Why Should I Trust Him?

[slipknot]

This is my bf thread:

how do i get her to trust me again?

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About 6 months ago i started flirting with another girl but i never meant or wanted it to go anywhere(which it didnt) i guess i was just after the attention because i fealt like she had stopped giving it to me, i came out into the open about this with her after lying to her and we eventually both agreed to put into the past, then about a month ago i got signed up to one this sex finding things which i honestly did not sign up for as far as im aware its a third party marketing thing. however she found this har to believe but gave me the benefit of the doubt and then we tried to work through it.

recently (about a week ago) i added a girl on myspace who i believe i used to speak to but not sure, i mean she hasn't even accepted yet, but obv with everything thats happened she doesn't believe that i didnt mean anything by it, and she is finding extremely hard and no matter how many times i tell her she thinks i am lying to trust me.

now i love this girl more than anything i really do.

but atm she is:

not answering her phone

trying to talk to me as little as possible

but yet she will talk to me over msn

says she thinks im out just to chat up over women

going out this weekend to a club now we both agreed y'day that we would meet up and go together to try and sort things but today she has been telling me just to go round my mates or stop in and think(will explain in a min)im just really worried there is another reason she doesnt want me there if you know what i mean

 

now with the thinking thing she told me y'day that i have got to sit and think long and hard weather i want just her or other people, but when i told her my answer today(just her) she didnt belive me and wants me to do some more thinking

but tbh the more thinking i do the more upset i get, i havent eaten proply in two days or had more than 2 hours sleep each night.

i love this girl more than anything in the world i just want her to see that she can trust me

any ideas on any of this, sorry about the long windedness

thanks,

 

The Truth which is my reply to the whole thing:

We both agreed to working things out. But then i went on his pc and checked his history on msn. What do i find.....

him and his ex had been flirting and being on webcam to eachother, stripping and then arranging to meet up a week after if me and him hadnt work things out, that him and his ex would **** eachother.

So after the first time, he ****s and lies behind my back, which even he promised on the relationship he was telling the "truth". The truth to him being, she was a girl from bham he knew, that he some how got the number again, and was talking to her again. Now i txted the bitch, and got the truth. He met her on a flirting website and gave her his number and they had been txting eachother. Then "appartenly" she randomly sends a pic of her tits to him. Now i dnt kno wht he has sent, cus there was only a email sent saying "hope you enjoy , which had a picture attachment, which i cant see due to it being deleted. After finding all the truth from her, and asking him about it, he admitted to it, yet i dnt think he has told me the whole truth. He had seemed to be really sorry about it and said he would never do it again. So we went and worked it out and just put it behind us, but obviosuly, it wasnt enough **** to give to me, he went to his ****ing ex gf to **** behing my back!

Now the whole thing with the signing up to the sex website. i was on his email and was sending him emails, acting as the sex website, doing a "questionaire" about why he signed up. Which he was replying saying he finds the women pretty. Then i asked if he was in a relationship and what intentions he wanted off these kind of website....which he didnt reply. Then i told him about it, when i lied saying "the sex website emailed me saying if i want to join the same website"...

 

Now i have real trust issue which i know about, but so did he, and he said before we went out, that he'd never break a promise, never lie and never cheat, which i actually believe and it was the one thing that made him different to everyone else. But now his done every single one!

I honestly dont kno wht to do anymore, im a woman in pain and heartache. Do i stay with him and hope he wont hurt me again, or do i leave him and hope i met a man who will treat and love me right?

[slipknot]

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[Davey McG]

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