as if every kiss hug and i love you was just a lie!!! apart of me wants to give up now, didnt work out with the bad guy or nice guy so what have a got left??? the funny guy :S

[Bleeve]

because people want what they can't have

 

The whole time we want them, they know they can have us,

As soon as we move on, they want to get what they can no longer have.

 

I can't diss on them too much.

I am similar in that I push women away until they no longer care then I suddenly want them - so I have been no better

 

but I am trying to change from now on