raiderangel22 Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 I'm relatively new to this but today after a argument with my husband of 3 years (6 together) i felt the need to let some of my frustration out. He was in the military for almost four years and was deployed almost two on two different occasions. he's a veteran now and was diagnosed with mild schizophrenia as a result of the deployment in afghanistan. Hes supposed to take medication for it and for about 2 weeks now is refusing to take them. Now hes moody and aggressive. every little thing i say sets him off. he's unemployed and we are seeing too much of each other lately. i cant stand living with him anymore. its a nightmare, he constantly complains about everything and does nothing. he doesnt help with any chores and definately doesnt help with our 18 mth old son. i dont know what else to do he doesnt care what i have to say, ignores me all the time and our son., just watches tv all damn day. today we argued yet again and he tells me that he wants me out of his life. he never acted like this when he was taking his meds. im trying to work things out but there is no reasoning with him, he seriously doesn't give a crap. i wanna get marriage counseling but how do i get him to go. Im tired of the fights and crying about the way he treats me and our son. it feels like to him we are lower than dirt. i hate this situation but i can't get over the fact tha t i love him. am i just a fool. Link to post Share on other sites
lostsunsets Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 No you are not a fool. You just love your husband, but you are tired of being verbally abused. Do you have family in the area? Or a friend you can stay with? Link to post Share on other sites
soserious1 Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 I'm not sure how old your husband is but there's not really any such thing as "mild schizophrenia" I'm going to guess he's fairly young, most likely had his 1st break overseas? For a lot of folks with the disorder meds will eliminate or greatly reduce symptoms like auditory hallucinations or paranoid thinking but unfortunately a lot of times the anti-psychotics won't touch symptoms like the tendency to isolate difficulty with activities of daily living or lack of motivation. Non-compliance with medication is very common within this population. You have a young child and a husband with a major mental illness that he is currently refusing to treat, you've indicated that he's moody and aggressive, you and your child might well be at risk if he continues down this path. I'd advise you to get in touch with your husband's treatment team, they can best advise you as to your options. Link to post Share on other sites
giotto Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 You have a young child and a husband with a major mental illness that he is currently refusing to treat, you've indicated that he's moody and aggressive, you and your child might well be at risk if he continues down this path. I'd advise you to get in touch with your husband's treatment team, they can best advise you as to your options. I agree, absolutely, Get in touch with his treatment team. He needs to take his meds first, then you can take it from there... Link to post Share on other sites
Author raiderangel22 Posted April 23, 2009 Author Share Posted April 23, 2009 Thanks for the advice, i really have to talk his doctors because our marriage is going down the drain fast. Soserious1 my husband is 24. Lostsunsets i do have family in the area but i feel embarrased of this situation and dont feel comfortable letting my family know all this. this is one of the reasons i posted it here because i need to tell some one. i'll fill you in as soon as i talk to his doctors. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 DO NOT BE EMBARASSED! Depression and other psychological disorders are chemical in nature, and there's a solution ... just have to be willing to find the right combo of meds. talk to his doctor about the effects of the schizophrenia on him, on y'alls marriage, on other interpersonal relationships, and let the doc know that he's refusing to take his pills. My husband suffers from depression related to pain from a screwed up back, and I can tell when he goes off his medicine because he's so not his usual easy-going self. Really, he's a bear to live with and becomes incredibly persecuted (everyone's out to get him) ... the key is to remind him how much better things are when he sticks to the meds/regimen and to encourage him to take them. meanwhile, wait for the "right" time to introduce marriage counseling in the relationship: If you move too soon, you won't accomplish what you hoped for because he's not really "himself" that you're dealing with. Go for individual counseling and bide your time until he's at a place where he's more receptive (and more himself) to talk about how to best help your marriage. good luck, and know that we're pulling for you ... Link to post Share on other sites
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