Sun_Element Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 Well, my story starts a couple of years ago when I decided to start a long-distance relationship. We live both in european countries which are some kind of four hours apart with a plane. The thing is, the relationship broke some months ago. But i believe none of us has stopped loving eachother in this time. Having patience became too difficult and for him it seemed easier to wait until the next meeting. On the other hand, when he left I was a complete mess during all the time we had to wait. Somehow I couldnt concentrate in my own life and I just missed him and spent a lot of time crying. In the years i was together with my ex, I completely lost my own life and my friends because I always put him in first place. During this time while we are broke up i have met new people and between those new people there is a friend who recetly fell in love with me... I enjoy his company, but I dont love him. Since the breaking up my ex has been putting a lot more attention to me and tries to get me back. I think that i still love him but im not 100% sure.. We plan a meeting for may for talking and figuring out what is left of us two.. But right now I'm SO confused... I dont know if it would be good for me to turn back into the distance relationship... cause I know that it made me happy...(the time we were together) but in the same time very unhappy when I had to wait him.. At the same time, the life I have had during those months has been so much different than the one I had before.. i made a new circle of great friends and I enjoy this new life a lot. Anyways sometimes I feel empty cause I feel that there is no real love in my life. I keep on thinking back and I'm afraid that maybe my ex was the loe of my life... I'm also afraid of hurting my new friend because, even if i told him I dont want nothing serious with him, he doesn't want to listen to me... Well I would be VERY thankful if you could give me any kind of advice... Sun Element. Link to post Share on other sites
LonelyTiger Posted April 21, 2009 Share Posted April 21, 2009 Your story is very confusing Sun Element, which could be why you have received no replies. The best advice I can give, if you still have feelings for your ex, would be to arrange to see him in May and have a really good talk to him about how you're feeling. If you do still love him then it seems that you will have to go back to the 'waiting' process, which I know is very difficult but is unfortunately something you just have to deal with in a LDR. If you have recently made new friends and are enjoying your life a lot now, then surely you can continue to do that while you are waiting for the times when you can see your boyfriend. It sounds as though you are much happier with yourself and your own life now (if I've understood your post correctly?) so the waiting may seem a little easier? Ultimately, you will need to decide if you have a future with this man because LDRs don't work unless there is a shared goal and an end in sight - however far ahead that may be. Regarding the other 'friend'. If you not interested in him romantically you really need to make that absolutely clear to him as soon as possible. The longer you stay 'friends' with him the more likely he is to be hurt. I'm not sure if that answers your question but I hope it helps in some way and I wish you the best of luck whatever you choose to do. Link to post Share on other sites
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