wilson09 Posted April 21, 2009 Share Posted April 21, 2009 When I first got to college I was a late-bloomer and the kind of guy that really didn't get out much because I had no idea how to talk to girls, and I didn't have any friends when I got to college. After my freshman year I started to change, and finally towards the end of that year I was the complete opposite of what I was when I came to college. I was able to talk to any girl that I wanted, and 95% of the time it usually went somewhere. Flirting is how I broke out of my shell. Now it is my senior year and I have a serious girlfriend. I have noticed that I can't stop the flirting aspect of myself. I want to stop because it gets me into trouble and situations that I don't want to be in, and it makes her upset sometimes. I don't know how else to talk to people because flirting was what broke my shell and I tend to cling to the things that work. My girlfriend is studying abroad this semester and doesn't get back for another 6 or 7 weeks. School for me ends in three weeks. I have done some stupid **** these past few weekends, mainly because I was drunk, but I have never cheated on her. Just came close a few times and then realized what was happening and got the hell out of there. For the past week I have been basically locking myself in my room aside from going to class, meetings, and work. At this point in time it seems like the best option. Does anyone have some advice on how I can just talk normally to people instead of always flirting and making sexual comments? Link to post Share on other sites
samspade Posted April 22, 2009 Share Posted April 22, 2009 Your girlfriend is studying abroad and you're worried about a little flirtation at home? Link to post Share on other sites
Author wilson09 Posted April 22, 2009 Author Share Posted April 22, 2009 It's the fact that I can't hold a normal conversation with anyone without bringing some kind of sexual connotation into every other sentence. I don't know how to stop myself from doing it, and I don't know what else to talk about in place of it. Her parents and sister went to visit her, and she said that the only thing her sister said about me was that I was a pervert. That's a little disappointing when all someone can relate to you is the fact that you are a pervert. Link to post Share on other sites
colosseum Posted April 22, 2009 Share Posted April 22, 2009 Have you ever talked to professors, bosses, colleagues, guy friends, co-workers, etc? I doubt you flirt with your professors, do you? Maybe you do. I bet you don't though. Correct me if I'm wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted April 22, 2009 Share Posted April 22, 2009 maybe you shouldn't be in a committed relationship for a LONG while until you mature. Link to post Share on other sites
happy_go_lucky Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 I'm in a similar situation.. I've been in a relationship for a while now and I would never even think about cheating but I love to flirt. When I go out to a party I try to watch what I say as to not give the other person the wrong idea, especially since I have a boyfriend. There's nothing wrong with being extroverted and outgoing, but if it comes to the point where you notice yourself being a little "too close" to them, remember how much you care about your significant other and back off. Imagine how you would want them to react in the same situation. If I am in a situation where I know it would make my bf uncomfortable, I act as if he were in the room and he does the same for me which gives us both security that we know the other is trustworthy. Hope this helps a little bit Link to post Share on other sites
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