How can I not want to see my bf!

[Azn117]

It's a been quite a while and I'm finally going to see my bf in ~2weeks for a couple of months. Super huh.

 

Except all I can think about now is how awful it'll be when I have to leave!!! The last time he left, I was a complete wreck and it took me a fair while to get over it (read: months), pull myself together and resume normal function. Hence right now, I'm terrified that leaving him this time will be worse than the last and this fear is overwhelming my excitement about going there. I'm so concerned that I'm even wondering if Not going would be better than going! Very irrational, I know, but because it's taken rather long to achieve this sense of stability I have right now in my LDR I'm terrified of shaking it up! Does this make sense? Any advice?

[Bearandsue]

I am feeling the same way. I am seeing my fiance next month and I keep thinking about him leaving again.

 

The only advice I can give is to give yourself a mental kick each time you think something negative. Just focus on the positive. Make plans for things to do when he is here. Worry about the leaving part when the time comes.

 

It dont get easier just more bearable.

[LonelyTiger]

It is hard not to focus on the separation when you only have a short time together but don't let it spoil your reunion.

 

My husband was home for 7 days recently and I had to be physically touching him every second I could - I was so aware of the limit to our time together and I didn't want to waste a second.

 

Fortunately, he had no objection

 

I don't know what's the best way to deal with the separation - I haven't really mastered that myself yet - takes me a very long time to get used to being without him again.

 

Just make the most of him while you're with him. Let him know how you feel and that you need extra support in the time following your visits.

 

Keep busy when he's away and focus on the next time you'll be together.

[Island Girl]

I understand.

 

I still not have recovered completely from our last good bye and it has been quite a long time.

My heart is not my own.

It is still there with him and I am very aware of it every day.

 

But given the chance to see him again, although there would be a very painful good bye, would be worth it because it would just go back to the way it is now.

 

And in the meantime, for those days we were together, I could live as I remember living. Whole and complete and HAPPY.

 

Try to focus on what that time together means.

 

Looking into his eyes as you speak with him.

 

Reaching out and touching him whenever you want.

 

Feeling his hands reach for you and embrace you.

 

Ultimately having those things from THIS wonderful person is the only reason we hang on as we do, right?

[LonelyTiger]

Well, I'm clearly still in a highly emotional state 'cos you've just made me cry IG - so beautifully put.

[Lovin a scrapper]

I understand.

 

I still not have recovered completely from our last good bye and it has been quite a long time.

My heart is not my own.

It is still there with him and I am very aware of it every day.

 

But given the chance to see him again, although there would be a very painful good bye, would be worth it because it would just go back to the way it is now.

 

And in the meantime, for those days we were together, I could live as I remember living. Whole and complete and HAPPY.

 

Try to focus on what that time together means.

 

Looking into his eyes as you speak with him.

 

Reaching out and touching him whenever you want.

 

Feeling his hands reach for you and embrace you.

 

Ultimately having those things from THIS wonderful person is the only reason we hang on as we do, right?

 

 

 

No way that I could put it any better Island Girl!!